Crossdressing Goal

[linda allen]

What is your Crossdressing Goal?

We have members here who are satisfied wearing a pair of panties to bed and we have members who have had reassignment surgery and are living as females and we have everything in between.

Some of us are where we want to be, some haven't started, and some are part of the way towards their goal. So:

How far do you want to take your crossdressing and how far along are you?

I'll go first:

I don't want to be a woman or live as one. I don't want to be "out of the closet" to my friends or neighbors. I don't want to be "out of the closet" to my grown children or their children. I just don't want the hassle.

I am wearing bras and panties in public and I am wearing female clothing in my home around my wife. She gave me some and we have shopped together for the rest. I am not wearing forms, wig, female shoes, jewelry, or makeup. There are things I want to do with her at some point. I'm working on it.

So in a few words, my goal is to dress and act like a woman in my own home and around my wife and have her accept and enjoy this. My ultimate goal then would be to go with her to a town and hour or two away where nobody would recognize either of us and spend time in public with her as two women out sightseeing and shopping on the town.

[KARI AN]

Sounds like me, my wife helps me to pick out clothes buys me bras and panties. My goal is to live like I feel and go out as I should be, yes some times its difficult to complete but for the past few months it seems to be working, makeup, dressing and feeling like the woman I am.

[Julie1123]

My goal is a bit narcissistic I guess. I want to be able to look in the mirror and think, "Yeah. I would be attracted to her."

[Nichola]

I'm just a normal guy most of the time, but as a goal, I'd love to get out to just live a little as a girl & have a bit of fun:heehee:

[Cheryl T]

I don't really have a goal. A few years ago when I came out I did. I wanted to meet others and be able to go out. Now I've done that and we go out all the time.

As for where I'm headed, I don't really know. I don't give that much thought. I'm on a journey, so much is new and everything is interesting. I'm just going one step at a time and seeing where this path leads.

[Marlana]

My goal is to someday be able to fully put the whole package together, makeup, wig shoes, and really hot outfit. At sometime I would like to be able to go out with other "girls" and just be in public having a good time. I really don't want to come out to family and friends. My wife knows, but is not ok with it so, add that to the list. For now, I wear a bra and panties every night and morning until I can wear them all the time.

[Beverley Sims]

Linda I am similar to you except I have been away, overseas and partly lived the dream.
I am not interested in coming out at home but when away the mice can and do play.
I do underdress all the time and dress androgonously most of the time.
Not at work though.
I do not aspire to do much more except give support to those that want to transition.
We have some fun times together, me usually as a man outwardsly.

[Cynthia Anne]

My goal is to give up cding! But right now I can't! 'Cause I'm busy painting my finger nails so I can get dressed to go shopping!!!:D Hugs!

[Marleena]

I don't want to be "out of the closet" to my friends or neighbors. I don't want to be "out of the closet" to my grown children or their children. I just don't want the hassle.


Nice idea for a thread Linda.:) Agree with the above.

I don't really have any goals left. I just go with the flow. It's different for each of us. We all seem to end up in different places on the TG spectrum for the most part. I guess that's what makes us individuals.:)

[whowhatwhen]

My end goal is looking in the mirror and not seeing a man looking back, everything else, including the clothes while not unimportant take a huge back seat to facial appearance.
I do want to be able to go out eventually, as the only thing keeping me in male mode is quite literally fear.

That being said I'm still talking with my therapist to figure myself out and to help me deal with the stress of all those feelings I get.
As for how far I need to go, we'll see.

In theory I have nothing against going on HRT, but I have to make 100% sure it would be the right decision.
I've dealt with life-threatening side-effects before so that's nothing new, and at this point I'd consider less (or no) erections a bonus.

TL; DR:
I'm crazy.

[SerenityQueen]

I'm a crossdresser
Just dressing at the moment (no make up, nail polish, wig etc), but I'd like to dress in such a way that I present as a gurl. Even if I do not pass.

