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If someone were to see a pretty girl kissing another pretty girl, they would think Lesbian.Quote:
Originally Posted by Geena75
But why even worrying about labeling it.
As the line from the keynote song in the movie Casablanca says:
"You must remember this
A kiss is just a kiss, a sigh is just a sigh
The fundamental things apply"
If you close your eyes when you kiss, lips are just lips. Just hope that the lips are soft.
Very nice words Steffi:daydreaming:
Thanks
Rose
I knew that most of the crossdressers were straight, contrary to prejudices, but I did not expect to find so few gays and bisexuals on this forum. Am I the only one currently in a relationship with a man and have dated mostly men?
Geena, no. If you're with someone who you know is a guy, and a kiss "happens", then you're ok with kissing a guy. If you're honestly fooled and believe he's a she, then that's different, at least until you learn the truth and what you decide to do next.
If you know and kiss anyway it's gay or bi. Nothing wrong with that of course if that's who you are, but I can guarantee that in my case that kiss will not ever "happen". Not enough beer in the world to make me even consider it.
bi sexual here. I been with my gf now for 8 years now and only her. But when single it was 100 percent sex with a male
Straight as can be
I am definitely Bi.
Add another 100% straight and monogamous response to the list.
I considered myself straight in my teens but it's my opinion that wearing lingerie to bed every night is what turned me bi-curious. The urges to want a boyfriend grew steadily and by the time I was 20, I was in a relationship with a guy (and still am!). I am still attracted to women but but I can't see myself ever wanting a relationship with a woman even in the event that things ended with my boyfriend. Nothing, and I mean nothing, beats the feeling of wearing romantic lingerie to bed for a guy to have intimacy which is why I love being with a guy. There's nothing like it.
Completely Straight. Never had any interest in being with another male. And married to the same woman for multiple decades now.,
No desire at all to be with a guy. Happily married to a semi-accepting wife for over 25 years now.
I agree with you Jessica! My sentiments exactly ;)
Never explored far enough to really know. Lesbian in my head, which is not at all straight. Just be yourself and forget the labels, much simpler life that way.:)
I dunno to sum it up.
I love women and all the cool clothes they have an option to wear. Which is probably my main attraction to dressing. But separately I'm also interested in sex and all aspects of it. Dressing for me is sexual. Not having actual sex but feeling sexual/sexy. Now finding a woman that likes to dress up these days is rare, to find one who likes to dress specifically for sex is even harder. Add that to one that is actually interested in exploring the sexual world is even more rare and very very hard to find. So this is where my conflict arrises. First and foremost wearing the clothes is my main attraction (part because women dont) and then its only natural for me to want to take it the next level. Being the woman and acting the woman (sexually) appeals but I have never acted on it. Either with a male or with a CD I just dunno. If that makes me bi then so be it
Unfortunately these topics of dressing or sexual dreams (either with cis women or otherwise) are not allowed to be discussed as they are taboo and you get labelled a pervert or sexual deviant. Even the asking a woman to wear high heels is wrong these days let alone asking to wear them for sex. So i I'm resolved to dressing in private and dreaming lol
Emily xx
Once again, the definition of crossdressing has NOTHING to do with sexual orientation, no matter how many times you repeat that. There are female, gay, bi, and straight CDs. Also, tranvestism preceeds crossdressing, so you have that wrong also.Quote:
Originally Posted by MarinaTwelve200
The statistics suggest that most male CDs are heterosexual, but not all.
To answer the question, I'm a straight male, but if the circumstances were to happen (like attending a sex party that I am unlikely to ever attend), I would probably consider engaging in sexual acts with a male, from curiosity and trying something new.
You're not, I'm in that club also Alice! Isn't it great to be in a relationship with a guy?Quote:
Originally Posted by Alice92
I've had roughly equal numbers of male and female sexual partners, though my few serious relationships have been with women. I wouldn't rule out a serious relationship with a man, other than I'm currently married to the greatest woman I've ever known and don't see that ever changing!Quote:
Originally Posted by Alice92
I thought I was exclusively attracted to women.
But there were lots of caricatures in my head about men: dirty, hairy, with a rough and irritating skin, offensive, sometimes violent, and so on. I think this was a mixture of repression of my desire to men, and a consequence of the bullying I suffered from men since my early childhood. Also the fact that I wasn't happy as a man, and thought all men were equally unhappy with themselves. Who wants to be with someone unhappy!?
As I discovered and accepted my femininity, and as I understood that I did want a man to be attracted to the woman in me, because I don't really feel like a man, as I gained trust in myself and in my desires, as I learnt not to repress them anymore, I began to look at men with the eyes of a sexually active women, and to understand what women do like when they are near men.
