How do you get over somebody?

[halfman_halfamazing]

I'm a creep.

I can't get over someone. And.. I don't know if I want to..
She was my senior consumer math teacher in high school and I fell in love with her. Either I really am super cool enough to make friends like this with a teacher or maybe she likes me? No right?
As you might know I have asperger's and I was thinking maybe my signals could just be mixed. Also you may have noticed i'm a dunder-head. Completely obsessed with the office. Its my one thing I'm obsessed with because of Aspergers and I think she looks like my Jenna Fischer.. which may be a factor of why I'm crazy for her.
I've noticed what could have been flirting. We'd pretend we're lovers and we'd sit together and I'd tell everyone she had std's and she said she'd break up with me if i kept it up. Lol yeah.. there's way more to it than that. One time she bought me lunch, we'd play bumper cars with the chairs, i'd be annoying i mean what's more romantic than that?
I went to see her on Monday and she flipped out. Now she wants me to email her.
I am just... :thumbsdn::confused::facepalm::cry:

[WalT]

I know this is going to be terribly unsatisfying, but getting over someone is really something you can't force. It just happens, and when you try to get over someone, well, that just makes it worse because you're thinking and dwelling on them regardless. Instead of focusing on that person all the time and thus dwelling on her longer, try enjoying yourself. Honestly, as much as I hate crappy old cliches, time really does heal some wounds. Maybe not all, but it'll most likely heal yours.

[4serrus]

I usually reccomend ice cream but I'm not sure how helpful that'll be in this instance.

[halfman_halfamazing]

how long exactly? i've been trying for a year.. aint gettin nowhere.

[brylram]

i've been trying for a year.. aint gettin nowhere.

It usually takes a period of complete lack of contact, in my experience.

One thing that might help you get over it is the fact that if she DID try a relationship with you, it could damage her standing as a teacher. Even though you're not her student anymore it could be frowned on, and like it or not that could have a negative impact on her. To be honest, I'm surprised she got away with the kinds of jokes/interactions you've mentioned while she was teaching you. :P

[Ze]

I'm really confused, halfman. Aren't you engaged to somebody else? And the wedding plans are well underway?

What's going on here and how long has it been happening for? If you love the woman that you're marrying, then you should stop this immediately. It's not fair to her in any sense.

I agree with Logan that the way to handle this is to stay the hell away from her. No contact. At all. And if you can't do that, then you need to come clean to your fiancee. If you can't come clean, then you do not respect her enough to marry her.

You need to decide what and who you want. Like, now.

[halfman_halfamazing]

i want what i have.
so happy the sun shines out of my ass. thats why i'm confused.

[Joanne f]

There may be to ways to deal with this , first like brylram has said is a long period of no contact , this may work but it does not always deal with it long term as it all depends on whether it was infatuation or love.
The second way is to tell the person how you feel or felt about them , in this way you clear the air for your long term thoughts on it .
I know this does not sound like good advice seeing that i gather you are engaged to someone else but you need to deal with it so that you can move on without always thinking "i wish i had said" and believe me that can last for many years.