PXD, I have bought some scratch tickets, and almost never win anything but sometimes the dollar or two back. never won lottery, only have bought 2. My one older brother wins lots of times on scratch tickets, must spent $50 e week on them, though. I have moved 48 times, been here six yrs, hate to have to move, yet again, but my bizarre, loveless family has ruined my whole life.
While telling people close to you that you CD can give you a feeling of acceptance, connecting with people when you are your female self is equally validating. Having friends that only know your female self is particularly fulfilling.
The desire for this acceptance and validation is why we often do some of the most surprising things. At least, it was in my case. I used to bait the hook for people to want to ask me about it; I'd leave a lipstick tube lying around so my house mates might ask, or I'd run my hands down the back of my legs as I sit down at work just as you would if you were wearing a skirt. The first time I walked out the door dressed, I got on a bus and I still can't believe I did that.
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Originally Posted by elliemoss
Ellie is right about seeking others to join up with but I would council against meeting a stranger for the first time in either your or their house. OK if you can organise a group coming together then there's safety in numbers. What you see as an internet profile isn't always the truth.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kate Simmons
Kate's suggestion is by far the safer. I appreciate that for some finding a group in their local area may be difficult. If so cast your net wider and go out of town. It will be well worth the effort. You'll gain so much. I do understand the fears of being recognised. I live in a city of over a million people yet I still traveled 100 miles for my first group meeting and trust me, it was worth every inch of the journey.
So my friend, Yes I want to socialize and I have been, I have spent a long time alone, I am going forward as me, Im busy yes but I have new friends and I enjoy talking to you however is available, ( you know who you are ) Getting to that point where Im comfortable doing what others do regularly, I do wear androgynous clothes out almost every weekend, I enjoy pretty either way. Jessie we are all unique and we are all special in our own ways. I say have fun in your own time with your own comfort levels. New things and change take a bit of time but it will happen my friend, : ).
Jessie:
I am with you, girlfriend! I would love to have the time to dress and just hang out with another gal like myself. Sadly, I cannot regularly dress, let alone go out, as my wife is not aware of this, would not approve of it and would not at all be happy if I said I was going out as Kris with other CDs (to be fair, she would not be good with me being out drinking with the guys, either: she prefers my spending my free time with her, and I feel the same way). So, yeah: I do wish I could do that more, and value the times I have been able to do it. I wish chatting online in forums or even on the phone was a good substitute.
Kris
Thank you, Jennifer, for expressing exactly how I feel now....NO MORE HIDING and NO MORE SECRETS....now my next step is to stop hiding even when I go out!! I am still nervous about chatting with folks as I would do when in drab....I know I will just be a man in a dress and make-up to most people and I am getting ready to get over myself and just enjoy life as I am....Quote:
Originally Posted by Jenniferathome
Peace
Stevie