Siobhan Marie
11-07-2006, 05:39 PM
Before you all tear me to pieces and ask me what the hell I'm going about, please just bear with me as I'm going to tell it pretty much as it unfolded yesterday afternoon as its the only way I can tell it. I'd like to point out that I don't live with my parents. I own my own flat about 4 miles away from them.
I was talking to my mum yesterday as it was the first time that I'd seen her for a few days (Dad had gone out to do something) and she asked me how work had been (I work in security) and I was telling her about the location I'd been working at (I used to work there full time and don't now) and said that they had 3 members of staff and were going to lose 2 more. She asked me who they are and I told her, one of them being my TS colleague, Lisa (whom I refered to by her old name, Percy) and nothing more was said, we carried on watching television. Then Mum looked up and said to me "Percy, isn't that the one who is going through a sex change?" I replied "yes Mum, it is", she then said to me "you don't want to do that do you?" I tried to bluff it (which I'm bad at) and replied "I'm not sure" and she said "what do you mean, you're not sure? You're not dropping a bombshell on me are you?" I said "no Mum Like I said I'm not sure". She replied "if you ever tell me that, I won't want to know you", I said "do you mean that?", she said "yes, it would kill me". All I said after that was "at least I know where you stand" and nothing more was said.
Dad came back in from doing what he had to do (he'd been to the chippy to get some tea, as he and I were going to an auction that evening). Poor Dad, you could've cut the tension between Mum and I with a knife, it was horrible. Before Dad and I went out, I had to go to the toilet, which gave Mum and Dad the chance to talk behind my back. When Dad and I left for the auction, he asked me what had happened between Mum and I and I told him. He asked if I needed to do what Lisa is doing and I said yes and I told him everything, he then asked if I wanted to have the final operation and I said yes. I also said that I couldn't live a lie anymore. Dad said while he couldn't give his blessing to what I want to do, he would never disown me while Mum is another story, she is very old fashioned in her outlook, and she would disown me. He also asked me if I'm on on hormones, I said no I'm not. He also asked me if I was out at work. I said yes I was, I was out at the location I used to work at. I also told him that I would not be staying in security as everyone knows me as Bruce and this would just confuse them. I want to be settled in another job for 6-12 months before I go full time. To give credit to Dad, he seemed to take it quite well. He also me to hold off telling Mum and starting my transition for 2 years as she is really ill and may not be here in two years time. This I agreed to but said if she's still here, she'll have to be told and I'll have to face the consequences of that. Needless to say I didn't sleep very well, although I do feel better that at least Dad knows.
:hugs: Anna Marie x
I was talking to my mum yesterday as it was the first time that I'd seen her for a few days (Dad had gone out to do something) and she asked me how work had been (I work in security) and I was telling her about the location I'd been working at (I used to work there full time and don't now) and said that they had 3 members of staff and were going to lose 2 more. She asked me who they are and I told her, one of them being my TS colleague, Lisa (whom I refered to by her old name, Percy) and nothing more was said, we carried on watching television. Then Mum looked up and said to me "Percy, isn't that the one who is going through a sex change?" I replied "yes Mum, it is", she then said to me "you don't want to do that do you?" I tried to bluff it (which I'm bad at) and replied "I'm not sure" and she said "what do you mean, you're not sure? You're not dropping a bombshell on me are you?" I said "no Mum Like I said I'm not sure". She replied "if you ever tell me that, I won't want to know you", I said "do you mean that?", she said "yes, it would kill me". All I said after that was "at least I know where you stand" and nothing more was said.
Dad came back in from doing what he had to do (he'd been to the chippy to get some tea, as he and I were going to an auction that evening). Poor Dad, you could've cut the tension between Mum and I with a knife, it was horrible. Before Dad and I went out, I had to go to the toilet, which gave Mum and Dad the chance to talk behind my back. When Dad and I left for the auction, he asked me what had happened between Mum and I and I told him. He asked if I needed to do what Lisa is doing and I said yes and I told him everything, he then asked if I wanted to have the final operation and I said yes. I also said that I couldn't live a lie anymore. Dad said while he couldn't give his blessing to what I want to do, he would never disown me while Mum is another story, she is very old fashioned in her outlook, and she would disown me. He also asked me if I'm on on hormones, I said no I'm not. He also asked me if I was out at work. I said yes I was, I was out at the location I used to work at. I also told him that I would not be staying in security as everyone knows me as Bruce and this would just confuse them. I want to be settled in another job for 6-12 months before I go full time. To give credit to Dad, he seemed to take it quite well. He also me to hold off telling Mum and starting my transition for 2 years as she is really ill and may not be here in two years time. This I agreed to but said if she's still here, she'll have to be told and I'll have to face the consequences of that. Needless to say I didn't sleep very well, although I do feel better that at least Dad knows.
:hugs: Anna Marie x