Did you ever think because you CD you were gay?

No I dont think I am gay because I really think I was supposed to be a woman at birth. Why couldnt we have the choice to set our sex say at age 10 or 12. It could make things a lot easier (like answering this question)

Well to be honest What is GAY? is it going to bed with the same sex? I found this at webster site on the word GAY

1 homosexual, homo, gay
someone who practices homosexuality; having a sexual attraction to persons of the same sex

Well by Websters definition I guess I am gay. But it said attraction! My attraction is to women, But I want to be 100% woman or at least the most a male can be a woman. Act, Talk, Dress, Have sex like a woman is all included. When I go into Fem MODE. I start playing the part of a woman. I want to exp all a woman in my "Fem" role can.

That being said in my exp I have been with a few guys nothing major but have gone too deep to go into details here. As a male I would never be with another guy.
but as a fem I want to experiance sex and other aspects of females with a guy.
Yes I have kinda well sorta had sex with a guy but as a woman not a male. As for an attraction I dont think so. The attraction was just not there. Being a male I do not see other males attractive. Being a woman I think its just that I want to exp my fem side and I think it will take a long time to become attracted to a male.

I believe its the making out part and kissing another male. Its not really a turn off in my fem side. I want to do it. And as a fem I will do it but my male side doesnt know what to think about kissing another guy.

LOL Now I'm even more confused than before.
Good question though!

well,we all wrestle with something, don't we, that's why we're here.....after my personal wrestling match, I came out victorious with the following information...

1. I love sex
2. I love women...but can enjoy a man from time to time, see number 1 for more info.

I guess that I am Bi..
I LOVE looking at TG piccies.. I sometimes even get hot over TGs...
I Love Women!! In both types GG & TG!!
I think that my wife knows too.. She found a picture the other day, of a ******* xx star that I kinda like, And she let me know about it... Wife is still cool with me too! She might start experimenting with my Fem self here soon! I hope. She knows for Sure that I crossdress! She still loves me!
She said so 5 times today.

I've read a lot of posts here where so many are trying to figure out if their dressing makes them gay.

Sadly, the public perception seems to echo that response, and all too loud and clear. Maybe some of you are caught up in too many other's uninformed opinions.

Myself and many more of us on here started dressing before puberty, long before we even knew what "gay" was.
Hell, I didn't even know what sex was the first time I slipped on a pair of stockings.

What motivated me to do it, I do not know. I only know that when I did it, it felt right and I continued to do it for the next 50 plus years whenever the opportunity presented itself.

Years later, we're now asking if we're gay.

Not me.
And I'm okay with all of it.
I never felt I was odd or different for pursuing it.

Any thoughts?

Well there's nothing wrong with being gay... I have a gay family member... But I'm not gay... I'm just pretty! :)

I have always known that I was just a little weird. I have never thought of myself as gay.

Nah, I do not perceive myself as a human, let alone a gay... I am just "something".

Jolan Tru

The first question I remember even my son asking when I told him I would live as a woman the rest of my life was:

ARE YOU GAY?

I think it is the most common question asked us.

I said long before I knew I was a woman, that I was a lesbian. Men and boys always were something I had no use for either individually (except for one I considered my brother) or as a class.

Howsomever, as my journey has progressed, over the last two years, I am looking at men differently now, so I must confess that I think I am becoming bi-sexual.
BUT: BIG BUT: that does not make me GAY, it makes me a heterosexual WOMAN!

(Of course you have to work with the equipment you have regardless!)

Sexual preference and CDing have very little to do with one another. Sadly, due to society and upbringing, the lines between the two often become blurred.

I too started dressing quite young and never thought about anything until later in life. I went through a period that I thought I had to be gay because I like to wear womens clothes. I started looking around the internet and found that wasn't the case at all. I am married to a wonderful woman(35 yrs. now) and she helps me dress and shop. We had many discussions about my dressing and we still talk about it. She is over her fear of me being gay and leaving her(somewhat). I think a lot of CD'ers go through this phase.

