Tacky? Perhaps. I still stand behind the phrase. Trolls delight in stirring up trouble and then moving along. Jayme said she was just going to be here for a little while. She then left a "parting shot" aimed at people she didn't agree with/believe. That, to me, is stirring the pot for nothing other than her own amusement/satisfaction. What do statements like that do to help us? Using inflammatory phrases like "lies" "contrived happenings" "BS" and "utter cods wallop" (whatever that is) in a post is nothing more than baiting, in my opinion.Originally Posted by MsMjSerene
Now, maybe I am too close to this situation, being one of the accused, and am letting my emotions get the best of me. If that's the case and I am overreacting, I apologize. No one likes being called a liar - especially if it is an unfair accusation. In my case, I believe it is.
Jayme, I may have to go back and reread my posts, but I don't believe that I have ever said anyone at the bank has told me that they didn't know I was a guy. They know I'm a guy. It's quite obvious. Not only do I usually go in there as a guy, but I have a face that not even a mother could love. I use my guy's voice and even my guy's name while out dressed. There is never a doubt as to my gender. I don't care. I'm having fun. I accept myself this way. That is what others tell me that they see. Yes, there are other comments on my appearance, but my emphasis is on our acceptance of ourselves.
Reine, I don't believe that I ". . . thoughtlessly cheer others on in their fantasies and encourage them to go further than what might be safe or realistic." Do I tell them that yes, they certainly can be accepted out there? Certainly! I've seen it time and time again. Do I try to "push them from the nest" too early? I certainly hope not. I'm not going to be one to say, "Come on. Get out there! Now!! You're ready. What are you waiting for?" At least, that's not my intent. I simply want them to know that when they're ready, that the world isn't as bad a place as they might think it is. That has been my experience, anyway.
MsMJSerene, I am definitely not one of those that thinks outing yourself is always the way to go either. If I did, then I would really be lying. My wife knows about me, but doesn't want to see or hear about it. I therefore keep her in the dark. There have been times when one of us almost breaks through the "embarrassment barrier" and brings the subject up, but it never happens. Do I like "lying by omission" to my wife. Not at all. It's what I consider the only bad thing about my dressing. I wish it were otherwise, but I am too weak to bring the matter up for discussion.
Kathi
