married CD's

[sfwarbonnet]

my wife just tolorates it just in the house i can wear...

Mine too just tolerates it now. She saw me wearng nylons, garter belt, and a slip for the first time ast year. She subsequently said to "wear whatever you want at home". Well, I only needed to hear that once! I now usually wear panties, pantyhose, slip. and a dress in the evening. No seperate bra though; the best option appears to be a bra slip. I keep pushing, as I want to go out en femme with her.

[Carla]

My wife is fully supportive. I am sometimes amazed at how accepting she is. She has even picked up a couple of clothing items that she thought I would like. She buys me pantyhose and makeup every now and then when she knows I'm running short. We have never been out in public together, but I dress at least one day a week at home when it is just the two of us. We even have matching nightshirst that we both will wear most any evening.

We will be going to First Event in Boston in a few weeks which will amrk the first time that we will be in "public" together. We are looking forward to it.

[Katrina red nails]

A couple of things in last couple of days that, to my mind anyway, give me encouragement that my lovely wife is getting more accepting.
1) Have got a few spare pounds to spend and i suggested we go out to buy ladies clothes/accessories for both of us (me not en fem) and she said no problem. Wow i can't wait for my next day off work.
2) She noticed that i had panties on under my tracksuit bottoms. I cannot lie to her and when i said i wear them all the time now she never flinched or commented adversely.

I hope i am not fooling myself and i realise these are two small steps on a very long journey but i am so pleased.

Katrina

[serinalynn]

My wife when we first married, She bought pink lacy panties and camis or me to wear "for her eyes only". I was buying all of her lingerie back then as well. Well years later my wife is tollerent of my dressing and know about every thing I own that is womens clothing. In the past she would tell me there is a sale at Lane Byrant and its OK to go buy something.

In our marriage(28 years), I am her husband First, and Serinalynn Second.

[flacindycd]

She used to not mind it years ago, as we got older...she simply hates it, i get very few chances to dress nowadays...and it kind of hurts me deep inside....

[stephanie.ts]

I am shocked by the underwhelming amount of support provided by many significant others. My fiancee demands that I "crossdress" because she knows that it is a part of me. She has paid for me to get my eyebrows arched and my nails french manicured. It wouldn't matter what my idiosyncrasies are, she would support them because they matter to me, just as I would for her. We are no longer individuals in our relationship, rather we embark on each others' interests. If she wanted to dress like a boy, because it was very much a part of her, who would I be to object? Especially because between the two of us I am the one with the experience being a boy, then I would be able to give her the tips on posture and gate. Instead I love who she is on the inside, and no matter what happens on the outside I will continue to love her. Can you say that when her (or your) body begins to wrinkle, and she is no longer the epitome of youth and beauty that you would stop loving her because of the way she looked? Shame on her if she is so superficial that all she can see of her husband is that he's "prissy" instead of the support and love that you all provide.

No, my significant other is incredibly supportive and encouraging. It is not because she is "supposed to be" but rather because she understands the definition of love -- beyond the verb, but rather what it takes to love and in return be loved. Wouldn't you all love your wives a little bit more if they accepted you for you? Since this seems like such an easy feat, I don't understand why this isn't possible in many relationships.

I apologize for my rant, I just find the lack of tolerance provided by those we love most unsettling.

[Darla L]

Actually, most of the time she is very encouraging. Once in a while she will say that she would like her husband back for a while. After a day or two I will come home from work and find something feminine laid out for me to wear. Normally, nothing is very different between us when I am dressed, but once in a while she will find it really kinky and we explore that in our bedroom. :battingeyelashes:
All of that said though, I do not dress full out very often. It is just an occasional thing for me to dress outwardly feminine. But lingerie on the other hand...

[serena_mcd_wa]

Wow, this is a really interesting thread to me. Given the responses so far, the data is split nearly evenly:

1/3 - spouses encouraging and/or actively participating in partner's crossdressing.

1/3 - spouses indifferent or tolerant of dressing

1/3 - spouses opposed to dressing

I'm single and made a decision several years ago to be very open with future dates about my desire to crossdress and how it's an important part of me. Unfortunately so far, I haven't found a lot of women that are supportive of my desired lifestyle, so my search continues...:sad:

I totally feel for the ladies on here that don't have but wish they had supporting gg partners and it reconfirms my desire to be one of the lucky ones someday to be in the top third of list. However long it takes, I'll keep searching. From the stories shared here, it totally seems worth it.

Thanks everyone for sharing your experiences.

[Gabrielle Hermosa]

I fully read many posts in this thread and skimmed through many more. I makes me sad that so many wives are not accepting of their crossdressing husbands.

I consider myself very lucky in that my wife loves that I'm in to crossdressing and even encourages it. She brings me pretty things and likes when I put on a fashion show for her. As a man, she finds me handsome. Dressed as a woman, she can barely keep her hands off me. I love that!

It took more than 10 years of marriage before I fully came out with her though. For a long time I feared potential problems in our marriage if she knew the whole truth about me. She's asked me to dress up for her on and off over the years as a kinky sex thing, but didn't know until just last year that I like to dress up, period. Our marriage got stronger and we became that much closer as a result of being fully open and honest with each other. Just yesterday, she gave me another black miniskirt - can't wait to try it on tomorrow after a nice, clean shave!

Would I like to dress up full time? I never seem to have much time to dress up, so absolutely! At least, I'd like to give it a try for a good duration. I can't go out in public where I live because I don't quite pass as female in person and that could prove very dangerous for me. I hope to find a cd-friendly place to live sometime in the future though. :)

[Jo-Michelle]

My wife is very supportive. We have become much closer since coming out. She encourages me to dress.
Right now I feel I have a perfect situation. I like being a man sometimes but I like being fem more and more. My wife says see has seen a better person come out of me. I'm more patient, I listen, (really) and I feel much more relaxed then I have for a long time if not ever.
The phyiscal dressing started all this, but its growing much beyond that.

[tinna.blackburn]

My wife found my clothes and went crazy. She dosent accept it at all and says if she ever finds out that I am dressing she will divorce me. Whish I could start all over again. Count youslf lucy that your wife understands you.

Huggs

Tinna

[sweetcheeksbev]

i love to be in anything feminine wear panties 24/7 and now a bra when ever at home. i don't want to go full time wife isn't happy with my wearing at all but puts up with it. if not for the dressing are marrige would be realy great

[BlUeDrAgOn]

My wife found my clothes and went crazy. She dosent accept it at all and says if she ever finds out that I am dressing she will divorce me. Whish I could start all over again. Count youslf lucy that your wife understands you.

Huggs

Tinna

That's the reason why I think we should never hide this secret from our wives. It's always worse when they find out that way. I put my marriage on the line when I told my wife (and believe me, she is far from being supportive about this), but now she prefers to ignore it and if ever she finds any fem clothes of mine she will no longer be surprised by it.

[Katrina red nails]

The rollercoaster takes anoher downward plunge. After a row about something totally different the CD topic came up and i am getting the "I don't like it. I married a man" speech again.

[Tora]

My lovely Bride of 38 years, is generally, a non believer, doesn't know the whole story. Back in 1972, I didn't know what it was all about. I had dressed
in Mom's panties, bra, slips, stockings, night gowns- all special top line items, earlier. I tried a few of the wifes thing early few years. I lived thru her, by buying her nice lingerie and night gowns. I went dormant for a few years until a FORUM story about CD started it all again. She allows a few things, nice night gowns, panties for sleeping, everynight. The rest of my secret, extensive stash is in a storage locker. A afternoon or evening out requires a motel for dressing and Merle Norman for makeup. I hate to have to lie and make up stories to get out. More often underdressed to do shopping at a few friendly shops, DRESS BARN, TALLGIRL, ....

