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Kathi, there are tons of threads on this site blindly advocating others to just "go out there" and be themselves. Although the OP referred to your post in particular, I was referring to the cheering posts in general. If I were to accuse you of being thoughtless, I would have said this directly to you in a PM.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kathi Lake
Thank you.Quote:
Originally Posted by ReineD
Kathi , I know how you feel , I have been told I'm a lier in some of my posts too.
Jayme. Yes I do think there are unbelive-a-bull storys here ,but I would not go on a thread and say something mean. That's justthe way I am. I might pm them and ask questions but I would try not to be rude. I have not allways been able to do that but when your typing your thoughts they sometimes come out sounding wrong to other people , like what you sad about Kathi's bank girls. And yes we all knew whom you were talking about.
Now I want you to test your BS skills. I want you to read (3 or more it you like) of my threads I started. And report back to us with YOUR oppion. Tell us (if) I was telling the truth.
Sorry I can't link them. My computer in not working ( I'm on my iPhone.
1) My frist time out yaaaaaaaaaa!!!
2) my 20th high school Reunion going as Christina.
3) my 20 th high school reunion going as Christina update , he'll must have frozen over.
Now why do I want you to read them. Well I want to see if you really are good at picking out a BS thread. I have never lied in one of my threads. I might make it more fun for the reader more exciting. But I find I don't have to do that much cuz I do do wild thing that girls not (out and about) would never do. There are a few girls from here I've met and whom I have gone shopping with or to meetup with. I know that does not prove I have done some of the things but it's a good start.
I think you need to take the word of the person whom is writing the threads as fact. For the most part. Pass judgement if you want but be nice about it if you need to tell they you think there full if it. For me I'm a very kind person , all ways have been so. I did once comment on a thread (I will not say what one) and said what I thought and go slaped by our salpiglossis happy addmin whom shall reamain nameless. "I still love you girl";). And some others allso yelled at me. So I apolljised (can't spell that dam word) and all was ok after that.
If I see a thread that I just can't belive I just take it with a grain of salt (witch we all need salt to live) and look at it as entertanment and move on. You never know. It may be bs but then again it (Could) be true to. Cuz you wernt there right? So if someone need to make up a story here for what ever reason then I just say oh well and move on. But that's just silly me.
Oh Kathi. I love all your storys and belive all of them keep them coming hunny.
Christina... that's a pot/kettle/black post if ever I've read one... I have read your posts on this board and let's get real here, you have made a point of telling people just what you think. And not to mention your signature - If you don't like my (honesty) well TFB. So it's too :censor: bad if people don't like your honesty, but you're giving Jayme a lecture because you don't like hers... well how about TFB?
>>Now why do I want you to read them. Well I want to see if you really are good at picking out a BS thread. I have never lied in one of my threads. I might make it more fun for the reader more exciting. But I find I don't have to do that much cuz I do do wild thing that girls not (out and about) would never do. There are a few girls from here I've met and whom I have gone shopping with or to meetup with. I know that does not prove I have done some of the things but it's a good start.
OK, I'm confused...
You've never lied, but there have been times when you had fun making up the truth?
Hey, that's great. "Truthiness" is a fun idea.
But.. It ain't the truth.
I think the point of the OP was that some things get said here that stretch the facts beyond simple reporting and into fantasy, wishful thinking, and, as I noted yesterday, things ultimately harmful to honest reporting about who and what CD/TS/TG people really are - basically just normal people who have landed, in life, in CD/TS/TG slots. It's not hunting and fishing, but it's no more to love, life, and work than those..
There are a lot of people who come to these forums looking for answers about themselves, or, people they care about. If what they stumble upon is a lot of "girley-girley wiggly-wiggly" dialog, any hope of normalizing the behavior goes out the window with those simple truths that get pushed aside by, well, what would you call it? "Entertainment pieces"?
Some things do more harm than they are worth. Perhaps much of what winds up being of questionable value to aiding people in positively accepting themselves and others should be slotted into an "Interesting if true" section.
It's still there to read, but it's clearly in the "grain of salt" department full time.
I am so sorry you find me creepy.I was just forwarding a bit of life from our house hold.I respect that it does sound weird for some to be discussing the topic of new bras with young ladies.However our home is a safe haven for a group of my daughters friends.We have on many occasions a very full house,as many as 5 may sleep over.They understand that no one is to go hungry or thirsty,what we have we will gladly share.They have quickly learned that we listen to their problems and not judge or interfere.They are all in different stages of puberty and get a kick out of making me uncomfortable with many personal questions raised to my wife,in my presence.Yes they have accepted me as someone to trust .When the young lady said they should dress me up in a pretty bra, she was trying to be funny.Only in the context that I would love nothing better in ways only a cd would understand.No my wife would never allow it nor would I as I respect the conflict that would arise from such a situation.My wife knowing of my predilections could see the humor in the situation.The girls thought it was funny because to them I am in many cases the father figure missing in their lives,Also because I am 5"11' and 245 lbs,ex-mechanic and carpenter.I am in their eyes far from being one who would dress in lady clothes..Lastsly thank you Kathi as I think you understand .