Now I fully accept the way some men turn me on, but it is also a very different way of turning me on than women do...
Cheers, have a nice time with whoever you desire :battingeyelashes:
Rose
RoseReve's response recalled a (suppressed) memory.
I was starting with a new therapist, and I told her in the first session that I "crossdressed".
At the end of the first session, she said, "You are gay. But don't worry about it. It's OK to be gay."
This comment was very unprofessional on so many levels. She shouldn't have told me, she should have led me in that direction and discover it myself. Plus, it was a pretty bold declaration to make after knowing me for only 50 minutes.
Aa an adult, I was more open to being gay. As a teenager, there's no way that I would calmly accept that "diagnosis". Well, at that time I went to the gym regularly, three times a week. I changed in the locker room each time. I decided it was a perfect environment to fact check my gayness. So, I surreptitiously checked out the guys is various states of undress. There were a few that I wanted to be (tall, chiseled jaw, muscular body), but there were now that I wanted to "be with". Yuck.
As an engineer, I used the scientific method, and it worked for me. No guys. Subsequently, I changed my view. I was attracted to guys, but only if they were wearing a dress and dressed to the nines.
I did keep seeing this therapist weekly for several months. I always arrived at her office en male, but I changed to en femme before my appointment. I got to try out a number of different styles from demure librarian, to office girl, to a mini-skirted teenager. She was always excited to see me dressed and even complimented me on my outfit a few times. We even talked about makeup, particular eyeliner, which she wore quite heavily. Once I told her that she could apply eye liner to me. She say that she could, but it would cross the professional line.
Absolutely Steffi, telling you "You are gay" was totally out of place, farfetched, unprofessional, what you want...I'm studying these matters with the desire some day to help other people, and it seems to go against all the aims of a therapy to express something so blunt.
Or she opted for a kind of warped strategy to get you to explore your feelings...But I don't think it's the best option anyway!
Cheers,
Rose
Accepting my love for men saved my life, I?m the happiest girl now :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Jessica Secret
:heehee::thumbsup:
I consider myself to be straight. I am attracted to women & not attracted to men. When out & about, a pretty woman gets my attention. Guys, I never notice.
That said, there are some sexual acts that I like & have done with men. It is only those acts that I am interested in & there is no other attraction. If someone wants to call this bisexual, I would not argue, but without any attraction to men, I call myself straight.
I realized around the age of 20 that I really wanted to be with a guy and it's been the BEST decision I ever made. Having a boyfriend is truly incredible and I couldn't be happier myself!Quote:
Originally Posted by Alice92
It's all on a scale, isn't it?Quote:
Originally Posted by prw230
What you describe is (I think) heteroromantic bisexual which is kind of where I lean - have only had proper relationships with women but very much enjoy having sex with men.
Bisexual
Straight here, but in the past 10 - 15 years I would admit to being bi-curious with a trans woman. Another guy does nothing for me in the slightest. That said, it would never happen so long as my wife is in my life. As I'm 12 years her senior and the one with health issues, I'd say the odds of me ever being without her are slim to none.
I thought I was 100% straight.
I love going out as a woman and love women.
I always wondered what it would be like to be out with a guy as the woman, not to be with the guy but to be that feminine woman.
I did it once.
To be honest parts wear fun, and the power of a feminine body is empowering. Not sure I will ever do it again, parts were confusing.
I'm straight, but one night I got too drunk and crossdressed in front of a male friend.
Won't ever do that again. Did not like being treated like an object for his gratification, and yes, while drunk I was a very willing participant.
So yeah, way in the past and never again.
100% straight
I have to say I am Str8 just because I am just not physically attracted to men. The odd thing is that I am ok with them being attracted to me when I am dressed up. I think it is kind of a validation that what I am wearing is not only attractive to me but others as well. That does not mean I am going home with someone who hits on me. What I find odd is that I have seen posts where some say they would not know what to do if someone hit on them while dressed. It seems simple to me. You are straight or other, available or not, lastly interested in the other person or not. The decision is easy because you already know the answer to the first two.
Sandi
I like to make up lines to use in case I get into difficult circumstances.
So, the scenario is that I'm sitting alone at a bar. Some guy (from a table with a bunch of guys) come over and is chatting me up. I'm a friendly girl; I'll talk to him. But, if he tries to proposition me, I'll thank him for his offer, but tell him, "I'm kind of into chicks. But, if you want to wear a dress, we could discuss it further."
He can then go back to his guy friends and explain that he wasn't "shot down", but that I wasn't dating material. He gets to keep his pride among his male group, but gets the hint to back off.
Straight up, with a twist.