Full time is not what I need. More time would be great. Family and work keep getting priority. Being a Grandpa is alot of fun. Wife's large family is pretty active, which is not bad.

This site is wonderful, great people.

[rochelle smith]

my wife knows about it , she is not for or against it but she is ok with it, because she says that it is part of me and she loves me

rochelle

[ColleenShivas]

Count me among the lucky ones. My wife is mostly supportive and helps me dress, so long as I keep it at home. She discourages me from going out enfemme because, although I might pass below the neck, my male face cannot be disguised. I have not yet had the courage to test that opinion.

[Rachel32533]

I told my wife of 24 years about my crossdressing three years ago. At first it was a shock, but soon she became suportive, however that didn't last long. Now I am back to keeping it to myself when she is not around. Hopefully one day she will learn to accept this side I keep hidden.

[nikki47]

My wife accepts me as i am,but much prefers me in male mode,she will shop with me and for me,but if i get the pink fog(which i have had the last few months)she lets me know.We have an agreement now that i dress fully once a week,usually on my day off.I know not to talk about dressing all the time and just be so happy and thankful for having such a great wife.

Nikki

[CrossJess]

My wife used to accept and even support it.

She used to comment on how I "don't look half bad as a girl". Or something I would wear was "cute".


That has all changed now ever since I found out she was cheating on me.

Now she hates it. Her 180 attitude had caused me to stop for dressing for awhile, and now I don't do it around her. But I still get the nasty comments.

She even told me the other day that she's not atracted to me at all, calling me "ugly" and saying things like "what girl in her right mind would want to have sex with a guy that dresses like a girl?!?"

:sad: Good times indeed.

Living full time? Yes I've been thinking about it more so now. After the divorce(I know it's coming).


You are who you are! No one can change that, sounds to me like you need to get your self out of this rocky & disrespectful marriage, cheating on you is bad enough, but to call you names is shameful:Angry3:, calling someone ugly is not nice, surely you can never be happy in this situation? :eek: I would of given the boot long ago, cheating is a nono in my book, you must love her thats all I can say

[kristinacd55]

married CD's
My wife thinks it's wierd, but tolerates it for the most part. We've gone shopping & she's made the "buys" for me too, so it is getting better.
I don't know about the full time thing, it may be over the top for me.

[Katrina red nails]

After having numerous discussions, setting boundaries which i have for the most part stuck to, i get a text msg today saying she won't ask me to stop doing what i like to do. I send back thanking her for that. I get home from work and all of a sudden there is no common ground, no compromise, I either give evrything up or she goes. I can't give it up so ..........

Whenever we have differences it is always me giving up what i like. I am so down now. I will have no pleasures left.

[kristinacd55]

After having numerous discussions, setting boundaries which i have for the most part stuck to, i get a text msg today saying she won't ask me to stop doing what i like to do. I send back thanking her for that. I get home from work and all of a sudden there is no common ground, no compromise, I either give evrything up or she goes. I can't give it up so ..........

Whenever we have differences it is always me giving up what i like. I am so down now. I will have no pleasures left.

Wow, that's a bummer Katrina. So sorry to hear that. :(

[Lorileah]

My wife always thought it was "silly" and wondered why I would "Want" to wear hose or shave. But she never complained or said don't do it. She did complain as the hair grew back.

[Prissy Linda]

I met my wife at about 14 or 15 years old, I felt so comfortable telling her everything that I told her I liked makeup and dressing like a girl. IF I have ever done anything right in my life it was being honest from the very beginning. She knew who and what she was getting so she didn't have to deal with a lie.

[frenchie]

I dont dress all the time perhaps twice a month but when i do I'm kinda lucky that my wife will tell me that she wants a girly time, and cos i know her I can give her some good advice when I'm en femme, because I tell her i know what a man wants,and she can tell me (girl to girl) what a woman needs.Is that ok? Frenchie Gina

[VickieBonne]

My Bride is the best. She allows, participates, and encourages me. She often encourages me to "tuck" and wear clothes that are technically women's but pass as men's. Shirts, jeans, shorts, shoes, bras, panties, hose,... the whole nine yards. Last weekend, we spent four days out of town and she only wanted me to bring women's things. She even insisted that I buy women's running shoes specifically for the trip. Our first afternoon was spent getting pedicures and manicures together. As a surprise, she bought me champagne lipstick and eye shadow that matches my skin tone so that I could wear makeup while out. I don't fully dress when out except the occassional costume party. She knows I enjoy it, it satisfies my needs and desires and she is completely supportive. I consider myself one of the lucky ones...

[michelle64]

as michelle's girlfriend, i'm so glad he told me right away. i think honesty is best....i support michelle and feel lucky to have such a loving person. you cannot change who he is on the inside and never would because that's the person i fell in love with. i'm sure michelle was scared to tell me because he was afraid what i would think. i was told up front so that i knew what i was getting into. yeah, can be kinky at times, and full of fun, but that's just the beginning. it's not for sex, it's who michelle is inside and out. so for all those guys out there that are afraid to tell, that's sad. i want michelle to love me for who i am, aren't i suppose to do the same?...we do shop together and i even pick out some FABULOUS outfits, (i'm jealous), it's fun. My only complaint is that we don't get to go out often enough, and sometimes michelle is so absorbed in what SHE looks like (pink fog) that sometimes theres a teensy bit of jealousy on my part....V

[Kelli Michelle]

My wife knew I had these tendencies when we married. She even bought me a long nightgown. But as soon as I showed more interest than as a very minor hobby, she didn't want any of it. She asked if I would curtail it (then it was just dressing in the bedroom) I did try and was mostly successful (only dressing in some underwear on rare occasions).

When we moved back to the USA from overseas, we were separated for some months. During that time, I joined a cd group, and began to go out dressed. As soon as she came over with the kids, I told her I was going out, etc. She nearly divorced me there and then. Our current status is not good. She won't talk about it except to ask me if I am gay, and do I want to go further. I currently go out dressed 2 days a month (occasionally a little more). She thinks once a month is too much, and clearly thinks 0 times would be best. I do want to go further, but have been unsure if I would act on that as I know the consequences. I do plan on discussing this with her, and asking her to come on the journey with me (for the last time). I know she won't be there with me, though.

Generally she gives me mean looks, makes occasional rude comments like, " I can't imagine that you look at all good..you must be embarrassed when people see you...people are laughing at you..." Her 2 main points (pretty common for ggs that are non-supportive) are
1. I can't imagine even seeing you dressed as a woman
2. I don't want to grow old living with another woman

So I, like many, will probably have to leave (sadly, with regret)
to live the life I want.

[Pattie O]

Wife knows but does not want to.So I stay closeted for now and continue to underdress when I can and fully dress when able(not too frequently).I would love to attend at meeting with others or go to a CD ball either alone or with my wife.Tomorrow Im going for a back and bottom wax and will enquire about the XXX
I cant wait to fully dress in my new chococlate satin pant suit and shawl.I tried it on and the saleswoman said it looked lovely on me(even without make up or wig.I was flattered!
:daydreaming:Pattie

[sarahNZ]

My EX wife is my EX because she could not stand it.

