Hiya SJ,

Two things immediately (and painfully) come to my mind here…

“Loose lips sink ships”…
AND
“You don’t need to be a lawyer to be a good liar“.

Every human being could be described as being “deceitful, unpredictable and ill” at some point in their lifetime. Your case is further proof that lawyers know that “it is not what people do” that is important. It is “how you present what they do in court”, that matters!

Unfortunately, the legal system and the outcome of litigation has nothing to do with what is “fair” or “not fair”; or what many would perceive to be “justice". The outcome has everything to do with what you can or cannot prove, with documented evidence, in a court of law.

Legal matters are just one more strategic game we are sometimes forced to play in life. Unfortunately, judgements/orders can be life altering, depending upon the outcome for each party. But make no mistake in perception…it is still a “game“.

Games require strategy and when emotions and lawyers get involved, all of the stops come out . It is critical to keep both of those (emotions/lawyers) in check to end up with the best result (best interest of the children).

As you have already discovered, litigation/motions, etc. have a way of immediately revealing the true character of both parties involved. Your “wife” has proven that she is willing to abandon her “moral compass” in exchange for what she perceives to be a vindictive, self-serving, short-term “victory”. (no doubt under the direction of her attorney)

She has also made that decision at the expense of your children, by placing them in the middle of HER personal battle with YOU (by attempting to “alienate their father”).

You must now decide if you want to “take her bait”, by going “ballistic”, going to battle, fighting “dirty”, etc. Rest assured that is exactly what she (and her attorney) wants you to do! This will provide them with more “proof” to be used against you later…(that what she is accusing you of is “true”).
Sadly, it is a typical legal strategy employed at this point.

The success or failure of their strategy depends upon your response. One option is to refuse to ever “bad mouth” your wife to your kids… maintain consistent contact, support and love for your kids through the entire process, regardless of the outcome with your wife.

I can guarantee you that is the ONLY thing your kids will remember (and cherish) about you now, and in the future. It is called integrity and character…which all children recognize in a parent, regardless of their age. Get an attorney that knows how to make this happen.

Just my thoughts…from personal experience.:brolleyes:

Good Luck!