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The curse is how it complicates my life. I struggle with being accepted by both males and females. There has been a silver lining in that I better understand women and myself. As much as I wish it would go away, my feminine side helps to balance me out. In the long run, life without Jennifer would be boring.
I fall into this catagory, definately a gift. BUT, it took me a long time to come to this conclusion and my wife would likely disagree completely.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cheryl T
Over the years and from time to time, I might answer this question differently. There were times that being a CD might have caused me to be distracted from other more important things. I don't remember ever missing work because of it, but have stopped me from accepting a social function that I otherwise might have been better off to attend. Basically, I am very happy with who I am and think that my duel gender status has helped form many of my traits, emotions, outlook and deeper feelings toward many things...including women in general. So I say it's not a curse, but a gift today.
I'd say curse. I don't want to be like this. It's a waste of time and money to try so hard to look like a pale imitation of what real women look like, and if it weren't for this, I'd probably have some other, more respectable hobby. That being said, having a more feminine personality does have its benefits. I tend to be really good at listening to people, and understanding them. I'm one of the few guys I know who never really had a problem understanding women. (Not that it always helps!) I don't have that typical male urge to get into pissing contests with other guys, and I think that actually makes me look more mature to women. And of course, I don't mind in the slightest if my masculinity is challenged. Oh, you say I have women's hips? Sweet! I should get a new skirt to show them off!
I used to think it was a curse now im 99.9 % ok with what i do ,got tired of the guilt and purging .I truly think in a way we are all gifted no matter how hard this can be :)
If you asked me when I was younger, I would have said it was a curse, as it's made my life more difficult than perhaps it would have been if I did not have this 'gender confusion' as my therapist called it. But in the grand scheme of things? There are lots worse things to deal with, and I think we should always look on the bright side of things. After all, I have a good steady job, so I'm not likely to ever be unemployed. I live in a safe place, where random violence isn't going to get me killed (as opposed, say, to Iraq or Afganistan). I'm (relatively) healthy. I have my own home and own two cars. I'm pretty good at my online games. I grew big enough so that I'm not usually a target even when I go into bad areas of the city.
So, a curse? I'd call it an inconvenience. After all, there are millions of lesbians that would give their eye teeth to have access to all the pretty straight women that I do! Eventually, I'll find one that I like, and who likes me too. I'm a patient man. And, I guess, optimistic.
That's a perfect summary! I would venture out to say that for me, I am accepted by individuals, both male and female. I don't fit in well with groups of people and that can be pretty debilitating at times. :sad:Quote:
Originally Posted by Jenniferpl
Hi Vir! So...curse is your final answer? or would it take a new skirt to undo the curse? lol :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Vir Nova
I share both your optimism and patience. Both are hard to balance but I think they are interrelated and that does make it easier. you make an interesting point by the reversal reference of lesbians not having the access you do. :battingeyelashes:xoxoxQuote:
Originally Posted by sometimes_miss