As for living full time? I had given some thought to it many years ago going the whole hog so to speak, but would not persue it now.

[Omjessi]

I just cme out to her a couple days ago. She seems to still be computing. Hopefully, she'll will check out this site and it will help her form at least some opinion about it. Though did say that this doesn't change the fact that she loves me or that she is going to spend her life with me.

[Legs]

I came out to my wife 1.5 years ago, after 15 years of being married.

It has taken some time, but she is now very confy with it, at first she said ok whatever, but would not be seen in public with me, but after the first time out she would much rather go out with me as Samantha than the male side anytime.

She took the pic for my avatar, and when we take a bath, she usually lays out my underclothes for me as she gets out first, (I still have to mow the lawn, (shave)), in my underwear drawer is panties and my male under shorts, I have yet to get out of the tub and find anything but panties laid out.

If I go for more than a day without wearing my heels around the house she asks me what is wrong and that you know if you don't wear your heels your legs are going to start hurting when you do put them on.

Or if for some reason I do not dress for a day or three she will tell me I am about due to turn Samantha loose, and she will also ask me if I think Samantha will cook, mostly breakfast, lol.

So yes it took some time, but at this stage she is very confortable and accepting of my CDing.

Oh and yes she helps with my hair, makeup, and clothes, but then she also loves it when I help her paint her nails.

As for being a full time female, yes and no here.

I am taking herbs to grow my breasts, (hate using the forms), and yes I live pretty much 24/7 as Samantha, very few times when I am forced into malemode these days, but I am not nor do I have any plans to go all the way and have any surgery or anything, I plan to leave this earth with everything God gave me, and maybe a lil more.

Huggggggggggggggs
Samantha

[Want to be Lisa]

Samantha you lucky girl.

[jillleanne]

For me, my gg of almost ten years is supportive and accepting and really justs understands my need to be fem. She will however, along with her friends who are attached to other gender enhanced people, get some entertainment from seeing a group of us together, strutting in high heels. They get a chuckle watching us and reminding each other how we mentioned earlier in the evening how heels don't hurt our feet. I too laugh as I see many slipping their shoes slightly off after an evening of standing in them. lol

[2b.Lauren]

My situation is very humorous in many ways. I thought that she forgot about me dressing after all these years, she knew I had never stopped and that I always had what she calls "that stuff". So after revisiting the issue with her just this month she is fine with my dressing. She does not mind if I do so at home, alone, but does not want me to go out. It is hard to admit, but I also agree, certainly not in this area, it could be a big problem due to the sensitivity of my profession. However she feels the world is too small and right now her only boundary for me to follow is do not go out. So I dress and dream.

As for full time, I too have wrangled with those feelings since my young teens and twenties. Now, I think about it and really would like to do so. Maybe as I transition more within my working profession the options may become more tangible. I am myself in all of this, so as my outward presentation does not always match, my inner self is and will be female.

[~Seana~]

Wow such a long thread!

I suppose I'll add my bit in. My wife has known since our third date or thereabouts I think? It was one of the first things I told her. She loves it , has confessed to me she gets incredibly turned on by CD'ing and that she was lucky to just happen upon one as a life partner. She ALso CD's FTM quite often, and our lifestyle is pretty open. She gets upset when I do it alone, because she wants to see. And we were married last June, so she definitely went in knowing what she was getting into! Now to be fair, there have been some squabbles. Like when we both want the same blouse, and she has definite opinions on my makeup, she prefers dark colors and I like brighter pastels and strawberries and peaches. amanda likes the happy colors:)
Accepting? Well she brings home an awful lot of clothes for me to try on, and is always ready to recommend her favorite underwear. I'd say she's accepting.

Amanda

[SuzyZahn]

I`m lucky,,,wife has accepted and tolerates well,,,just worried someday she may say`` i`ve had enough``,,,but bottom line,,i know she loves me,,,and I in return,,,I think thats what keeps things on an even level and understanding that we all have our own faults,,,,just my two cents

[Ralph]

Amazing how long this thread has been going on! And it's an important topic - possibly the most important issue a guy can face if he's married or planning to marry.

I know in other posts, and on my blog, I sound like I'm coming down pretty harsh on my sisters who don't tell, but I haven't been in your slippers so I can't really judge. Maybe you thought you could "cure" yourself by keeping the urge under wraps. Maybe you thought she would be more hurt by knowing than not knowing.

Nevertheless, I am a strong advocate of being open from the moment that you realize you might spend the rest of your life with the other person. And I say this as someone who is so far back in the closet it would destroy my career, my family relations (outside the home), my church life, and my social life in this small midwest town where everybody knows everything about everybody else. Regardless of that, I told my wife before we got married.

I can't stress enough: secrets destroy a marriage. There is no such thing as a "little white lie". The bigger the secret, and the longer you hide it, the more certain it will be that your relationship cannot withstand the inevitable moment when the lie is discovered. I will tell nobody else ever about my crossdressing, but as soon as the future Mrs. Ralph and I started seriously talking marriage plans, I made sure she knew exactly what she was getting into. I approached it delicately, in guy clothes: something along the lines of "There's something you need to know about me before we go any further. I don't always buy my clothes from the men's side of the store. I can't explain it, but I also know that I can't stop it. I like soft things..." etc. I also made it *very* clear that I had no desire or intention to make people believe I'm female or do any hardware changes to become female; I only like to wear women's clothes. By the time I got through all that, she was relieved it was "only" crossdressing and not a major marriage breaker like being gay or already married.

I had a similar talk with my (now grown) kids when I thought they were old enough to understand. They're very uncomfortable about it - maybe it embarrasses them, maybe they're afraid someone outside the family will find out - so for their sake I wear something with pants while they are in the house (never mind that the PJs and blouses still come from the women's side of the store, they're still pants). When it's just the missus and me, I dress freely and enjoy every minute of it. She doesn't discuss it or get involved, doesn't encourage it or buy me things, but neither does she complain... and that's all I could ever ask.

All of the above goes by way of explaining that we need to make concessions too. We can't demand that our loved ones become fanatically excited about what we do, although I understand that some here are blessed to have just such eagerly participating spouses. What we do makes us *different* to the extreme, and different is scary for most people. I can't blame them at all for being at the very least confused by our urges - heck, after 40 years I'm still confused myself. So if your wife isn't so wild about the dressing, give her plenty of time with you as a guy and find times when it won't bother her so much to have you dressing up.

Marriage is a give and take relationship; you have to give a little on your side if you want her to do the same for you.

ralph

[spretzatura]

I told my wife about 7 years ago that I was interested in wearing her clothes. At first she was really turned on to the idea, and she gave me several complete sets of clothing from her wardrobe: Dresses, gowns, bras, undies, garters, stockings, etc -- but no shoes.

We would also go into clothing stores and go into the changing rooms together so I could try on clothes. But after a while she started resenting it when I would borrow something else from her wardrobe, and the final straw came when she had just bought some new lingerie and I tried it on before she did. Big mistake!!!

She is especially turned on when I am dressed during lovemaking.

All that being said, she is afraid that I might start associating with other CD's or have sex outside our marriage.

I have never gone out dressed in public, except on Halloween. My fantasy is to go out dressed with my wife to go clothes shopping. I told her this and she told me that she wouldn't go with me unless I shaved my beard, and that she didn't want me to shave it because she liked it too much. So, yes, I know that I am extremely limited unless I shave, but I'm not ready to go against her wishes there yet. At first I felt uncomfortable looking at myself dressed with a beard, but my wife is really turned on by it. I'm slowly warming up to it.

As far as being a full time CD, I'd have to get passable before I could consider it. On the other hand, I really enjoy being dressed all day inside our house with my wife, and also sleeping in soft silk nightees. OK, I'll stop now.

[dann]

My wife tried for 4 years after finding out to live with it. She couldn't. She's leaving me a week from today as a matter of fact. It really sucks.

My fem side is always with me, always on my mind and leaks in to things I do in guy mode. The same is true vice versa. But I don't intend on making any permanent changes.

dann
(Leena)

[Bea A]

I told my wife just after Christmas. We have been married 8.5 years. So far she has been very supportive. I have eliminated all male underclothes (other than undershirts). Today for work I wore pantyhose and a girdle under my male clothes and once home I put a bra on. This is becoming more the norm. She and I have gone shopping for clothes and shoes ; even been in the dresssing room while I try clothes on. But we have only done this while I am dressed as a man. We still have kids at home, so my dressing is limited to when they are out of town. Saturday will be a big day, we are attending our first meeting and I am fully dressing for the event. She is still trying to digest all of this. As far a dressing full time; once the kids are out of the house (at least 7 years away) I would prefer be Lisa 24/7, but that is a bridge to be crossed later. Lots of time between now and then.

[Kelli Michelle]

She hates it when I go out dressed, thinks once a month too much, even though she agreed to twice a month (she musta been under duress). She prefers to not talk about it all, except to make rude comments. She can't imagine me dressed, and equates mtf cders as guys in skirts, uglier than any woman, and totally ridiculous----sigh.:p

[Kerrie Sifton]

Since I have only really come out to myself in the past few months, I am in the discussion stage with my spouse.. First I had to decide if it was really where I wished to go, as I have had a fondness for lingerie for many years. Then I saw my legs in heels and a skirt... oh oh, and now after the first and second full makeover I realize that being feminine at times is an integral part of me....
So will have to let you know if my spouse is going to be on board.

In doing some research I have seen the book My Husband Betty and I have come across an internet site the Crossdressers Secret Garden. These might help in my explanation to my SO.. I hope..

I appreciated all the responses on this site... trying to introduce candor in a long term marriage will certainly take some effort

[sfwarbonnet]

I have only been out en femme with my wife a couple times. Both times a Halloween party provided the “excuse”, but once when I put her hand under my skirt on the way home and I climbed into bed still wearing lingerie so she could get-in-my-panties, she asked me to remove the "girl things" before we had sex. She usually doesn’t want to see me “dressed”, so it was a significant step when she saw me wearing panties, a slip, and pantyhose in our hotel room on a recent trip. I was “underdressing” when we were in public though, as she then didn’t want me to impersonate a female in public. She has subsequently bought women’s pull-on pants, panties, and pantyhose for me, and said to wear whatever I want at home (which I do – taking off the slacks and top in the evening and changing to a plain dress). Next comes a bra at home, then light makeup and neutral nail polish. Then all-the-way in public. I have heard that Vegas is a constant Halloween party and nobody cares what you wear, so that may be an “excuse” in an environment in which I am not likely to be recognized. I know the annual LV Star Trek con has a costume contest. Are there other excuses too?

[JuAnn]

Hi Chloe
My wife knows about my lifelong desire to be feminine but she wants no part of it. our children are on their own now and I am in lingerie daily as I can wear a 38A without being noticed. When she travels, it is fullblown i.e. painted nails, makeup, skirts, heels, the works.

JuAnn

[PanteeQueen]

My wife is uncomfortable with it. I'm not sure if she finds it disgusting or wrong. I told her about 4 years ago. She said I can do it on my own She is very femine herself, I think that might one of the issues. She constantly says that she's the girl. Although she is slowly warming up to the idea.

[ChibiKaiju]

Reading through this thread I can see I'm definitely blessed. She found out pretty early in our relationship (I like 6 months in.... that was 7 years ago..wow). And she's been nothing but supportive and understanding (even when I make it hard for her heh). Really if it weren't for her, I still wouldn't know anything about make-up lol

As for going fulltime, I thought about it a lot in highschool and college. Then I met some actual MtF girls (two of which I consider good friends) and decided its just not for me, them yes but it's not what I want in life.

[linnea]

SO doesn't know but probably would not approve and would think that it is kinky; I would go 24/7 if at all possible.

[LeslieBird]

My wife found out a couple of years ago. She's been very tolerant -- she lets me dress and go out and even went with me once. She only asks that I don't obsess on it, and doesn't let it into our personal relationship. Basically, while she isn't thrilled with the idea -- she says she likes me as a male not a female -- she understands its part of me. Overall very understanding. I am lucky.

[tammie]

Hi Everyone:

I started at age 14, my mother caught me in her bra pantygirdle garterbelt/stockings and slip two weeks after I discovered lingerie.

A week later I came home from school and she had shopped fo me and I had my own bra LLPG and slip.

First wife didn't know, I had not dressed at all when I walked in on her screwing 2 guys, later that night she confided she was still sleeping with her father.

She left me and moved home to her "daddy" and we divorced shortly afterward.

2nd wife caught me in her bra and she had me in a garterbelt and stockings and slip within the hour.

She totally feminized me and then started dating, and shortly after that she divorced me.

Over the following 2 decades I was CDing constantly and several GFs found my lingerie and all went balistic and left.

Last one was aware from the start and although she didn't like it she was able to tolerate me in panties as long as they were not pink or lace.

She told me she never wanted to "see me in a bra".

That relationship lasted 5 yrs then she split as I would not marry her.

Now I am a single old queen and I accept myself as what I am and I am happy.

[Margot]

I'm one of the lucky ones whose wife is accepting. She acknowleges my needs and is truly helpful and encouraging. We shop all the itme together although I'm always in drab but she values my opinion and feels my tastes in clothes are very good. She prefers mostly stylish clothes but knows that I like more prissie things as she puts it.
We have boundaries the big one seems to be that she does not want to be embarassed by my dressing in public. I respect her feelings in that regard. However; we enjoy doing femme things together at home where I am usually fully dressed.
:hugs:
Margot

[sfwarbonnet]

My wife is uncomfortable with it. I'm not sure if she finds it disgusting or wrong. I told her about 4 years ago. She said I can do it on my own She is very femine herself, I think that might one of the issues. She constantly says that she's the girl. Although she is slowly warming up to the idea.


My wife now wants me to be the "man", but her presentation is masculine – no make up, skirts, nylons. or sexy lingerie – it seems that she doesn’t want to dress like a woman but I do. She is shopping now for panties and tights for me. She said I could wear whatever I want at home, and I do. In the evening I take off my top and pull-on pants, so the pantyhose and slip are uncovered. She seems to be OK with that, but appearing with her in public as a woman would be a challenge. I hope that I wear her down before I wear out!

[Roxi Loh]

Where do I start. My wife has known since before we were married and it carried in the bedroom on occasion. She has dressed with me in sexy outfits and put on my makeup and I have made her up. About 4 years ago she told me she couldnt participate anymore. It was a blow but I was still able to dress around her. So now I dress when I can and in front of her but I now have begun going out as Roxanne to tgurl parties and such. It got me more involved with the internet and the tg side of it. I love being able to go out as a woman. The feeling is so exhilerating. I wish she would be a part of it.

