A month ago I underwent open heart surgery. One of the results was that the doctor took one of my mammary veins out to use for a bypass. After the surgery my HRT enhanced breasts would jiggle while riding in the car and hurt. I had to ride holding my breast to prevent the movement. My wife who is a DADT asked the doctor about the breast pain and the doctor suggested that if I could find a spots bra in my size that it would help. We went home and measured my chest to determine the size ( I already knew just had to pretend not to know) then it was off to shop. We found a couple of different styles that looked like they would work and my wife insisted that I also try a front close model as the over the head ones can be hard to get on if you are sweating. The next day she stated that I would need more than a two to be able to keep them clean. So it was off to the store to stock up.
So now here I sit with in my bra and panties. About two years ago I convinced my wife to allow me to wear cotton panties as they were cooler than men's and softer and more comfortable. I was already wearing men's nylon briefs so the cotton panties did not look much different. So now my baby boobs are supported and do not hurt when riding in the car and I do not have to hold them with my arms. We had an interesting moment the second day of me wearing a bra around her. As we were both getting ready for bed I started to undress and as I stood in just my white bra and black panties she said, you know you could have worn a matching bra and panty set like I do, it will look so much better. I told her thank you and that I would try it the day. The bras we bought are black, grey, and white which are also the colors of my panties. The next morning she reminded me to be sure to match my top and bottoms as she walked past the closet in her own matching underwear.
One other thing I have found is that there is great relief in removing your bra at the end of a long day. I have worn a bra daily for up to a week but after four weeks of constant everyday wear the bra is just another piece of clothing that you put on. It has been kinda of funny to have both my wife and I rubbing our breasts after removing our bras at the end of the day.
BTW I am not suggesting having open heart surgery as a way to get a non-accepting wife to allow you to wear one openly.
Hugs
Paulette