[Karren H]

I really never had any goals.... And if I had had goals...... I would have met or exceeded every single one already!!

Ok maybe having an artist create fem artwork based on Karren would be a goal... Wait... That happened last week! Lol.

[Jennifer W]

I have no actual "goal" except to be comfortable wearing whatever I choose to wear. Right now, I'm basically there.

[SallyS]

I guess I'm pretty lucky? I work/study at home, so I can be 'me' for quite a lot of the time.

My SO gives me plenty of space to do my thing, and for that I'm thankful:)

However I do want to get more involved with the whole CD'ing scene, and hope to meet (face-to-face) with other couples, at some point in the future.

My SO is too busy bringing up the kids, working full-time and keeping me out of trouble :heehee:

She just doesn't have the time to get too involved with my CD'ing side at the moment. So my 'goal' is to, someday, do things together as girlfriends!

My other goal is for all my children to know about the famale side to my personality, when the time is right:)

[Jacqueline Winona]

No real goals, but If I did have them they would be similar to yours, Linda. I don't have any desire to blend, pass, etc. I really don't have time to dress that much, and my desire to do so just hasn't been there all that often recently. Hoipefully I can continue doing what I do and being happy with it.

[Pamela Thomas]

I want to look in the mirror and see a woman, go in to the world and be recognized and treated as a lady. The best feeling you can have is being addressed as maam or a guy holding the door for you. I just love being a girl.

[UNDERDRESSER]

I want to try, a full dress up. What happens after that...? Depends on whether I get anything out of it I guess.

That and finding an SO that will at least accept it.

[cindybabe]

I am very much just a normal guy and have achieved my goals, that is have the wig, makeup, shoes,dresses,wearing the nightie to bed,going for runs in the country and the quiet walks along with my wife,and the girly nights at home all with my wifes support

Only thing is it doesn't happen as much as i would like lol:heehee:

[kimdl93]

I started out stating that I have no goals, but that's not entirely accurate. I have accomplished a number of things that weren't necessarily goals - such as dressing pretty much full time, going out in my community and meeting neighbors en femme, shopping, etc. And I'm out to several close family members and friends. This all happened without a plan, more or less on its own momentum.

So where might the momentum carry me? Hard to say. I hope that eventually my wife and I can travel together en femme. That will be a big step for her...but I have no timetable and make no demands.

[rachaelsloane]

I've far exceeded any goals I would have set, had I set them. I enjoy being able to go out for drinks and dinner with a friend in SF and interacting with the people we meet. I have had some of the most interesting conversations and these more than likely would not have happened had I been in guy mode.

[Tracii G]

As far as goals I would say I have had them in the past.
Doing my own make up,dressing up and going out in public I suppose were the main ones.
I have come farther that I ever thought I would.

[Princess Chantal]

My goal is to keep my passion for crossdressing somewhat like a controlled campfire that it is right now. Start when I want, enjoy every aspect of it and then put out when I want.

By the way could SRS really be recognized as a crossdressing goal?

[ronda]

i just lke to see where life takes me in drab or in a dress hope it will be in a dress or fem clothing let go as it will for now Hugs Ronda

[GinaMarie]

I don't have many goals but, I've set up some goals for crossdressing, however. They are:
- Grow out the hair. Last haircut: April. Side is about two centimeters from the bottom of my jaw. What it will look like by the end of July, well, it won't magically be down to my shoulders.
- Clean up the body hairs without letting everybody know why I don't have leg hair or other body hair, or why I shaved my beard (when it happens). Will I need an excuse?
- Have the rest of the family get an understanding of why I CD and the subject as a whole. For the love of God, the older brother & his GF must stop having insensitive beliefs of our kind. Tell them to put their money where their mouths are. They must agree not to tell their Facebook friends, or anyone personally. Bottom line: No one needs to know I CD.
- Manage to save some money for accessories and more clothes-- it's a lot to name right now. But it'll make all the difference. Remember to hide my gear!