[Bluesman]

My wife is accepting of it, though not completely comfortable with it, but I think is trying to understand it. I don't dress in front of her, though I will wear a nightgown to bed periodically. I would like to feel comfortable dressing in front of her, but I don't want to invade her comfort zone. Right now, she's out and I'm wearing a bra w/ breast forms, panties, dress and flats. She always calls before she's on her way home, and I'll change before she gets here. The other day I had changed out of femme clothes and was upstairs in the shower when she got home. I had forgotten and left my shoes downstairs; she came up and said "what's with the shoes?". I honestly didn't know what she was talking about and said, "What shoes?" "The white sandals", she said. I just said, "Oops. I meant to put them away". She just said, "They're cute, where'd you get them?" Later we talked a little about CDing, and she mentioned that I should get a better dress! So it seems we're going someplace with this, but I'm not sure where yet. As far as dressing full time, I have no desire to do that, except for short periods of time (i.e. maybe a few days now and then.)

[Linda Laman]

My wife accepts it and is quite happy when I am a girl. When we are out shopping together, she often spots clothes or jewelry that she thinks I might like and buys them for me. She does not wear make-up so I have to find my own way there, but at least she can buy it for me if I tell her what to buy. The only thing she is uncomfortable with is going out with me when I am dressed en femme - she thinks something nasty might happen. At home she has no problem with me dressing any time I want. I have a CD friend who has invited us both to dinner next Saturday - I will be dressed en femme for that of course and will be driving the car, so hope we don't meet a policeman on the way!

[sfwarbonnet]

My wife is accepting of it, though not completely comfortable with it, but I think is trying to understand it. I don't dress in front of her, though I will wear a nightgown to bed periodically. I would like to feel comfortable dressing in front of her, but I don't want to invade her comfort zone. Right now, she's out and I'm wearing a bra w/ breast forms, panties, dress and flats. She always calls before she's on her way home, and I'll change before she gets here. The other day I had changed out of femme clothes and was upstairs in the shower when she got home. I had forgotten and left my shoes downstairs; she came up and said "what's with the shoes?". I honestly didn't know what she was talking about and said, "What shoes?" "The white sandals", she said. I just said, "Oops. I meant to put them away". She just said, "They're cute, where'd you get them?" Later we talked a little about CDing, and she mentioned that I should get a better dress! So it seems we're going someplace with this, but I'm not sure where yet. As far as dressing full time, I have no desire to do that, except for short periods of time (i.e. maybe a few days now and then.)

Parts of your post sound familiar. Sne's at work now, so I'm wearing a stuffed bra with my pamties, suntan pantyhose, and a beige slip. When she is home I wear these - sans bra. When we go out, I underdress, but when we're home alone. I change from women's pull-on pants and a top to a dress as I did again last night. She seems to be OK with that and she got me panties, pantyhose, thigh highs, and a garter belt. Although I routinely wear a tank–top slip now, a bra slip with a small cup size would be better. I am now comfortable having boobs and wearing a bra, and I want to wear one all the time. I want to grow my breasts to a B so I can fill it naturally. This would be a giant step toward going all-the-way, as I would need to wear a bra and it would present my wife with a fait accompli. When I'm sure that that is in her comfort zone, I'll add a stand-alone bra, wig, and make-up when she's here, with the objective of getting a makeover and going out with her en femme.

[Diane Douglas]

My wife knows and is not accepting of this part of me. She would prefer it go away for good.

Transition, I don't think so.

[sfwarbonnet]

My wife knows and is not accepting of this part of me. She would prefer it go away for good.

Transition, I don't think so.

I wear lots of clothes from the women's department, i.e. pull-on pants, panties, pantyhose, and a short slip. These are a better option than clothes from the men's department, and I don't think the department should matter and men should be as comfortable wearing women's clothing as women are in wearimg men's clothing, but I seem to be swimming upstream on this. See my post starting the Suitable Clothing thread. Recently, my wife found an incredible sale at Kohl's on women's pull-on slacks, however when I asked if she got me any she said no as they were women's pants. She showed them to me, and they looked lile unisex pants as would be necessary in "boy" mode so dhe needs to be "trained" to shop for me too! Underdressing daily makes me want to go all-the-way, but this would be a major challenge, although she bought most of my femme clothes. She said to wear whatever I want at home (I do!), she wishes I would wear only men's clothes and would balk at my wearing a bra, wig, makeup, and earrings.

[vjaducd]

My wife hates it with a passion and lets no occasion unused to rub it in...

While I get chased by the guys when out and about and unexpectedly complimented by many women, she keeps telling me I am the ugliest woman on the face of the earth...

For what concerns living full time? I'd love to and I am working hard on it. As soon as I've got my job situation worked out, I'll go full time...including hormones, SRS, FFS, breast implants, a face lift... the works!

I just can't wait to dump all my male clothing in the garbage bin...

:love:Dita.

I have same feelings & my wife neither allows me nor help me cding. but I would also love to be permanent female & will through male cloths in garbage.
vjaducd.from India:hugs::love::thumbsup:

[chrissy hunt]

I have a long term of s/o of 9 years we've recently been blessed with a little babt girl as well so we may as well be married.
she hates it and finds it very uncomfortable but is willing to try and make it work because we love each other so much- she has no interest in it all but gives me time to express that side of myself in private.
I found it has knocked her confidence alot so i do throttle back the pink mist sometimes- its a compromise but it works............ just :o

[sfwarbonnet]

I’ve heard that taking female hormones induces breast growth, but it also obviates male functionality. If one is transitioning to be a female full-time this is probably not a showstopper, but for wives of part time females (as many CD’s are) it might be. My wife wouldn't go for me wearing breastforms, but I would like to have bigger breasts (and thus present her with a fait accompli) so I would need to wear a bra and could naturally fill a B cup, but still have working male genitals. Any suggestions?

[pahosegirl]

My wife allows me to dress whenever I can and is very accepting of my dressing as long as I maintain limits to how often and being discreet about it.

[Sigrid Cutie]

well she hates it, and as long as she doesn't see it she is ok with it.
as for your other question, yes alot of time i have wish i was female.

[Lisa O]

Married 22 years. Wife has known for about 9 years. She doesn't mind or care. I am underdressed every day and all my laundry gets done with everything else.

We don't talk about it much and I do not make it a big thing. I do show off anything new and nice I buy. A week ago I discussed something I had read on here with her. She was fine and looked at a few pics of some of you. we then talked about the kids and if they notice. she thought they probably already have (I am not dressed around them) We agreed we would have deal with that issue one day - no biggie! Nice it is "we" who will deal with it!

Going for a laser consultation in an hour or so to see what they can do to reduce hair on my face. It may be a case of getting there by little steps! Wife's only comments just a minute ago were "for your back?" and "be prepared for the cost". I think my back and front can be managed with the epilator!

Going all the way - not likely as I am not sure if that is who I am or want to be. Still just a cd!:)

[Donnaph]

Due to the fact we live in a small town in East TN...I can only go out under dressed....she is very supportive and we either shop together or she sometimes will suprise me.....:)

[Fuzzy4504]

My wife was really cool about it,so far she's been helping me with sizes and tips on shaving.We have a very open relationship, She's bi and into B&D,so I'm allowed my fun without question

[Tracy46]

The wife understands the reasons but at a certain point I think she finds it not attractive as she wants to see her man not another woman. Though I'm taking BO to grow my breasts and add femininity I don't think I want to go full time dressed as I do enjoy being a male at times but would like more time to dress up. Kids and stuff inhibits that..