Yup! totally.Quote:
Originally Posted by Micayla
If you are a person that doesn't "pass" because of your normal male features then it would be hard to imagine that anyone could. For many years I felt that I couldn't pass but I went out anyway. Now I know from experience that often I can pass; not always but often. Sometimes I'm ma'amd when I'm not even trying. It happened the other day while I was waiting in line in a grocery store. I wasn't talking to anyone at the time. It's hard for me to voice pass.
Some things that help are the fact that I wear my own hair styled in a lady's wedge cut. Also, I keep my brows waxed into feminine arches. I also dress unisex most of the time. If someone isn't sure about my gender then these things tip the scale in my favor.
This forum isn't just for people that can pass. But also, don't forget that some of us can. We are no better than the non passers, just luckier. But I also agree with you that some of the postings should be listed as fiction. Leanne
I read the bank post. Personally I don't think there is anything wrong with that story. It is just some friendly chat. Years ago when I am completely un-passable, I have had normal conversation with strangers in a park and not a word is said about my choice of clothing. And that was in relative conservative midwest. So people are usually very accepting (at least to strangers, it is a different story if it were their SO).
The true fear is in one's own mind. Once you are not fearful of your own dilusion (of a dangerous hostile world), you will find the world is indeed not scary.
Another fear is coming from man's uncertainty. We are sometimes so unsure of our own manhood that we want to win, to show our superiority, to compete against others, all to assure ourselves that we are not worthless. Are we so fearful that we have to win it?
This was a very interesting post. Im sure that some posts have been out and out lies while some stretch the truthiness factor. I do agree with Tamara this forum is not meant to be for fiction but a way of communicationg with each other who we are. Yes there are also rah rah posts at times encouraging others to go out in public etc. I for one do try to temper things by being a realistic as well as offering warning as well. It is a cruel crazy beautiful world out there.
BS to one person may often be a reality to another person.
It all depends on what side of the looking glass you are veiwing from.
Truth is often stranger than fiction.
Be safe. Be smart. (I believe.)
Dawn Marrie
At the very least I think people always have some spin on things when they post - its human nature. I take to heart all the stories about coming out to your SO. As I have said too many times, I am so deep in the closet, I might as well be in the next room. The stories that others share about coming out have been a gentle encouragement for me and will, I believe, over time help me get up the courage to come out a little. I don't care if they are a little embellished or even BS. They have made me feel so much better about myself that I cannot thank everyone enough. I can handle a little BS. What I can't handle (yet) is rejection. Thanks again to all who have shared....Dee
Here is a little tale for you to grade on weather it is truth or BS.
You be the judge.
Many years ago when I was still married I actually had my wife convinced that my male organs had disappeared and were replaced with female ones. That she had infact married some one who was in fact both sexes. Even in the act of love making she was not able to disprove this. She had at one time asked her own doctor if this was possible. I was able to keep up this ruse for many years some times even getting away with not having sex by faking a period. She seemed to be more accepting of my transitioning because she thought I had less of a choice. (That was not very nice of me and proved to be a very big mistake in the long run. Because it was this type of dishonesty that eventually caused the end of our relationship.)
Be safe. Be smart. (And don't try this a home.)
Dawn Marrie
truth or bs, folks.
care to take a whack at this?
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Originally Posted by dawnmarrie1961
I can believe it. My cuz and I once told a friend of ours that a little bug was in the temp gauge if her car. The but would run down the wire to the engine and feel how hot it was then run back to the gauge and set it ti the new temp then do it all again. She fell for it and we then laughed and told her it was BS. There are people who will believe anything you tell them if you tell it right.
I take people at face value until I find out there lying then I gauge there statements form there on in. I feel it ok to make a story better just as long as the story is true . But that's just me.
Christina, You are absolutely correct. It was "true".
You get the "Know Prize". Which is actually "No prize" at all!
I was absolutely diabolical at pulling it off for as many years as I did. Only goes to show how devious a person can be when they really want something.
I had to keep declining my wife's gynecologists invitations to examine me. She thought I was an interesting medical case.
Truth is stranger than fiction.
Be safe. Be smart.
Dawn Marrie
Hey Jayme!
When people post here it is usually because something bad has happened or because something extraordinary has happened. The extream of both worlds are streaming by here. And give them a break, the post just might be true (at least most of it) or it would not be here.