I've seen this many times online. It's supposed to mean a M to F trans that likes women, I think. :brolleyes:
But, I don't like it for a number of reasons. What do think of it?:straightface:
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I've seen this many times online. It's supposed to mean a M to F trans that likes women, I think. :brolleyes:
But, I don't like it for a number of reasons. What do think of it?:straightface:
It doesn't affect me. I'm going to do whatever I want regardless of any label someone tries to stick on me.
Sounds a bit like a crosstown busline to me.
Ineke
The description works for me. That is, I’m somewhere on the Trans spectrum but am only sexually attracted to women.
But I’m not a great fan of labels, particularly and especially labels I then have to explain.
I just describe myself as a Crossdresser.
Michelle.
I have seen it used by mtf transgender folks who have an attraction/preference for mtf transgender folks. All of my transsexual friends that have preference for women (trans or not) tend to describe theirselves as lesbians.
People have labelled my relationship with Vanessa (a crossdresser) as a transbian couple, in which is a term I personally would never use to describe us.
The thing is, we just don't have enough labels yet.
Charlotte,
Are you serious ?
Don't you think the general public are confused enough over the labels now , even on this forum they are used and misused .
I personally want to intergrate with the public so I do want them to understand and accept me , most haven't got their heads round the basic labels .
Sherry,
Sorry the label doesn't do much for me , I'm trying hard not to use labels anymore but if I do I just tell people I'm TG and leave it to them to think about it and ask any questions if they feel the need . Otherwise my label now simply says Teresa .
Teresa, I think Charlotte may have been kidding.
Crissy
There are two ways to answer this question;Quote:
Originally Posted by Teresa
Yes, of course I'm serious, deadly serious, only when every minutiae of us and our ways is dissected and labelled can we break free from public misunderstanding and the tyranny of oppression.
No, I'm not being in the remotest bit serious
I'll let you pick ;)
I think we have enough labels for now yes there are others perhaps fine tuning a particular gender but generally there are enough labels out there already for the unknowing ones to understand our various differences.
Well, if it is supposed to describe a cross dresser who is only sexually attracted to women, then I suppose I’m one. But I agree, do we really need another term supposedly defining us? Or is this another example of identity politics splitting us into little micro groups so we can have only our own agenda and be offended by others whose agenda is slightly different?
Charlotte,
On a serious note I find the public aren't interested in dissecting us to see what makes us tick . I did ask the question on the forum that suggested they mostly see us all as crossdressers , what anatomy we have or don't have isn't important to them , they see what they want to see and accept you or not on that basis . I'm happy to say it's going very well for me .
It was a fun story but at my daughter's wedding in my speech I told both my children I was very proud of them with all the letters they can now use after their names , I added the ones my wife gives me aren't repeatable in public !!
"Labels" are necessary. We think in WORDS and if we have no word for something we cannot think about it. ---- The RESOLUTION of the mind is a direct function of VOCABULARY it's a lot better to have an "HD" mind than a "480p" one.
Sorry Sherry,
I am not a labels person I am just me.
I have no explanation for my thinking or any abnormalities I might have.
I have no need for another term, but those who do are welcome to it.
As If the lesbian community didn't have enough animus for us already.... And yes. I find it glib and offensive.
I've never heard that term before but it's not uncommon on this forum for a crossdresser to say he is a "male lesbian". Try that as a pickup line in a lesbian bar. ;)
More labels... So what other labels does adopting this one make you feel superior over or is it only used in the derogatory?
I’ve never seen it used personally but I feel like the term is a little... flippant? I guess I’d have to see it in use
I don't really care for labels as related to that person is different and not a normal person. I don't even like the term normal because who's to say what normal is any more? I think of my self as a man that enjoys dressing from time to time. Not daily do I dress. I wear my panties more than the full dressed up look like a lady does and wear what I enjoy and feel good wearing. Putting a label on something conjures up many negative thoughts in those minds that do not know what definition is meant by the word. We already have too many negatives why add another word that can push us farther from being accepted as just who we are a human that enjoys wearing the softer prettier clothes. I like the old saying " I don't care what you call me just as long as you don't forget to call me for supper" ( but then when mom called us to supper we had to go clean up so I guess even that calling had something different in its meaning.
I'm not fond of it since it tends to blend sexuality and gender at a time when we have been attempting to pry the two apart as we attempt to explain who we are. And I agree with Kelly that we really don't need to aggravate anyone else in the LGBTQ+ community.
Besides, you are Sherry and that's the only label that really works for you.
I'm "PAN"
Everything is fine if it's your scene!
Loving is loving!
My wife calls me a lesbian in a mans body, I sort of like it.