I was told on another forum that I'm a transgenderist, One that dresses both ways and does not want to have surgery to remove my male parts. Which is true I like my male parts but at the same time I would like breasts as well more femininity.

I can understand the confusion at times as it's hard to be both and desire to be dressed but have to put up a front to keep the family happy. Torn...

[sfwarbonnet]

The wife understands the reasons but at a certain point I think she finds it not attractive as she wants to see her man not another woman. Though I'm taking BO to grow my breasts and add femininity I don't think I want to go full time dressed as I do enjoy being a male at times but would like more time to dress up. Kids and stuff inhibits that..

I was told on another forum that I'm a transgenderist, One that dresses both ways and does not want to have surgery to remove my male parts. Which is true I like my male parts but at the same time I would like breasts as well more femininity.

I can understand the confusion at times as it's hard to be both and desire to be dressed but have to put up a front to keep the family happy. Torn...

Being a male is a front for me too. But my wife want her “man” and the Kids and Grandkids often drop it, so I underdress except in the evening when I take off my pants and top and wear a dress with panties, pantyhose, and slip. My wife sems to be OK with that. No bra though unless she’s at work – like now. I stuff the bra now, but I would like to enlarge my breasts to be a natural B so I would need to wear a bra full time. What’s BO? And does it affect male functionality?

[Tracy46]

Hi yea I'm using BO (Bovine Ovaries) pills.. They are the middle road in-between Herbs and HRT drugs. After a lot of research BO will make changes to your body as well emotions and if on it for more then 6 Months the changes are perm.

“Bovine ovary breast enhancement supplements are essentially derived from specially prepared and freeze dried ovaries taken from a female cow. Similar to some of the same hormones you will find in meats and cheeses, just in a 
different form that is specifically engineered to promote breast tissue growth.”

Since I have been taking them I have noticed all kinds of changes as well strong feminine feelings..

As for the male parts they are functional and if anything my desire and functionality is better.. It's like my testosterone is fights the Estrogen..

[sfwarbonnet]

Thanks for the info on BO. So you would be a boy with boobs and need to wear a bra, yippee!. You can see if you would be comfortable wearing a bra full-time by running errands wearing one with only a shirt and slip to cover it (I just did that). With a bra, I would be wearing women'''s slacks, panties, pantyhose, slip, and bra full-time, and boobs and needing a bra would be a fait accompli. The next step would probably be to appear full-time as a woman, as that might raise fewer eyebrows than a boy with boobs. But you would need your wife to accept you as another woman and to go out with you en femme.

[Tracy46]

Well yes and no.. I'm not going for Double D's and plan on stopping at a certain point when I have achieved the results I'm looking for.. But I also enjoy being a guy at times and the wife likes that better.. But at my age it's not uncommon for a mans T levels to go down and the funny part is that the wife's E level will be reduced at same time.. Role reversal :-)

But once the kids move out and it's just the wife and I then maybe I will be time to go full time..

We will see I have several years before that occurs..

[Tammy298]

My wife and I were both married before and because of that, we were both more open minded and cautious in our relationship together. Before we moved in together, she was aware of that i had an interest in crossdressing, as well as some other bedroom activities. :D Although I do underdress frequently and wear panties 24/7, both of which I really enjoy, anything else beyond the bedroom isn't very practical with kids around.

One thing that bothers me is the she never asks or even hints that she'd like me to wear something, anything, in or out of bed. Over the last year, this has really started bothering me. Not that I'm not very thankful for having such a caring and loving wife, but because of past experiences with my ex. I'm fearful that she's only doing it to please me. Does anyone else feel that way? I just wish she would talk about things more.... My ex often did that with some other kinky things she liked to do. She'd through it up in my face even in front of a counselor, when it suited her! Then a few days later, she'd ask, if not nearly beg to do it again. ...and that's not the only reason she's now me ex!

A couple of years ago, my current wife and I got away for a 3 day weekend in a rather secluded cabin in the southern part of the state. We had a great time but dressing beyond lingerie never really entered my mind! Sitting in the outside hot tub in a bra, panties, garter belt and stocking (took the heels off before I got in!) was one of the best experiences I've had other than sex! I'm really, really hoping we can do that again soon! When we do, I plan on staying a few more days and this time, bring some clothes to dressup all the way.

I'm pretty sure she'll be OK with my dressing up all the way and need to start bringing up the subject of buying other things like a wig, breast forms, and some nice skirts, blouses and dresses. Maybe bring this up will offer her a chance to voice more of an opinion and her feelings about my interest in crossdressing?

As far as dressing up 24/7 or anything else beyond that? Other than a few days on trip occasionally, I'm not interested. Although I think I would find it really exciting, and scary, to go out dressed up, I don't think I could ever pass. It is a bit of a fantasy, and maybe, just maybe sometime when we're away I'll give it some serious thought!

[Rachael]

When she found my stash my wife was relieved when I told her, she thought that I had a mistress keeping her stuff in my wardrobe. Since then she mostly igonres it, as long as I keep it private.
:daydreaming:

[stacee2008]

My wife is what I and many others would call a "tom-boy". She is very pretty when she wants to be, but most of the time she keeps the make-up and girlie clothes to a minimum. Therefore, she is very jealous of how I look when en femme. She says that I don't make a pretty woman, contrary to what others think. Two years ago before we were married, I dressed on a regular basis when she was at work. I decided that I needed to tell her about my sexy little habit well before our wedding and she was taken-back a bit but accepted it. That Halloween, we were invited to a "80's" themed costume party. I decided to go as Tina Turner and my wife said that "you have the perfect legs for it". So, that was awesome and I thought that this was the start of something pretty special. But then the roof came down-she said that after the party she didn't want me dressing any more:sad:. So, back to square one. As you all know, you can't just stop being who you are, if you purge and get rid of all of your goodies, you'll be kicking yourself for throwing money down the drain. I put all of my goodies in a duffle bag and put it in a secret hiding place for a rainy day. She figured that it was gone and that I could just flip a switch in my brain and 'Stacee' would be gone. So it's been around eight months or so since that happened, and I am slowly 'pushing the envelope', gradually working on her to accept the fact that I have a very strong feminine side that needs to be catered to. I am routinely shaving my body hair, painting my toes and even using her girlie body washes and lotions to her approval:). I am going very slow with this whole process as I don't want to overwhelm her. So, long story-short, my wife knows but turns a 'blind eye' to it.

[sfwarbonnet]

My wife hates it with a passion and lets no occasion unused to rub it in...

While I get chased by the guys when out and about and unexpectedly complimented by many women, she keeps telling me I am the ugliest woman on the face of the earth...

For what concerns living full time? I'd love to and I am working hard on it. As soon as I've got my job situation worked out, I'll go full time...including hormones, SRS, FFS, breast implants, a face lift... the works!

I just can't wait to dump all my male clothing in the garbage bin...

:love:Dita.

Mine tolerates it as long as there is a non-CD justification. I routinely wear women's pull-on pants, panties, pantyhose, and a chemise slip. I want to wear a bra too, but now that is limited to when she's away (like now). I have filled it (B cup) with flag-folded socks, wish I could fill it naturally. Perhaps I could wear a bra full-time if I could find a body slip with a bra...

p.s. I am slowly learning the acronyms. What's FFS?

[Stefanie_Adams]

My wife is tolerant of me ( meaning that she lets me wear my hair long and pluck my eyebrows and dye my hair) and knows that this is a great part of me. At times she will make comments and kid me but she doesn't help with clothes or makeup or any of that. at this time she never wants to see me dressed nor does she participate. she can't bring herself to do that.

Often I think about, what if the shoe was on the other foot and that is a very hard question for me to answer, since I am who I am would produce an answer that I would be accepting, but what if I wasn't born like I was.

As far as living full time, I think it is a state of mind as well I am always Stefanie inside but to actually persue living full time is not practical for me at this time, but I know deep in my heart that I will tread as closely to the line of full transition as I can. And I think that my wife thinks about that from time to time as she has said "she keeps waiting for the other shoe to drop". But we have made a commitment to each other and are together now through trust and love.(even thought the trust part the first 13 years of marriage I was hiding, and she says that I even wear a shroud about it in present day)

[sometimes_miss]

p.s. I am slowly learning the acronyms. What's FFS?
Facial feminization surgery.

[cdterri]

I'm not sure why but over the last 45 yrs I have had 6 long term relationships and never had a problem with any of my s.o.'s concerning my cding. Only thing I've ever done is feel the women in my life out before allowing the relationship to go too far

[christinek]

My wife shops with and for me. She bought me a dress for Christmas. She bought me a girly necklace and charm for valentines day. She supports and encouraged me to sign up and go to the next Southern Comfort Conference.

She wants to go to the next event in Vegas so she can have an excuse to go to Vegas. I consider myself lucky!

Christine

[MaryAnn40c]

My wife knows but she has feels its just wrong for men to dress in womens clothing. She has never seen me dressed but she has seen my clothes and makeup from time to time. We don't talk about my crossdressing but from timto time it does come up,hopefully we talk more about it.:2c:

[babieboo502]

well my wife found a pair of my panties one time and i had to tell her or let her think i was cheating. so i did and she freaking loved it! kinky, kinky ,stuff happened after that. but sense then its been about 5 years and havnt even talked about it once i still hide my gear and dress after she leaves for some reason.... i think i just want her to see me as a man i feel strange about the whole thing..but i know she would let me dress as much as i want and even buy my cloths if i let her in..(its just letting her in is hard)

[xd-tigger]

I'm very lucky, my wife is 100% fine with me dressing up, in fact she encourages it.

[Sophie Lynne]

My wife thinks it's disgusting. The whole idea. (I dressed for Halloween last year) Thats why I can't let on that I do it. She will divorce me- she said so.

[LA CINDY LOVE]

crossdresing is almost like having a affair and is very hard on a relationship with all the sneakiness laying and shellfishes that goes on.......until you get caught.

From what I have read most wifes do not like it find it disgusting or just tolerates it........just like my wife dose.

LA CINDY LOVE

[kimberly ann487]

That my wife thinks that I should be put away for wanting to dress like a woman is the good part. The lies hurt her, and me ultimately, worse.:sad:
KIM

[gretchenD]

My wife Nikki loves it,we even go shopping together and calls my crossdressing a special gift I have.She also encourages me which is good.

[sfwarbonnet]

crossdresing is almost like having a affair and is very hard on a relationship with all the sneakiness laying and shellfishes that goes on.......until you get caught.

From what I have read most wifes do not like it find it disgusting or just tolerates it........just like my wife dose.

LA CINDY LOVE

Hiding clothes and femme accessories is not an option, and going "out" alone is not an option either (I can't drive or walk). I usually underdress with panties, pantyhose, and short slip when we go out, take off my women’s pull-on pants and top and change to a dress in the evening, and add her bra whenever she's away. The kids are out of town too, so I’m wearing the dress now with a bra. I wonder if my wife may have "caught on" that I wear her bras when she's away, as her previously-worn ones are getting harder to find…

[RWillow]

My wife hates it .

[sfwarbonnet]

My wife hates it and thinks that I am some kind of freek and should be put away. Would I want to live as a woman 24/7? In a heartbeat, if it were not for age and health problems I would already be on my journey to transistion.

Ditto. Today my wife will be away all day so I’m planning to wear a dress, bra, panties, pantyhose, and slip as I now know she will tolerate that sans bra and removing “stuffing” is fast if she comes home unexpectedly.

[Ralph]

My wife thinks it's disgusting. The whole idea. (I dressed for Halloween last year) Thats why I can't let on that I do it. She will divorce me- she said so.

Wow, that's extreme. Did she know before you got married? Have you talked to her about the fact that you can't stop the desire no matter how much you want to? Have you made it clear that you're not gay (assuming you aren't), not looking to transition (assuming you aren't), etc.?

ralph

[Crystal Rose]

I'm happily married and although my wife enjoys me dressing up she doesn't want a wife, just a husband. I'm happy with that also.

[sissystephanie]

When I proposed to my darling wife back in the '50s, I told her that I was a CD. She asked me if I wanted to become a woman. I told her, "No, I just like to dress like one." Then she said, "Will you always be my man, no matter what you are wearing?" I answered, "Of course! I am a man!" She told me that she could help me look more like a woman!!

We wore matching white silk lingerie at our wedding and had 49+ years of happiness before cancer took her. And yes, we did go out often as two girls!!:love:

[Lori Robins]

My wife of three weeks (I was the bride) is mostly accepting but doesn't like coming out with me and I can't dress at home, well I can, but not when the kids are around which curtails my dressing activities greatly. I want to dress more but don't get the chance very often and my wife prefers me more as a man for some weird reason :idontknow: .
As far as going full time, sometimes I think it would be the best thing in the world and other times I like being a guy.
If you get the awnsers from all these comments you will be very rich. lol

[LOVE2]

hello all my wife loves it i even wear bed clothes she said she whats me to do this for ever :hugs:

[Sheila Wren]

My loves it when i dress and we even go out to clubs and meet others. We go shopping from time to time

[Stockingstopgirl]

Wife doesn't know the nearest I have got to her knowing was both of us wearing stockings in bed. Everytime anything about CD's comes on the tele she acts disgusted.

[sfwarbonnet]

It has now become customary for me to wear pantyhose, slip, and a dress in the evening. I went out to check the mail so attired a couple nights ago, and my wife remarked that "you went out dressed like that?" Now I want to do it in daylight...

[Pink_Lace]

mine is fine with it, though i do hear the occasional "you look better in that stuff than me" comment :)

as far as the woman thing, yes and no, i don't even try to be femme but sometimes i think i would just so i could wear my clothes and be myself all the time

[sfwarbonnet]

I was wearing black pantyhose and black shorts recently when my wife came home. She said not to wear them again as it looks "silly". I appreciate her feedback, and I won't wear that combination agsin. But I do like pantyhose with shorts as the pantyhose avoid bare legs sticking to chairs. Maybe she would be OK wiyh suntan pantyhose and tan shorts. but it's too cold today to try it

[Maria in heels]

My wife knows about my crossdressing, and over the years, has actually become more comfortable with Maria. She is, however, hesitant to allow Maria to venture out, even on Holloween, when it would be least obvious. I have a feeling that she is getting more and more 'relaxed' about Maria, and actually had a wonderful time last weekend shoe shopping for my wife. She actually modeled her shoes for me, and asked if I wanted a matching pair, in my size. I was caught off guard, and when we go shopping again in a couple of weeks, I just might take her up on her offer and buy a matching pair of shoes in my size..wonder how the saleswoman is going to react...I will let you know....

