Does your SO allow you to dress in front of them, or prefer it hidden?

In my case she accepts and has not said I don't want to see it but I do not dress in front of her. She has never said go get dressed up for me.

So I only dress up in front of her on Halloween, she is comfortable with that day.:) When she is around I will undress, she knows I have shaved legs, painted toes, and have panties on.

I guess it's about not making her feel uncomfortable. I do tell her in advance when I'm going to play with makeup, that's kinda tough to hide, but still having facial hair might help there. I think getting the green light from our SO's is awesome and I don't want to push my luck.

hi marlenna my so actually helps me pick the right clothes when i am in a femme kind of mood which is quite often .so i am one of the luckycds davinaxx

You are right about not wanting to push it Marleena. Maybe in time her acceptance level will increase. But I think it has to be at the pace a wife or SO comes to terms with herself without any pushing. So hang in there and hope. But at the same time always show her how much you love and appreciate her.
I'm lucky in the sense that my SO likes to see me dressed and enjoys my maid service to her. She has no issues at all about seeing me dressed or my dressing in general. In fact she once said I would not be me to her if I did not dress.

I dress pretty much full time, including in the presence of my SO. The only exception is that she's unwilling to go out with me, locally. I'm hoping we can overcome that barrier soon.

I dress in front of her every day. We go out together shopping, dining, movies, etc all the times. In fact about 4 weeks ago we took a girls only vacation throughout New England. It was the first time for me and I loved it. She said she enjoyed it also and we may do it again soon.

At first I was very nervous to dress in front of her...then I was just nervous "dressing" in front of her. Now it's just as natural as anything else we do.

Think mine would prefer all my fem clothing would catch on fire... With me in them! Lol.

Cheryl, your relationship with your wife is where I hope we'll be in time. My wife is very accustomed to me being dressed at home. Its its simply who I am and I'm long past being self conscious about it. But I would love to do the things you and your wife have enjoyed together.

I may dress in front of my wife whenever I choose to dress and she will occasionally ask me to dress.

She is very supportive in sharing jewelry, buying me items and even suggesting things like leggings.

I keep track of the hours every year I spend dressed. I told her I am close to reaching last year’s figures and she told to go for it.

Not complaining but the only differences is I am treated like her girlfriend. I know nothing romantic will occur, that instead of sitting next to me on the couch she will sit in a chair near the couch and she will go out and do her errands while I am dressed.

At times she still has trouble seeing her man all dressed up, completely shaved, and in a different gender but overall she is great with it.

I will thank her for the things she does for me.

I dress full time,so am dressed in womans clothing in front of my SO and anyone ouse 100% of the time,i only have one mans shirt and one per of mens pants.

Hey Marleena - Gotta say I think (and I believe that you are saying) it is best if we are very comfortable with ourselves first then to spring it on our S/O in hope of getting any fortitude from them.. Kinda like 'crossdressing approval by osmosis'.

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In my case she accepts and has not said I don't want to see it but I do not dress in front of her. She has never said go get dressed up for me.

So I only dress up in front of her on Halloween, she is comfortable with that day.:) When she is around I will undress, she knows I have shaved legs, painted toes, and have panties on.

I guess it's about not making her feel uncomfortable. I do tell her in advance when I'm going to play with makeup, that's kinda tough to hide, but still having facial hair might help there. I think getting the green light from our SO's is awesome and I don't want to push my luck.

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I'm in a similar boat. She is supportive but usually does not like to see it. However, if there's a good excuse, then she's fine with it. She's gone out with me dressed one Halloween, and has performed along side me in two charity drag shows. Like you, I try not to push my luck, and let her set the level of her involvement.

Marleena

Have you thought of one day asking her if she would help you? It doesn't have to be a serious time, make it fun and have a laugh. If she says that she's not ready yet then accept that and tell her to let you know when she is ready.....just remember not to push or rush things.

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Marleena

Have you thought of one day asking her if she would help you? It doesn't have to be a serious time, make it fun and have a laugh. If she says that she's not ready yet then accept that and tell her to let you know when she is ready.....just remember not to push or rush things.

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Thanks Sandra. She accepts my dressing, and will help me purchase the things I need. I'm very lucky for that. I'm on my own as far as makeup goes. She wears very little, and said she can't help much. She is getting me an Avon book. She is also getting me girlie stuff for Christmas, she said.

After reading so many other members posts about their SO's turning on them afterwards I'm kinda nervous about pushing this too far.

Oh..and thanks to everybody that has or will reply.:)

I under dress a Lot, about 80% with a bra on and fem Jeans. Panties are 24-7.
I only dress up in a dress or skirt at home. I always wear a dress to do the laundry, floors,
or any other house work. I call it my uniform for house work. LOL
My wife is totally cool with my dressing, and when some thing need doing, she has been
known to say; "When are you going to put on your uniform"
Rader

My wife has been very helpful over the years. That being said, she doesn't want to see me dressed or see pictures. I think that I have it really good and I won''t do anything to upset our status quo.

I am in a similar situation. I keep my toes painted, wear panties 24/7, sleep in nighties, and wear sports bras when I work out. She knows I have several skirts and dresses, and lots of tights, but I do not wear them in front of her. I do wear yoga pants and exercise capris while lounging around the house, she is fine with them. I am hoping for further acceptance in the future, but I do not want to push it too far.

My wife allows it and I am dressed most of the time. I am expanding my wardrobe so I may remain dressed all the time. Unfortunately the breasts are too obvious in public so they remain at home, otherwise it's ususally leggings or slacks, knee highs or pantyhose, women's shoes and ladies t shirt, and of course, panties. At home I enjoy jewelry and perfume also. I've also switched to bubble baths, powder, and feminine deodorent.

My wife's pretty cool about it, and still when i dress i try not to be in her face to much and do my usual stuff and don't push it.

Why would she ask you to get dressed? I think you are taking that as some sign of tolerance but think from her side, why? My guess is that she never thinks about it the way we do. In my case, my wife is incredibly accepting, but she would never ask me to get dressed. She knows it's part of me but can't understand it (hell, I can't). She has told me that she never thinks about it unless some reference comes on TV or I make a joke about it. The point here is that crossdressing is not on her mind. How about you ask her if she is ok with you getting dressed one night. She can then give you a fair response.

@ Jennifer, some of the wives here tell their SO's to go get dressed. Some wives encourage it. That is all I meant. :)

My SO met me in my garb, and prefers my fem/androgynous appearance. I think I have been discovered by the holy grail of crossdressers.

My gf prefers me dressed. Actually... that's how we met so I never had anything to hide.

My SO is fine with me dressing in front of her and actually says she likes it and enjoys it a lot. On the other hand, I don't do it that often (lack of time these days); I don't know what it would be like if I did it all the time. I think it's good that you're not pushing; if you're being honest and compromising with her, I don't think she'll "turn" on you.

My wife is very accepting with no problems being dressed around her. We have been out to restraunts,movies,disney world,universal studios and bush gardens. WE have also been to vegas for a week no boy cloths and flew pretty,i guess i just hit the lottery with her i am so lucky.

My wife only tolerates my dressing so I dress when she is away from home.

[QUOTE=Marleena;2663196] Does your SO allow you to dress in front of them, or prefer it hidden?

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In my case she accepts and has not said I don't want to see it but I do not dress in front of her. She has never said go get dressed up for me. .

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#1 Ditto #2 No problem with dressing in front of her anytime. #3 I don't ever expect her to ask me. Period.

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So I only dress up in front of her on Halloween, she is comfortable with that day.:) When she is around I will undress, she knows I have shaved legs, painted toes, and have panties on. .

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#1 Now comes the hard part for me. My SO has not come around to the point where I can do makeup (working on it, as we speak - we bought a full line of makeup just last week, but I have backed off pushing too hard on that one for a little while :daydreaming: ), bras (wear cami's 24/7), but no high heels over 2" and although I can go out wearing any style of feminine shoes, blouses and slacks, etc., however, dresses/skirts aren't even anywhere near being in the picture yet (don't have any idea when all that will change? :sad: #3 All the above including painted acrylic nails, but my panties are Marilyn Monroe briefs. Nothing has been mentioned about breasts here? But I am up to a B-cup, w/o her knowing it is developing right under her nose? She has mentioned it, though... :heehee:

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I guess it's about not making her feel uncomfortable. I do tell her in advance when I'm going to play with makeup, that's kinda tough to hide, but still having facial hair might help there. I think getting the green light from our SO's is awesome and I don't want to push my luck.

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#1 I don't play with makeup, she is going to have to do it for me. :heehee: The hair part is long gone all over for me, so, "no sweat" (besides I smell 100X better now, too. :devil: #2 Amen to that in spades, we with loving supporting SO's are so very, very lucky to have them at our side, and I, for one, don't want to soil the nest with any feces, for darn sure.

So, I guess you could say, "After 18+ months I'm still betwixt nd between! Stlll a long way to go, but the journey of a 1000 miles begins with the first step, and I have made that step!!!"

Good luck to you all and Happy Thanksgiving to one and all!

Most of the time with the cooler weather I am in drab. However, in the summertime I wore denim skirts instead of shorts. And on lazy Sunday afternoons I wear a dress while my wife wears a nightgown.

And I always wear a nightgown to bed.

I never keep my crossdressing a secret from my wife.

Johanna

My wife is very supportive and will also asked me to dress now and then. She thinks it's sexy.

"Does your SO allow you to dress in front of them, or prefer it hidden?"

It depends on what we are doing but normally I'd say he wants me dressed like say if we are leaving the house.
Now if we are just in the bed room dressing is optional!

My wife knows of my dressing and says that she doesn't want me to have to hide it. However, she is still not comfortable with the idea of me dressing or seeing me dressed

What she said!!:sad:

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Think mine would prefer all my fem clothing would catch on fire... With me in them! Lol.

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I'm in a similar boat. She is supportive but usually does not like to see it.

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I wonder why you SO is like that?? So puzzling.
L&R....................Tara

My wife has known about my inclinations for years and had indulged me but just with lingerie in bed. I recently told her I wanted to dress completely (I plan to share our experience in another post). She was cautiously accepting and supportive. Several weeks after telling her about my needs, we went shopping together and she helped me pick out a complete outfit including heels. So I went ahead and dressed for her. I was nervous about it but she was fine.

She is not ready to see me in make-up or help with my make-up (and i really need the help!) She is ok with me purchasing a wig. So I am trying very carefully to take it slowly, one step at a time; respecting her comfort zone and boundaries. And making sure the rest of the time I am also being the man she wants and needs me to be.

I just mentioned to my SO that I would be cooking with a dress on tomorrow. She said: "I don't want to see it!". So now I know the boundary for sure.

Since I came out to her she doesn't care when I dress up. She loans me some of her things and I loan her some of mine and we talk about some of the things that are going with my dressing. She has to be reassured that I don't want to transition and that I am not gay and going to start wanting to go out with men. Both of these issues are addressed continually and I really don't mind because the result is I get to dress when ever I want to. I think that's a fair trade. She is so understanding and loving that I almost cry every time I think about it. Ok I have to stop now before I really start crying. xxxooo to all.

My future wife helps me dress and has now started to do my makeup. She just recently bought me a dress and is getting warm to the idea of us going out together shopping or dining. It is so much fun to have her help and add her suggestions on what to wear, how to walk like a lady, etc...

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Think mine would prefer all my fem clothing would catch on fire... With me in them! Lol.

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Likewise!! My SO would prefer CDing didn't exist!

I am dressed up in frount of my SO every once in a while. Since I only dress as a maid, I think she likes it. She is also OK with my cd friend dropping by too!! I am really pretty lucky, even so, I only dress up on the weekends, when no one will be showing up. The funny thing is that I still feel little strange being dressed up around her.

