a fleeting moment of desire
A fleeting moment of desire
More often than not, people long for attention. They have a yearning to be wanted, to feel sexy and desired. Society’s stigma is that for the most part only women are allowed this luxury. Most men, whether that admit it or not also strive to obtain that feeling. For certain men it comes to them when they Cross-dress. And that’s what I will be addressing for you today, the insight of why men would choose to dress and prance around as women.
To fully understand why a man would want to pretend to be women, you must think outside the box. You have to look upon this if you would as if you’re a satellite looking down on earth. Every day when you step outside your house, get into your car, your surround with the beauty of women. The pretty sexy girl on the billboard that ever gender stops and admires. The sexy voice on the radio selling you the latest in electronics. Women are placed on a pedal stool and idolized. Men want them, women want to be them. Clothing is one of the biggest parts of being a cross dresser. Walk into any department store, ¾ of the store will be women’s clothes from shoes, to dressing attire, right down to the seductive lingerie. The other ¼ if you’re lucky will be men’s clothes, with limited everything. There is not much of a variety when it comes to men clothing, it’s your basic color spectrum with stripes or squares. A big thing for me is comfortable underwear, let’s face it. Men have 2 options that are accepted by society. Rough cotton boxer; black or white. I don’t even need to list the material options or the array of choices women have. The other day I was at work browsing through Peoples magazine in the break room. It was an older edition that came out around the Grammy time. Now in most magazines they do the whole who had the nicest dress attire. It was three pages worth of these lovely elegant gowns, each one completely different in its own way. The last page was of men. They had four major celebrities all in the tuxedos. You know what I saw… Four of the same tuxedo made by different designer’s, there were no differences, they might had well been a military uniform, standard issued. I was appalled and it furthermore encouraged my own cross dressing.
So I’m sure you find yourself asking yes, this is all true but why would a man want all that? What you should be asking is why not. Would you like to live life everyday not knowing what lotions would make your skin even softer instead of so rough? Would you like to go through life with the same boring hair cut, instead of the cool style? Or how about be a high school boy with an acne problem or a facial blemish, and not be able to cover it up with make up like that girl with the same problem is able to. As men we are told that it is cool to have rough hands, it means you work hard, we don’t need clothes that feel soft on our body it makes us weak, we are not allowed to be afraid of that spider that is just a venomous to us as it is to women. Does any of that sound fair? But because we are men, we were born genetically into that sex, we take our roll and we deal with it. We are the bread winners, the hunters and the gathers, we protect the weaker ones. But for some of us when the day is done, we come home take a nice hot bath and slip into those soft nylons. Well put on a soft light silky dress after wearing those uncomfortable shirts and ties. We will apply the makeup that helps cover our tired and heavy eyes. We will wear hair that is long and soft and moves with the winds gentle breeze. And we will pretend that life is not what it is, it will be our escape to a life of pleasure. For a fleeting moment we will feel desired.
I'm seeking my own answers to this as well...
Having only started in the last week or so, I haven't had time nor opportunity to soul search this desire in me, but some of you have hit on what I think may be driving me.
Lately, with all the chaos in my life, I've had little to no time for myself. When I've donned the bra and sleeveless top, each time it almost felt like I was someone else, and perceived in a different way, one which brought attention to me, instead of everyone and everything else.
This was almost like a vacation away from my stressed self.
I'll have to look into this further. :daydreaming:
Kaity, u may be stepping AROUND the issues u mentioned!
Lots of terrific insite in the posts that FOLLOWED yours, tho!
As a man, it NEVER mattered HOW I dressed! I could'nt look good enuff to be noticed!:sad:
But, Sherry gets NOTICED A LOT!:D
That's NOT important for MANY CDs, but it IS for me! They're just trying to be themselves! But, I ENJOY pretending to be SOMEONE entirely DIFFERENT from me!
Of course, if they made fake upper body biceps, etc., for men, maybe I could have! But, that's NOT acceptable for men!
While it's PERFECTLY OK for women to wear;
girdles, fake boobs and butts, all sorts of devices that enhance their figures!:eek:
Well, I say, what's good for the goose, is good for the gander!:heehee:
NONE of this properly explains our motivation to dress in the first place! In my case, it never occurred to me to try it until I was 50+!:brolleyes:
