Trust me, this is as much as I know about this.
It strikes me again that the matter of "trust" keeps coming up as a big deal.
It is, and, it isn't.
Some SOs seem to want "all the answers" from someone who they already feel is suspect and untrustworthy in many ways. It's like asking the guy who just robbed you if you can get a receipt... Do you think he really will? And, if he does, will he use his real name?
People, you need to put these CD conversations in the context of "coming out." You need to admit you didn't trust yourself, the situation, the outcome, enough to say something sooner. And, now that you ARE talking about it, you're probably messing that up too.
"Trust me... I don't know what I'm doing or why I'm doing this. But, here it is... Can you help me figure this out?"
That's what they're there for.
You can both take it from there...