My wife is one who has accepted my dressing since I came out to her. Once we had talked things over she asked me to get dressed in the few clothes I had at the time. Once she saw the types of clothing I thought I looked good in, she suggested that I should maybe remember that I was no teenager and possible look at changing a few things in my small wardrobe ( Big plastic bag )
Since then she has come to be my advisor on clothing when I am out looking for something new, as well as trying on what ever I have chosen, just to check the size that would suit me.
In the make-up field, she also seldom wears any but I have a beautician friend who helps me in that area.
I'm retired now and spend much of my time at home so I dress when ever I feel like it. I usuall dress in front of her now and then but only if I am fully made up, which is my decision and she is o.k. with my choice
She has told me that she could not deal with me being dressed all the time around her. I believe if she let me, then it would be an admission of the loss of her spouse, and I fully understand where she is coming from.
I have no complains and realise I am one of the few who are in a fortunate situation, so I bless every day Joanne is around.

LOL Joanne[SIZE="3"][/SIZE]

My wife was the guiding light in my C/D for the most part. She still ask me from time to time why I haven't been dressing. And she wants to go out with me most times. So I'm for the most part sure she is accepting and supportive. Only thing is when I come home with lots of packages from a shopping day and didn't buy her anything.. Got to remember her while out shopping,, bonus points..

Tanya

Mine is somewhat supportive of my dressing but does not want to see me that way, not even on Halloween. My clothes are hanging in the closet but she asked me to move them to the other side where they were a little more out of sight. She will wash my some of my clothing if it is in the laundry. If she is away from home for a couple of hours she will call before coming home to be sure I am not dressed when she gets home. I can only hope that someday .......

AnitaH

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So I am trying very carefully to take it slowly, one step at a time; respecting her comfort zone and boundaries. And making sure the rest of the time I am also being the man she wants and needs me to be.

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Perfect! This is the only approach in my mind!
My wife is okay with me dressed en femme in front of her, but has never asked me to "go get dressed". When I do dress in front of her I might get a little advice now and then about how a piece of clothing or something should look. The first time I came out with "boobs" I got a "REALLY!" I wanted to hide but kept my head up and my boobs on. After a short while I was told how they should be positioned and she adjusted my straps to achieve a better look. They know so much about this stuff. :) I will say that I have had one night where I was undressed by my wife, and that one will go in the record book. I am a very lucky lady!

Often I'll still be dressed when my wife comes home from work (I work from home most of the time).

It usually means I've done the housework, made her a coffee and tend to her every need:)

The only thing I will say is that as Sally, she doesn't see me in a sexual way. I'm more of a female 'friend'. I'm very comfortable wearing my female clothes around her, because I'm OK with my female look.

However I don't tend to get dressed in front of her, as I am conscientious of my cumbersome manner at putting my female attire on!

My wife made it clear when she first found out about Raychel, that she had no desire at all to ever see me dressed up. And other the on one occasion on Haloween, (her idea) and some pics, this has been the way it has been. Although she does see me at bed tiem in my nightgowns.

I don't make a habit of it, only when we went shopping and I want to show her the outfit or if I ask her opinion on something I'm going to wear out. Don't know if she'll ever be really comfortable with it

My SO not only allows it, she's disappointed if she gets up in the morning and I'm just sitting here in drab. She loves seeing Krystal.

When I had an SO, I really never knew where I stood in my dressing terms. She claimed that she accepted it, and supposedly would allow me to dress in front of her. The rules that we laid down about my dressing would change in a moment, depending on how she felt. My feelings were never considered by her. She'd lash out at me wearing something, make me change, and then feel bad about it. Its hard to play the game, when the person who runs the game, changes the rules without telling you.
Be thankful that you have a partner that that accepts you at a certain level. And doesn't change that level, depending on her mood.

Mine tolerates my dressing and we have been out together with me fully dressed. In the last few years she has become more accepting to it and even has bought me a few outfits and my own makeup. Like Sally S's wife, she does not see me in a sexual way. She says she looks upon me as the older sister she never had. I am grateful for the way she has adapted to it and try not to push her limits.

Mine allows it, encourages it, and wants to participate. She's not keen on the idea that I might go out in future and wants me to keep my soft furry arms, legs, chest, back and my fairly kinky beard. And opportunties are limited to when the kids are out.