[Nancyjo]

Mine has no idea and would spontaneously combust if she knew.

[VeronicaH]

When our dating got serious I told my then girlfriend I was a CD expecting her to tell me to go to hell. To my supprise all she said was "So what". We've been happily married for 5 wonderful years now. She accepts me as I am and even helps with makeup and clothes. As for your other question there's a lot I like about being a man but I think I would enjoy being a woman more.

[suspender]

Karren said it way back. If if is not in their face then they dont care. Out-of-sight then out-of-mind. Sure, she knows, but if she doesnt want to see then I respect that. She hears (heels) but says its ok, particularly later at night. Its only me that misses out on the sleep!! ;)

[anuradha]

I am happily married and have kid. she has no idea i dress up (though i use most her wardrobe). she will never accept it and i do want to risk our marriage. so have live with it

[BarbiB]

Mine knows. And even used to allow me to partially dress back in our "bedroom years". Now that she no longer has the physical ability nor desire to be intimate, she pretends to never have enjoyed anything beyond the missionary position. She totally freaks at the mere mention of my "kinks". I pursue my interests on the QT in pursuit of domestic tranquility.

[ColletteCD]

Mine knows, and so far doesn't seem to mind, and actually participates to a point, since she gets some enjoyment. Since we have kids, it is on a limited basis, but when they leave and there is free time, you bet I am getting some lingerie on. We are the same size, so she officially said that the underwear drawer is community property, but I haven't seen her wear my old briefs yet, but she is welcome to.

[loardata]

She hated it it with a passion, that's why i had to get rid of everything:sad:

[dutch-anita]

she loves it because she loves me for what I am (it makes me more special) If in drab for too long she ask me why I don't dress
sometimes I like beeing me and sometimes I want to be me!

[Kathleengurl]

i'm very fortunate to have a loving and very supporting wife. She thinks i should dress way more than i do. gawd i love that woman!.

V/R --k

[Koka]

My wife accepts it fine. She has in fact bought me some stuff before and she supports it because she says that as long as I am happy it is fine. She just wants to see me happy and content. However, she says she is not ready to spend some time with me in my fem mode. I understand and respect that. I love her to death and I think she loves me too, may be less than me but she does it her own way. She is a very feminine woman and love her style, in fact, I always tell her that I want to be like her when I "grow up" LOL

As being in fem all time, I don't think I would like that, I enjoy being both male and female and also, I need to respect my children, they are still very young to understand my crossdressing.

Love

KK

:love:

[serina lopez]

i recently told my fiance about 8 mos ago. she really wanted to see me dressed. when she first saw a pic of me on my digital camera, right before she saw me in person,, her first comment was , " wow,, you look good." i luved hearing that.
now, she says she doesnt want me to stop, but is mixed about it. time will tell.

[melinda45]

my so. just went and got us some new cloths ! still not sure how far she is willing to go with melinda ? but its good so far :)

[glynnis]

I am very lucky my wife knows and encourages me.She buys my lingerie and make up.As soon as my daughter goes off to school in the mornings I dress,girdle.stockings,panties,bra and this morning a new green dress she bought for me.We sometimes go out for a drive together when dressed.Havnt had the guts to come out fully yet altho she has been encouraging me to.:daydreaming:

[Jan Michell Collins]

My wife knows about Jan But I realy don't know what she thinks ,,,She say's she still loves me but when ever I ask her if she has any questions or want to talk about it she will change the subject very quickly.
The only time we have spoken about CD'ing in general was after we wached the "chuck and lary move. She ask me if I liked it and I said it's ok then she ask if it made me uncomfortable I told her no but I didn't like the parts when they made fun of the CD's/TG's/TS's but haven't said any thing sence.
Maby one day we'll talk about Jan and Jan can come to life .

[Jessica Who]

My wife knows about it and supports me because she has learned that it is an integral part of who I am. We've certainly had our share of cd-related fights, but as time passes things are easier for us. She has also been incredibly helpful in helping me to develop in my identity by assisting me in makeup, outfits and with my blog.

[Donnadcd]

Careless? Not exactly sure. She was also curious and went looking. But I'm glad it's finally out. It's like a weight off my shoulders. Gonna have to wait and see where this goes from here.

Nowhere is more like it. She hates the idea, never mind my telling her that I would like to consider transitioning at the first opportunity. She insisted that I get counseling, which I did. A psychiatrist immediately put me on anti-depressants which just made me feel like an eggplant. Got off as soon as I could.

I've had 1 session with a gender therapist which is exactly what I need. Trying to get back there again. Would like to begin taking hormones and work closer towards transition. I realize it's not a pink fog, but something I need to do. It's the ultimate price to my family and marriage that is holding me back. Since we haven't spoken too much about it, she calls it the "elephant in the room". If we do talk about it, the whole thing becomes strained because she feels it will only "make her look like a fool". I think it's just a matter of time.

[Erica A.]

Mine is totally cool with and accepting of "Erica". She shops for her and shares everything with her. We often go out together while I'm en femme. it's no big deal. I think this is possible because we are not lacking anything in our traditional role's as a couple. It's not "costing" her anything, rather, It's an enhancement to our relationship. She get's her need's fulfilled by her husband and provider, and then get's to have a fun time with my other side. Our two young girl's are fine with Erica also, because they still get their traditional family unit need's fulfilled. They seem to understand what's going on and like to play along. :heehee:
As far as wanting to go full time, I really enjoy both sides of my inner self and wouldn't make any permanant changes. Although, I do think about it. I like being a man. I also like being a gurl who can put her boob's in the drawer and her hair on the shelf when needed. :battingeyelashes: -Erica

[Katrina red nails]

Its been ages since i last posted to this thread but in that period my wife has now left me. Not entirely due to my dressing but it certainly was a factor in it. She also recently told me that the two sons (24 and 17) still living at home "know more than you think" so i decide to out myself to them only to find they didnt know anything. Will post about the sons in the relevant thread if i can find it.

[Danielle Gee]

I try not to do anything stupid (like walking thru Wal-Mart on Saturday afternoon in 6"spikes and fishnet stockings) and she actually supports my CD'ing 99% of the time

[cdterri]

Wife has to dress up almost everyday but can't wait to get home and take off her bra and dress. So although She has no problem with Me dressing She just can't understand it. I tell Her it's the HARLEY DAVIDSON thing " IF I HAVE TO EXPLAIN IT YOU WON'T UNDERSTAND IT"

[Margot]

My wife is accepting of my dressing since she knows that it is truly a part of me. I dress fully when at home. I think she prefers I don't go out fully made up although I do wear feminine jeans and some tops when I go out. I also have female slacks and boots that I wear in the winter. I only wear slight makeup when I'm out as well.
We shop together for clothes and makeup. We each have our favourite brands and really don't share. On occasion my wife borrows a pair of earrings from me if she feels she does not have the right pair for the occasion.
We are each other's best friends as well as spouses. This year will mark our 25th. anniversary.
Margot

[madison lee]

I finally told my wife a few months ago. She said ok and the next day she went and bought me four new pairs of panties. Since then she has bought me a blouse, a skirt, LOTS of lingerie, and is talking about taking me to Vanity Transformations to get a make-over and get Vanity's opinion on the best look for me and wig, breast forms etc. I am really very lucky to have her.

I think what makes her so accepting is that she used to be into the BDSM scene. So she is a bit kinky herself.