I'm somewhere in between I would say - mostly straight, but fantasize about being treated as "woman", especially when dressed.
I woudn't classify myself as fully bisexual as I have no interest in men otherwise.
I'm never checking out men or attracted to men, nor could I see myself in a relationship with a man.
I definitely have fantasies about being with a trans woman and would definitely consider a relationship with one if I weren't happily married to a wonderful woman.
Straight. But that doesnt make me any better than anyone who isnt.
I feel the same as Sandi does about this.
Definitely very straight. Doesn't matter how I am dressed or where I am
I am straight. No interest in men whatsoever, whether I am dressed or not.
Straight, with a different sort of fashion sense them most men.
I love this line from a previous post. "I have absolutely no interest in men, but an attractive CD does get my motor running." My wife and I have had a few experience with another CD and found them to be enjoyable.
Wishing all the best on your trip to the old sod. Liked your commentary here about liking new experiences and not caring where they come from. Found myself attracted to a young gay pretty boy at work for his female features. Nothing happened yet surprised at my attraction and the experience of it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Natalie5004
I could also see myself having relations with another CD, especially if they've put effort in to be somewhat passable (i.e., didn't just throw on a wig and a dress).Quote:
Originally Posted by CDMargret
To have an experience with a CD, trans woman, or man with my wife also involved would be the ultimate fantasy fulfilled.
Bisexual here, but I prefer men much more than woman.
As incongruent as it may seem given the overwhelming desire to become feminine and an attraction to all the things that go with it, I am a Hetrosexual male.
There may be a bisexual or gay (lesbian) element in my some of my fantasies but that is what fantasies are for and whilst they remain in my imagination I am in total control, nothing is compromised and no-one gets physically or mentally hurt.
I have no desire to transfer any of those fantasies into reality :battingeyelashes:
I was talking with a gay friend of mine one day. Being friends we could be honest with each other. At some point in our talk I point blank told him that while I was an allie, the thought of even kissing another male was repulsive to me. He laughed and told me that he was repulsed at the thought of kissing a female. I said "cool,,,, we can hang together. I will admire the ladies, you scope out the guys." Worked out perfectly.
Yes, I fully understand that, but what if the fantasy came to you?Quote:
Originally Posted by Lilly Diadem
I was enticed over the line like that. I was at the Keystone Gala Ball, and I danced with this one CD girl a lot. When the music ended, she said, "I wasn't going to take my panties off for you, but I would have liked a kiss." Steffi was caught up in the moment, and without much thought, she replied, "I could do a kiss." And we kissed, more than once. But good girls don't tell secrets.
Another time, Steffi was sitting next to a GG. I don't remember exactly how this happened, but we decided to transfer lipstick to each other. It was the first time I kissed a GG while wearing lipstick.
Maybe I would have done half a lifetime ago, if I knew then what I know now, but then an older and more experienced (if not actually wiser) head on younger shoulders may have have done a few things differently.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sometimes Steffi
Back in the day when a younger Lilly was Lauren, 25+ years ago, her outlook and expectations were very different to what they may have been had she been born at that point. Continuing along that thought path, if Lauren was around 25 years old today I think her options for moving forward would have been more varied and there is a possibility that she may have walked a different path.
Lauren was much more active in going out and did come into contact with others on her travels where there was opportunity to live out some of those fantasies but was not confident enough in her sexuality to explore further without fear, guilt or remorse.
Reflecting on Lauren and her adventures, it not only feels like a lifetime ago but it also seems like I am reviewing someone's else's story.
There are certainly no regrets but the passing of time allows for reflection and consideration to what might have been had the situation and the World been more accepting to our community.
I do not really like guys. I could not see myself with a guy. And I have seen some mighty attractive TG girls out there, I am attracted to their femininity not their maleness. But my faithfulness to my marriage keeps me from any any other path than the one I have been on for the last 7 decades.
100% straight. I just like to wear beautiful panties and bras.
Wow ,,,after starting this thread i`d never thought this amount of feed. I`m so happy that so many have responded. Anyways,,,,me,,,Hmmm,, for me the ,,,oh my,,im thinking,,,im an adoring sister as are many here, always enjoyed being, and feeling , and looking my softer side. Once I started,,,many years ago,,,it just happens today. I get to be thankfully for an adoring wife my softer side alot. That being said, I`ve always wondered about being the sub/fem side to and adoring male. Will or when it would ever happen,,,dunno,,,but damn,,its so fun to dream and ponder. I`d have to say it`s a bucket list item to ????:battingeyelashes:
I am Bi curious, i am not overly attracted to men, but when dressed for me the lines get a little blurred, I did make out with a guy once (in drab mode) and it was fun and something that I would like to explore more as it was fun and exciting.