Haircut time!

[ellbee]

Was at the barber earlier today. Pretty cool guy, in his 40's, been going to him for a few years now.


Ahead of me was an elderly customer. Had a cane -- and something was obviously wrong with his back & neck, kinda twisted & hunched over. Not sure what sort of condition he had, but it looked pretty rough.

The barber was really nice & helpful with everything, assisting the guy every step of the way & making pleasantries the whole time. Went the extra mile, from helping him up off the waiting chair & into the barber chair, all the way to opening the door for him on his way out.


Only me & the barber in there at that point. Maybe 30 seconds into the typical barber chat, and he makes a few comments about the elderly guy, including a "joke."

I ignored it, and instead shifted the conversation by asking if he knew what sort of medical/health condition he had, and mentioning that it must be pretty tough for him having to live that way 24/7, etc. The barber realized I didn't bite, and he quickly "covered" himself by saying this & that, blah blah blah.


I didn't really respond the way he was hoping. Perhaps a different customer would have laughed at the "joke" & maybe even made one of his own, garnering a good laugh from both? Who knows. I could definitely see that happening, though, with the conversation taking a much different turn than ours.



Afterwards, I couldn't help but think how this kind of stuff could relate to our public crossdressing experiences.

I mean, from the elderly gentleman's perspective from start to finish, it was nothing but positivity & awesomeness. Heck, even at the time, I noticed how well the barber was treating him. Quite the special experience!

But once he was gone & it was "safe"? Tsk tsk. Shame on my barber for that part.


Have to wonder how often that kind of thing happens to CD'ers when dealing with others out in public...

[DIANEF]

Im pretty sure the 'wow you look great' is sometimes followed by 'who's he trying to kid', or am I just being cynical....

[Tracy Irving]

If this happened to me, I would ignore a few years of loyalty and find someone else to cut my hair. He can't be the only game in town.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Lauura:hugs:, That barber is in for a good dose of Karma...:daydreaming:...

[Pat]

Honestly, I'm sure that's exactly what happens. But I'm willing to accept people being accepting to my face and having their joke at my expense afterward. That's really all any of us get, right? I'm perfectly willing to accept that I'm here for other people's entertainment since I consider them to all be here for mine. ;) At various times in my life I know I've been made fun of for being left-handed, for having a Boston accent, for being a redhead -- back when I was -- I'm now made fun of for being "a Q-tip." Now I can add being transgender to the pot. I don't require unending admiration and praise, just courtesy to my face.

[Tracii G]

Its never nice to make fun of people's physical conditions.
The old man may have stormed the beaches of Normandy or served in Korea and been a total bad ass in his day.
Karma is real so I feel for the barber.
I'm sure I have been the butt of jokes from people out in the public arena but it goes with the territory if you CD.

[Dana44]

I have to agree with Tracii, he may have been a bad ass in his life, one never knows and should never be judged. But for us CD'rs yea, we are probably laugh at a lot.

[sometimes_miss]

Have to wonder how often that kind of thing happens to CD'ers when dealing with others out in public...
As a closeted crossdresser, and working with the public, I can tell you it happens a lot. Professional behavior face to face, but behind your back they are laughing at you. Even when a manager is present that says that kind of joking is not appropriate, she says it with a chuckle that makes everyone know she feels the same way.

The world isn't filled with people who think crossdressing is just fine. When pressed, many, many think it's a peculiarity, if not a perversion. Do not be lulled into a false sense of acceptance. We are only tolerated by a quite large percentage of the population that would really prefer that we didn't exist.

[paulinescotlandcd]

Yes, I have thought the same many times when i read here about all the sales assistants being so nice after you have bought a shed load of stuff. Minutes later are they chuckling away ?

[ronda]

I have family that says they are ok with me and my dressing but when I walk away and they think I cant hear them they call me a F M F er and many other names they think I don't know what they say behind my back

[Jessicajane]

For sure you can usually tell the genuine ones that would not do that but there will be many that do...
Just remember rather than take it as an insult accept you have made your mark...and sometimes made their day a little more interesting....and above all pity them ...they don't get to experience life from two genders xx