Toni, at least you've gone out there and tried it, so now you know what fits and what doesn't.
I can't tell you how many people stay stuck in the fantasy, without ever actually determining for themselves what works and what doesn't. And this can wreak havoc when they try to get into relationships with GGs, or when they are in relationships but stop enjoying sex with them because they're stuck in a fantasy.
Good on you for having the courage to go out there and try, and kudos to you for being honest about it! I have a feeling that when you do find that special girl in your life, with your honesty things will progress rather nicely.