Those are all the CD goals I have, but what can I say? I don't know what else; my mind has blanked out this morning.

[Stephanie47]

Right now I am fairly content with my cross dressing. As some others have stated, I do not want to 'come out' to family, friends or neighbors because of the hassles involved. I have absolutely no desire to be en femme at a typical event I enjoy, such as attended an annual plastic modeling event. My wife knows of my cross dressing. She never says anything about it. It would be nice if there was at least some discussion or acknowledgment that I cross dress. It's like Stephanie is 'shunned.' Decades ago she told me it was OK with her if I found a support group to attend. I tried to locate one in my area. At that time it was a total bust. I know now there is at least one group. Sometimes I wonder how it would be to interact with other cross dressers. For me there is no point to upsetting the peace and serenity cross dressing brings to me in private. Sometimes I just wonder about meetings others. Sometimes the anticipation exceeds the actual event.

[Nikki A.]

I've met most of my goals, been out with friends and by myself. My one goal is that I do a better job at dressing up.

[Jackiefl]

Karren if your looking for goals you should try playing hockey plenty of goals there. SACLMAO

[Lynn Marie]

Goals: More dresses and casual wear in my wardrobe. Better job on my makeup(still awaiting my first makeover). More adventures in Crossdressing.

[KlaireLarnia]

My only "Goal" as such is to have the freedom to choose what I wear when I want and not have society tell me that there are things I cannot wear as they are "for women only" when I have as much right to expression and choice as they do.

If I get that then everyone would accept me for who I am and let me be myself without question. Happy person I would then be...

[Foxglove]

I don't know. I'm not generally a goal-setter. I do what needs to be done as it comes up. But over the last few months I've come further than I ever dreamed I would. I've made myself fairly presentable, and that's quite an achievement, given what I've got to work with. So I'll see where it goes from here. Not quite sure right now.

Actually one fantasy I have, ever since I read about the possibility of manned (personned) missions to Mars, is of being the first trans-person on the Red Planet. But given my age and total lack of technological expertise, I think I'll have to leave that dream to somebody else. Unless Martians speak French. Then I might be useful.

Annabelle

[Barbara Ella]

Things have happened so rapidly to me over the last ten months that I really have had little time to think of goals. I have been too busy trying to figure out what it was that i just did, and why the hell would I ever to something like that! While the physical things have slowed, the mental hurdles are increasing. My goals pertain to not coming out to friends and family outside of my wife. I am still thinking on the makeover, and a transformation.

My first goal is always to be having fun with who I am. That takes a lot of work by itself.

Barbara

[Jaymees22]

Hi Linda, My goal is to improve at dressing and make up. i never realized how hard it is to put make up on. i feel I'm okay from the neck down. I hope practice makes perfect. i have gone out in the car, to a park and took a picture of myself, I thought that was an accompllishment. My next mission is to go out and get a cup of coffee in public, I think I better wait for colder weather so I can wear more clothes. I'm afraid my goals are a little silly, but my main goal is to have fun!!! Jaymee

[Ellen James]

I know that I have some things to learn yet before venturing out too far from the safety of the "nest" - where I am usually underdressing and also wearing jeans, capris, shorts, and tops. If I were to claim to have a goal it would be to acheive the confidence to feel that I have a choice whether I wish to appear in public in drab or en femme - depending upon the venue, activity, others present and/or participating - I guess that also means coming out of the closet to more people than I have to date.

[RebeccaLynne]

...I am wearing female clothing in my home around my wife. She gave me some and we have shopped together for the rest. I am not wearing forms, wig, female shoes, jewelry, or makeup. There are things I want to do with her at some point. I'm working on it.

Linda, stay resolute. She's apparently somewhat accepting, so go slowly and respect her comfort level.
I've CD'ed in my GF's presence, and although she's somewhat uncomfortable with my presentation in female clothing, she's taking it in stride. I don't need a wig, although I do wear breastforms, shapewear, makeup and jewelry.


