Who-I-am vs. What-I-like

[Pat]

I am certain that over the course of a day, there are few moments where daily activities, my thoughts or my behaviors are defined by gender as such. Isn't this true for everyone, TG or otherwise?

Could be true. But there are certain behaviors that any person can have in the moment but which are characteristic of particular genders when viewed from a distance. For example, I once read a post where someone was complaining that their Girl Time was being encroached upon -- Girl Time was a particular day between particular hours. My internal reaction was that that was a very male behavior -- scheduling, categorizing, partitioning and following up with inflexible expectations. Again, any person male, female or other might do that, but the behavior is very male to me. To me, taking a social situation and trying to analyze it by breaking it into component bits and organizing those bits then searching for A Solution is a very male thing. To me, it's more female to encounter something, try to absorb the gestalt and then try to understand and then accommodate rather than "solve." Both approaches have their benefits and as a person "in the middle" I feel like I get to use them both, but I have to carefully self-evaluate when I encounter various situations to see if I'm using just one gender's skills.

To everyone, please don't misunderstand. I do accept that people experience fluctuating gender expression needs. My initial query was about what is meant by "this" (in "this is who I am"), when a non-TS is presenting as a female types it in a post. Does it mean the non-TS identifies fully (all the time) as the gender presented at that moment, even during male-mode? Or alternatively (while dressed with also a need to be and identify as male at other times or as other than female)? Or does this person always identify as a gender-fluctuating being?

That, to me, is an example of a male behavior being expressed by a female. The drive to nail down what "this" means seems very male to me. Clearly it really has nothing to do with being male, but it's a behavior more characteristic of males than females (again, in my opinion.) If I was doing the same thing, I'd have to take a moment to decide if I'm using the technique because it's required by the situation (it is) or because I'm blindly following the behaviors that were enforced when I was being taught to be a man.

BTW for me, "this" would mean my middlesex gender -- the "this" which is invariant, but changes presentation by whim or need. "This" is *not* the clothes or makeup. It's the creature working the controls of this body.