Saya, u may be on to something in your post.
Repressing your desires may only increase your longings. Where as, if u were to explore the full depth of your desire to dress, u may decide dressing is enuff. Then, u can decide how much and how often u need your CD fix!:D
That worked for me. I BEGAN CDing with the idea I wanted to be a female. However, after allowing myself to dress as much I desired, I found the longing to be a female passed. Appearing female was enuff and over time, I found out what amount of time I need to dress.:)
On the other hand, dressing may only increase your desire to go further. But, at least you'll KNOW!:straightface:
Is transitioning a selfish act? That's questionable...
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Saya82
Has anyone else gone through this same thought process, and perhaps maybe even took that leap to a full time woman? for better or for worse?
Yes, I did... from the early beginning to the end after my SRS... I was also accused of being selfish... But being selfish is relative and subject to the way you look at it...
Those around you may accuse you from selfishness because they feel you forsake them in favor of your own pleasures... But you may accuse them from selfishness because they don't support you... This is a vicious circle...
The truth is that nobody should look at someone else for their own happiness... Happiness comes from within and not from others... So in short, you have the right to pursue your own happiness... and pursuing your own happiness is not selfish, as you can't make others happy when you are unhappy yourself...
On the other hand, those around you may be called selfish when they condemn your pursuit of happiness... because they feel it goes on their cost... They feel they are paying for your happiness with having to give up some of theirs... However, the stigma attached to all this is in favor of those around you and is confused by your obligations to your family...
In an ideal world, you should be allowed to express yourself as you feel you should and fulfill your role as husband and father in that expression... But that conflicts with the reason your wife married you... She married a guy and would not have married a girl... And it is here that you'll enter a slippery slope... In my experience as a counselor there are few marriages that survive a transition... More likely than not, the uproar starts when you are going to do things toward your transition that are irreversible, such as taking female hormones...
So who is selfish? You'd be the judge...
With :love:
Dita