So in a few words, my goal is to dress and act like a woman in my own home and around my wife and have her accept and enjoy this. My ultimate goal then would be to go with her to a town and hour or two away where nobody would recognize either of us and spend time in public with her as two women out sightseeing and shopping on the town.

Your level of achievement is higher than mine; I would like for my GF to relax and enjoy my female expression between "just the two of us"; no desire to interact with the general public.


My SO gives me plenty of space to do my thing, and for that I'm thankful:)... So my 'goal' is to, someday, do things together as girlfriends!

Sally, in my view, that's what completes a couple as "soulmates"... enjoying each other's company in an atmosphere of total love and acceptance.


My wife knows of my cross dressing. She never says anything about it. It would be nice if there was at least some discussion or acknowledgment that I cross dress. It's like Stephanie is 'shunned.'

Stephanie, I feel for you... that must be difficult. I told my GF a long time ago that if she absolutely rejected my CD'ing, she was free to look elsewhere for companionship; we've reached an understanding that enables us to spend time together as "girlfriends"...

That being said, Linda, I believe I've reached my goal... Touchdown... and spiking the ball for good measure! :)

[Wildaboutheels]

No goal and no agenda. I simply wear what is comfortable and practical for me. I have never felt the need to "do what everyone else does" even from age 5 or so.

To me thay are JUST clothes and nothing more. It may make me the "odd man out" at this Forum but I can certainly live with that.

[paulinescotlandcd]

I have only one goal left - getting my ears pierced, after that I feel I have done everthing within reason.

[msjenn]

I really haven't thought about any goals, I guess my goal would be to know how to do the complete package. That would be a long way off. I am the same where I am not interested in coming out to friends of family but some random stranger in another city would be fine. I am not ready to look for connections offline yet, still trying to figure me out before I can figure out the whole cd'ing thing.

[linda allen]

I probably should have chosen another word rather than "goal", but that's the word that came to me at the moment. I'm not thinking of a contest or level of achievment so much as just how far you want to take your dressing.

So thanks for the responses, it's like I expected, varied.

[Mistybtm]

Is to pass and be able to go out with confidents that no one will know it is me, To be asked out on A date by A man who is not just looking for sex (yeah right).

[patti1569]

All I want is to find some peace with it and be happy being me...

[Lainie]

Have had many goals (if only I could have ... pink lingerie ... a bra that fit ... a skirt ... go out ... spend a
weekend fully en femme ... dress at work ...). Did it all & more.
Now it's to emulate what I admire most about GGs: their friendliness, cheer, & joy in the company of others.

[BobbieBrooks]

I don't want to be a woman or live as one. I don't want to be "out of the closet" to my friends or neighbors. I don't want to be "out of the closet" to my grown children or their children. I just don't want the hassle.

I am wearing bras and panties in public and I am wearing female clothing in my home around my wife. She gave me some and we have shopped together for the rest. I am not wearing forms, wig, female shoes, jewelry, or makeup. There are things I want to do with her at some point. I'm working on it.

So in a few words, my goal is to dress and act like a woman in my own home and around my wife and have her accept and enjoy this. My ultimate goal then would be to go with her to a town and hour or two away where nobody would recognize either of us and spend time in public with her as two women out sightseeing and shopping on the town.

Ditto for me. But have been out with the wife in the full package, and it is wonderful!!

BobbieB

[pantywaver]

I never really thought about goals. I would love to get wig and forms then get a makeover.
After that not sure, first I need to get the wife more onboard.

