I find many woman attractive (in the sense of being aesthetically pleasing) if that is what you are getting at. That doesn't mean I have to respond to their attractiveness.Quote:
Originally Posted by docrobbysherry
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I find many woman attractive (in the sense of being aesthetically pleasing) if that is what you are getting at. That doesn't mean I have to respond to their attractiveness.Quote:
Originally Posted by docrobbysherry
A heterosexual man is sexually attracted to women. All attractive women. That’s how we are made.
A heterosexual man that says he is only sexually attracted to one woman is fibbing, to put it politely.
But this is obvious. A no brainer.
SUZY
In the context of this forum I think most married CD's who say they are attracted only to women are simply speaking in general of their sexual preference. Of course we all think a Hot female is Hot. To entertain the thought of what she may be like in the bedroom is not out of the question but that does not mean we take any steps to make that thought a reality. Some do however, probably no larger percentage of CD's than Non CD'sQuote:
Originally Posted by docrobbysherry
You may be confusing the word Attractive with Sexual Attraction.. Appearance makes lots of women (and things too) attractive. The attractiveness of a beautiful woman can cause one an admiration of or pleasure to see her beauty without creating a sexual lust
It's one thing to find people other than your wife attractive; it's another to DO something about it.
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I see nothing wrong with window shopping which I enjoy on a regular basis. I love to look and talk with women - except my wife. We are most likely going to go ahead and get the divorce which is why I say what I just did. Communication has broken down along with a lot of other things.
I was married to my late wife for almost 50 years before cancer took her!! And I was very definitely attracted to her for that entire time, and in fact I still am. But I told her, very early in our marriage, that I did like to look at females!! In fact, what I told her was that when I quit looking at females she should just close the lid on me because I was dead!!
That was not "attraction," that was admiration for the female shape! There is a world of difference between attraction and admiration, at least in my mind. I have seen, in my long life, many women that I admired!! But there was no attraction at all!! There is a lady to whom I am attracted now, but she is married to a man who is also my friend!! Other than family the other women in my life are those whom I ADMIRE!!
I am attracted to al women. Like the song says "If I ain't lookin I'm dead" I think some song says that any way it fits. Now I am not saying I won't cheat I might, but not likely It has to be a 2 way street. I might be admiring but I am not looking if that makes any sense.
I will try to live by the marriage vows but I am not perfect and I am human, I think.
Just because you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu.
Ditto.Quote:
Originally Posted by Eryn
And I'll add, my wife is the only person I've been sexually attracted to, even though I dated or tried to date other women before getting married.
Quote from Webster's:Quote:
Originally Posted by kendra_gurl
attractive- "Having the quality of attracting; having the power of charming or alluring; inviting; engaging; enticing. -n. That which attracts; a charm or allurement."
THIS is EXACTLY what a meant by, "attractive"! There isn't ANYTHING involving "sex", in the definition, Kendra. Nor did I intend any!
I find the concept that every male that thinks a woman is "ATTRACTIVE" means he wants to have sex with her patently ridiculous! And, apparently, so did Webster! Lol!
I have been married for 23 years and love my wife, and yes I still find other women attractive. I look at the menu, I just don't order.....Quote:
Originally Posted by NicoleScott
I agree. Just the other day I was at a wedding and the bride was absolutely stunning. My friend's bride, I'm looking and liking what I see but not anything more!! I also adored her corset backed mermaid style gown a bit too.
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Originally Posted by docrobbysherry
I think that is obvious from the responses so far in this thread and is exactly what you quoted me as saying.
How do you possibly get from my post that I am saying anything else? Please re read my post
It's the way you stated your question that leads me to believe you were thinking sexual attraction. It really makes no sence to me without the lust or sexual context as you stated it
"OMG! Thank goodness I GET to go home to my SO and NOT to HER"!?
I think by most everyones post we all considered that to meant YOU cannot believe anyone would think that way hence we would all really wish we COULD go home with her. And if we did what would be on our minds? Just sit there and a admire her charms?
why dont we just simplify things and say physically beautiful, pretty, cute, easy on the eyes........... ? I am sure most can agree that at sometime or another we have all looked at somebody of the opposite sex and said they are beautiful, in fact I am sure most of us can say we have looked at a person of the same sex and said, yup, he's a good looking guy..... doesn't mean you want to tocuh the person........ let's simplify things shall we ? You're cruising around in your 100 foot yacht when all of a sudden Paul Allen (ex Microsoft) cruises by in his 400+ foot yacht - do you look the other way - no you look at his friggin yacht and say, wow, that yacht is awesome. You may not want the yacht because you are already happy with yours, but you can admire it, doesn't mean you love your yacht any less !!
I've been married more than 40 years now. My wife is my lover and definitely my best friend...why on Earth would I want to do anything to hurt her?
But as she says on many occasions, "its fine to look, just don't touch :)" I think that most men enjoy seeing attractive women, but that doesn't mean they do anything other than just look. I see lots of Jaguars and Bentleys in the streets of the Dallas Metroplex...I admire them all...but I'm not buying one :)
I admire other females at times, it's not about shape, size, age, colour or what she is wearing.. It's how comfortable she looks in her own 'skin'...
It's like art, JP's blue poles just looks like a mess of paint splatters, but you can see the comfort and the soul of the artist in its creation.. Then there are those ahem :brolleyes: "master of light" kinkade paintings that are picture perfect, but devoid of soul..
My mind is attracted to mind and soul first and foremost..
I am with the soul that attracts me the most, the mind that stimulates mine the most, the physical being that fits my physicalness the best!
Yes I look and admire, but as for attraction, she is a magnet, my magnet, the strongest magnet on the planet that makes every other magnet just a piece of (sometimes shiny) metal..
I guess to answer your question, it's a matter of semantics..
I couldn't state that I'm exclusively attracted to my SO. I have lusted in my heart many times... But I lusted outside my last marriage and that didn't work out so well :( So, no more extracurricular lusting.
Yes, to say "only attracted to my s/o" and then say "attracted to other women" is contradictory. For myself it is straight forward.
I find many women pretty or beautiful, some interesting, some all of those traits at the same time. Yet I am attracted solely to my wife because she is everything to me and so much more. On top of that there is no other woman who can replace the seventeen plus years of wonderful history I share with my wife. Lastly, as odd as it may sound, I just cannot think sexually about another woman no matter what she looks like or how nice she is. There is only one for the true intimacy part and that's the Mrs. As interested as I was in sex as a teen I still had difficulty imagining sex with a girl; I just knew I wanted to give it a try.
Fascinating topic, docrobbysherry. Good choice.
If a person was not deeply in love with another person, there would never be a proposal.
Even though our marrage has taken many blows over the past years, I still love my wife, and that is why I came out to her.
where we go from here seems up in the air, but I still love her and want to spend my time with her.
I appreciate a lovely woman, but external beauty is a facet, the whole woman that you can love is glorious.
Kendra, I agree with u! That WAS a bad example! And, I'll go back and edit it! Thank u pointing that out!Quote:
Originally Posted by kendra_gurl
I may start a wild debate with this, but as cross dressers are considered part of the LGBT community whether we like it or not. The right to choose which gender you are sexually attracted to is implicitly part of that choice. While the community outside the LGBT generally believes cross dressers are primarily gay men, there is still a lot of education that needs to be done on our (CDs) behalf to change that stereotype.
One other point I find interesting is that few here admit they find males attractive. While I don't sleep with men, I can acknowledge men are attractive. Many women acknowledge other women are attractive more readily (in my personal experience), but there is still homophobia about a man admitting another man is attractive. Yes, I do think other women are attractive, and my wife knows it. I know she thinks other men are attractive. It is pretty difficult to say that no one else you know or have seen is attractive aside from your SO.
I realize that this is a bit off topic, and hopefully I stir the hornet's nest too much.
I'm pretty sure my wife does not read this forum.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sedona
I probably tell her she is beauifull at least once every day, because she is. I see other beatiful women every day and I check them out, but I don't feel attracted to them, probably because I have no need of them.
Married CD are only attracted to thier wives ... because it hurts thier wallet really really bad when they become attracted to other women
Joann
Any guy in the world will look at other women. I do. Women will do the same thing with guys. The difference that separates the good from the bad are those people who act on that. I do see other women who I think are attractive. I then think of my wife, who I know respects me, who I know loves me, who I know is faithful and won't sleep around, and what not. To be blunt, there are too many people who have big issues that make them not worth it at all. I learned that the hard way. I see my wife and not only think she is beautiful, but a lot more. There's more than her looks that keeps me with her. I can't describe it, but hope this helps.
Well first of all in my case, no matter how attractive the woman is I doubt I would find her more attractive than my wife, because my wife is really pretty! .. but if I do see a woman who is as attractive as my wife, yes, I would notice her but at the same time I would also think that in all likelihood she would never be as compatible to me as my wife is and I doubt I'm even her type. Also, I'm totally monogamous, I always have been, I can't help it. It's in my nature.