Hi Sherry :hugs:, If my:love:Wife called me that I would be OK with it. >Orchid..O:daydreaming:O..
I've never heard the term used, but I have no real problem with it as defined. "What's in a name .....?"
I once (a bit jokingly) described myself as 'hetero-flexible.' Can someone define that so it makes sense?
meh. meh. meh.
Heteroflexible is actually a thing.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jenny22
The description describes me.
The word doesn't enthuse me.
I feel that I'm a lesbian in a male body.
Just another label to be used against us. I do not use labels and do not believe in labels. As far as I am concerned labels are for cans and boxes and I am not one of those. The only label that includes me is HUMAN!
Sounds stoopid. period. :eek:
This is one of those compound words that is trying to describe two different things together... gender and sexual preference. Just trying to put everyone in little boxes to sort them out without realizing that we don't live in boxes and the world isn't black and white. JMTC
I am a Girl! So there! And that makes me ever so happy, too!
Being Roxanne Forever!
Or an airline! Fly Transbian Airlines
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A compound word..... still just a word. Labels....also just a word.... calling out other words. So as long as we communicate with them, conversations will go on. Be offended or not, perpetuate it or don't. Only one thing in life is change. It may catch on....who knows? I say live and let live. What ever happened to the teachings sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me?
I'm with Sarah in that it joins two things together that are independent of each other equals more confusion and misunderstandings.
Charlotte7 "Surely you can't be serious?" "I'm dead serious and don't call me Shirley?" Sorry I thought this thread needed and Airplane reference to lighten the mood.
sorry my label making machine is out of label making material
Yep. I searched and found same, Micki. It's akin to Bi-curious.
DRS, I don't like it, just another term. When will it end!! Crazy times we live in, in spite of some good things, and more tolerance for us who are different. I am just "unusual". i think , that you and i both are dealing with Autogynophelia or aroused and attracted to our other side, all dolled up in the mirror. The lady we transform into, is what and who we are attracted to .
I think the term has a place since so many people think dressers are into men, so this easily conveys they like to dress and like women. If I felt like a woman I might even use this term.
I completely agree with Teresa.Quote:
Originally Posted by Teresa
People need labels and talking about sex it comes to be very confusing.
My own experience is weird. Everything begins with me being bisexual but never interested in men dressed or naked but sex was great, top or bottom.
After went out to wife, as a condition she asked me no more that kind of sex, while sex with her was great but after being in hormones something crucially changed in my mind. I realized that gender is not the same as sex. Thoug the t blocker the libido hasn't dissapear, have with sex still being great but now I hate, feel remorse and find disgusting all that bisexual activity I had, so s2x with wife is great, more now with real boobies both enjoy activity there and down the way to have sex has changed too, I think, like lesbians do, more oral and manual stimulation. We're happy and completely satisfy but I dont like transbian, i prefer lesbian but no longer promiscous.
I think Transbian is a horrible word, I thought we had enough words to describe/explain the different sections of our community. Surely another one is just going to confuse/complicate the issue.
I still like the term heterosexual crossdresser. It's simple and clear. No need to add terms to confuse the public.
Whatever...
I like that about as much as I do, "transbian", Gracie!:doh:Quote:
Originally Posted by GracieRose
Here's the dictionary definition of "lesbian:
1. a homosexual woman. synonyms: homosexual woman, gay woman; informalbutch, femme; offensivedyke, bulldyke,
U can call yourself a unicorn in a man's body for all I care. But, few people will understand or agree with u!:straightface:
Good answer.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lygophilia
By the way, would “Transbian” and “Lesgender” be interchangeable?
I am a human! I look like a human , I move like a numan , I sound like a human. I am a human bieng I am not a number or a label I am human!!!
No. Just no. Putting on women's clothes does not make you a woman. If you are not a woman you can't be a lesbian, no matter how cute or clever you think think the misappropriation of the term.Quote:
Originally Posted by Asew
Shaking head...
So, Heather, would u answer these questions with, "I'm a human"?
"U dress in woman's things, r u gay?"
"R u transgender or a transsexual"?
"Do u always go to work dressed like that?"
I thought “lesbian” was the correct term to describe the sexual orientation of the female counterpart of a heterosexual crossdressing male.Quote:
Originally Posted by Aunt Kelly
I don't think the GG lesbians are up in arms about us borrowing it...
I was Trisexual for a while,try anything (at least once) :)
Sophie
Think again, Patience. And know with certainty that the lesbian community (generally speaking) considers your assertion to be laughable. A sizable number have no use even for transwomen. Get dressed and go hit on the girls at a lesbian bar if you doubt me.