[STACY B]

Be able to run faster in heels ,,Cuz everytime I go out in public I always get chased an harrased ,,, Cuz everone wants to know all my BEAUTY SECRETS ,,, Stop !!! I cant run that fast ,,,I have on open toe shoes ,,,, I never tell @!!!!!!!!!!!!! Go to ,,,,nune yo bizz.com

[sissystephanie]

In the over 60 years that I have crossdressed, I think I have done just about everything that can be done! Of course, for almost 50 years of that time I was married to a wonderful lady who not only knew that I was a CD but fully supported my CD activites. Having lost her to cancer some years ago, I don't have anyone to do my makeup or fix my wig. But I still dress enfemme and go out in public, but as a guy not a female! And I am happy doing so!! I guess my goal is to be a happy feminine guy!!

[Ava Tryptyk]

I don't have any plans of transitioning to a woman. As much as I would love to experience the feeling of having a woman's body, I don't want to completely depart from my male mode either. I'm still very much closeted, so I don't know if I'm going to be comfortable going out in public as Sveta. I would be satisfied if I simply have the confidence to go out and regularly purchase clothes, learn how to apply make-up, get better at photo editing to make myself look more flattering, etc. I also will need to live in my own place where I can safely store my "contraband". I also want to eventually confide to some RL friends about this hidden interest of mine, but that is still a long way down the road.

[onlinecloset]

My goal is to be more comfortable being fully dressed enough where I can go in public even if not passing to a club out somewhere it of town and to think of a way to make my wife thinks its her idea that I try cross dressing :) maybe a little sneaky but figure if she thought it was her idea she couldn't get mad.. Doubt I'll ever pull that one off but would be great.

[onlinecloset]

Sorry about my typos on my post. Was using my phone and it changed a couple words and didn't check before I posted.

[Msora]

I'm still figuring out my goals. I'll just put passing in public even though I think my face is too masculine for that.

[DebbieL]

This looks like a very popular topic. I have my ideal goal, which would be to live my life as a young and beautiful woman, who could wear anything I wanted, look fabulous in it, and be able to do it 24/7 for the rest of my life. But that's more like a fantasy than a realistic goal. I'm 56 years old, I have a deep voice, even when I speak at higher pitch, it's pretty easy to tell I'm a guy. Ironically, when I speak as a guy, I often seem so feminine that most people assumed I was gay. I had to train myself to pass as a man, and also had to train myself to pass as a woman. If I want to pass, I can't be that beautiful. I have to dress age and situation appropriate, which means I DON'T get noticed, which means I don't get many compliments either. When I want to look beautiful, it takes between 10 and 15 minutes for someone at the event I'm attending to scrutinize me closely enough to figure it out and then feel duty-bound to let everyone else know as well, partly to show how clever he is, and partly so that the other guys won't fall in lust with me. When it finally comes out, I just smile big, acknowledge their powers of observance, and try to make sure that everyone is happy and having a good time. In some ways, getting read sets me free to be the "Belle of the Ball".

I am also not in the best health. Every time I go into "guy mode" I gain a LOT of weight, and often to the point where I suffer serious health problems. After getting a bunch of grief from my in-laws and my wife, I went into guy mode for about 6 weeks, eating a bunch of junk food, all the stuff Debbie avoids, to the point where I had to go to the hospital for 5 days because of heart problems.

Perhaps my real goal would be to have Debbie take enough control of as much of my life as possible, such that I want to stay healthy, lose weight, and stay fit, and if she does that successfully, then she deserves the transition, and anyone who thinks otherwise can pay my hospital bills for the next heart attack or stroke.

[Ondine]

I think my goal is to accept myself and to be accepted by others. (Also, being able to walk in high heels without stumbling would be nice, too. :-) )

[Delila]

My goal may be a stupid one. The one thing I strive to experience is to fully accept myself sober. I am fully able to accept myself while I have been drinking but my mood varies significantly when I have had a few drinks. I know that what I feel is accurate but I lack the courage to have any follow through when I have not had a bit of liquid courage. Other than that I have a great life and a wife who is more accepting than I deserve.

[Noemi]

Hi Linda,

You've got us all talking again.

I have never had a goal. I did not want this trans gender me. My goal was to duck the whole gazeebo, quack...quack.

That was all too destructive, the ducking, the more I resist the more she persists. So I suppose my goal would be harmony between the meees.

I would like to do some hair removal on my back and neck. That would make meees happy. I continue to lose weight, and remove body hair, but stay healthy...anyway I am posting allot here lately.

I wonder if it is foolish to send my private thoughts out into the internet, who reads this. Yes you reading what I am writing, do the right thing! OK grandiose thoughts from this girl..LOL Just paranoid......but I really need to share about tg'ed me right now, and am glad to have some company here on the web.

But really I used to always think, where will this lead me, the cding...where can it possibly go. I have some ideas now. They fall on the female side of the coin, but I am taking it slow.

♥
Noemi

[Carmen]

My goal has always been to uncover and exploit the female side of myself.
Yes I am always refining my appearance, improving and practicing all my femme aspects, but it is deeper that that.
Once in a while I catch a glimpse of her looking back in the mirror...a look at what could have been.
When I get it all right, my makeup, hair, clothes, something happens and essentially she takes over.
Everything about me is now different...everything feels different, the rules have now changed for me, and to everyone I am her.
I surrender myself to it all.

[RainyNightGirl]

All I want is to find some peace with it and be happy being me...

I think that says it all for me. Right now, I am deep in the pink cloud. Have been out twice which I really enjoyed and was somewhat comfortable with. Unfortunately that made me question myself more about where I am on the spectrum. At this moment I just do not know where I am heading. I would just like to know. I would like some inner peace.

Hugs
Natasha
x

[TeresaL]

I have several goals and rough time tables. Goals for my family and social health are to contain and control my TG passion and not exceed their speed limit. I have a definate and progressive plan set in motion that is not overly aggressive. I'm outed to my adult children, my mother and mother-in-law. amongst others, so that chore is done and over. If I'm still in a DADT relationship a year from now, then I may move out on my own. Life is too short. LOL

Personal goals are to gradually step up and maybe go out in a safer environment, that is not local. I already dress completely, and mostly causal, seldom if never, frilly. I want to be the youthful granny. So the face is of utmost importance, and I really, really want to pull it off correctly so that the senior girls are comfortable having me in their company.

[Ms Mira]

My goal is only to explore who I am by exploring my feminine side to the FULLEST.

That's it, that's all.

[Contessa]

I don't have a high degree of cd training, meaning I didn't go to cd school. I am however accepting of myself. I can spend the rest of my years as the gurl girl I am. I know that I am a gurl that looks like a boy sometimes. My goal is to look my best each and every time I hit the door. My family knows and I want them to. They don't have to accept me as I have done that already. How people feel about me is none of my concern I am not evil and or diabolical. I do not intend to hurt any one. Especially by wearing a skirt or heels. I love this and I wish more of you did. But you have be able to understand yourself first, just because people think you are gay does not make you gay.

Tess

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Linda, For me when I dress I like to look as great as possable although I don't go out .
To get dressed an log on just feels wonderful and my full length mirror is a great friend too.
I've had a lot of pratice for about 65years .
With my vast collection of clothes, shoes and wigs I can be anyone that I want.
When I'm not dressed I'm all guy.

[Kelli<3]

My goal is to finally accept this part of me and explore it. I haven't even fully dressed with a wig, makeup and breast forms yet. I have only worn different clothes off and on since childhood, mainly pantyhose. I have been denying this part of myself since I was a child. I'm giving in and exploring my feminine side.

I know I have no intention of transitioning full time, but I do know I have always had some gender identity issues that I tried so hard to suppress. Wearing the clothes occasionally satisfied my feminine side to a point, but not fully. I don't even have any plans to leave the house yet. I'm used to being a man and I'm pretty comfortable as a man most of the time.

Fortunately, I have a very loving and supportive wife. She is supporting and actually encouraging me, which is something I really need right now. She is trying to understand myself by helping me explore my feminine side. She has given me some things of hers to try and even allowed me to try on clothes to help gauge my size. She worries a little because of what might come from all of this. But I still feel the need to explore. I feel this is an all or nothing thing. I like wearing all women's clothes, but just wearing pantyhose or panties as a man makes me really uncomfortable. I don't think it is just about the clothes, I want the entire package. I want to look in the mirror and see Kelli, not me as a man in women's clothing.

[Jess6887]

my goal is to go somewhere 2 or 3 hours away, and get all dressed up go to an atm prior and go shopping for girly things, i am to the point where i know i wont pass 100% but probably 70% of the way, i just want a full girl day doing girly things :)

[vaga505]

establish a persona, stop isolating my self, I know I wont be passable, just be a person that is able to not have negative comments or actions control my quality of life. Feel free and light, not get cought up in my male ego. :)

[Davena Doll]

Good ?. My goal is to get CD'd get on the train to Chatsworth and walk down Reseda BLvd. 5 miles (Im an avid hiker). to a gay bar in the valley. my wife asked me "do you want to get killed" I said "no but I have life insurance".

[Sweet Caroline]

I just want to be a pretty dumb blonde in a white silk pleated halter top dress, standing over a subway grate, feeling the cool air billow and play with my skirt.

[5150 Girl]

I'd settle for beeing full time, but I think I'd want electro atlest be fore going there... Inplant would be a nice addition to.
If it should happen that I could transition totaly, that would rock to.

[Kate Simmons]

I never had a goal per se for crossdressing. I did have a goal to get in touch with myself and my feelings. This has been accomplished.:)

[JamieQ]

I want to look in the mirror and see a woman, go in to the world and be recognized and treated as a lady. The best feeling you can have is being addressed as maam or a guy holding the door for you. I just love being a girl.

You could not have said it better... just love being a girl!

[ThereseW]

Pretty simple goals
- come out to my wife on my timetable, not by getting caught
- go out en femme "solo"
- find a like-minded CDer or two and go for a girls night out
- continue on the path to self discovery that CDing has brought me
One step at a time, enjoying every step! Thank you all for the great insights, especially the girls who are ahead of me on the path.

Therese

[Karinsamatha]

I am rapidly moving to living full time, and going on HRT. All I want to do is feel like my mind and body aren't at odds with each other. To that end I am willing to do just about anything.

[linda allen]

My goal may be a stupid one. The one thing I strive to experience is to fully accept myself sober. I am fully able to accept myself while I have been drinking but my mood varies significantly when I have had a few drinks. I know that what I feel is accurate but I lack the courage to have any follow through when I have not had a bit of liquid courage. Other than that I have a great life and a wife who is more accepting than I deserve.

Delila, I'm not sure if you're saying you have a drinking problem or that you only feel OK crossdressing if you've been drinking. Neither is good. I never associated drinking and crossdressing, probably because I never had the opportunity to do both at the same time.

I had to give up all alcohol for medical reasons a few years ago so I want to tell you that it can be done if that's the problem. Make up your mind, get rid of the alcohol, and be strong.

[melissakozak]

Sveta,

We all find our own happy medium with this. You will, too. Some of us remain happy at home. Others of us, including myself, really need to be out in public and passing is important. Being trans is an inner journey with outward expression. We discover who we are, and we are constantly changing. Your needs will change over time as well...

[JamieQ]

You could not have said it better... just love being a girl!


As for a goal? I told my wife numerous times would really like to go to Kmart or Walmart with a short skirt or dress and go shopping, All she said is am I crazy, then she acts like she had no idea when other CD "issues" came up. In denial, right? Oh well...Also, well it would be nice to get together with other CDers and have the girls night out., but never heard of that around here. I think the real goal is to become comfortable in public en femme even if a bit "manly" looking.

[il.dso]

Great question and responses.
My goals have evolved over the years.
I still desire to crossdress and explore this wonderful transformative experience.
Always hoping for a more tolerant and accepting world, as well.