I don't think I have ever had a gay thought in my life. in fact when I confessed my lifelong crossdressing addiction to my wife, one of the first things she said (after a long pause) was, well I know you certainly aren't gay!

It is a misguided opinion in the wider community that CDing and homosexuality are linked, when we know that is not the case!

Cheers

Tash :)

I really wish, in my heart of hearts, that we all could get to the point where we honestly don't give a dam what a person does in private or with their privates. Its been raining for awhile and I'm not feeling very gay right now, but spring is on the way and I'll be going camping and a gay time will be had by all.

I did'nt consider myself "gay" when I went through my depression and loneliness period, even though it spanned 6/7 years. I hated it, and I hated myself. I used to have anxiety when I used to get with men, and nothing worked. It was terrible and embarrasing at the same time. I went to gay clubs in Melb. and had a older boyfreind in 2003 for 2 mths. I was doing all this against my will. I never and still dont consider men as attractive. I was a huge alchoholic through these times too, and I was at a dead end, until I moved to queensland in 2005, met a accepting lady on the internet, and things have been perfect since. I've been sober 3 and a half years, and have'nt had any gay experiences in a very long time.

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Originally Posted by Shari

I've read a lot of posts here where so many are trying to figure out if their dressing makes them gay.

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Your dressing doesn't make you gay. It makes you dressed. Your sexual preferences are independent of what you wear.

Neither, of course, does being gay make you a crossdresser. We all recognise the falsehood in the question put that way around - it's the same for the original question above.

BUT

You can't generalise. I'm bisexual. When in drab I must therefore be part homosexual and part heterosexual and the same if en femme. See? Bisexual. Simple really. When I'm full time it'll be the same. No change there sexually but a complete change in terms of gender.

You've only got one brain. You're one person. If you are attracted to members of the same sex you are gay. If not then you are not. Regardless of whether you are CDing or not. And if there's a sudden "inexplicable" change in sexual preference maybe it's not inexplicable or sudden at all but instead a result of jettisoning a denial carried for many years?

Sarah...

No revelation here folks, gender identity and sexual preference are two totally different things.

We wonder why when disclosures are made to family or friends that the first question we're often asked is "are you gay?" Yet there are many who participate in here who are very quick to go out of their way and assert they are NOT gay when at the end of the day it's not relevant at all in the context of being transgendered.

As usual when comparing our community to the world at large, we can't expect attitudes to change when we can't even come to grips with reality ourselves.

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Originally Posted by Karren Hutton

Well there's nothing wrong with being gay... I have a gay family member... But I'm not gay... I'm just pretty! :)

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Your not only pretty Karren but your very modest about it as well:heehee:

Such an interesting question. It's been asked here a million times already, even since I've been here, and it's always one that I like to posit.

I don't know if it was intentional, but you asked a different question than the usual "If you CD are you gay?"

Well, I CD, I am not gay. I have been wondering if perhaps I am shifting to bi as I also find myself shifting towards being TS, but still, my general opinion of the male anatomy remains: "EWWW!!"

I do a blog that I update only periodically with LGBT issues, but really, I do that more because of having gay friends, and being just lumped in with them than anything else.

No, actually fought the notion many years.......until that special evening..........after that it became my obsession and objective for dressing.

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Originally Posted by LeotardMan

This may be a bit odd but I was wondering since in today’s world if you CD you just abut get labeled gay, when you first started CD were you ever attracted to men or both? Did you automatically think that since you CD you were gay?

When I was younger I thought I was BI or transgender. I remember when I was in college I experimented a bit I found a transgender club that had all sorts of stiles wrestling they had regular wrestling, cat fighting, and erotic wrestling and I did some cat fighting and erotic wrestling matches. I found that while I like to CD and play a woman for the most part I’m very much attracted to women.

Geoff

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These days its so confusing i dont even know what i think........one minute attracted to ultra feminine women the next minute attracted to masculine women then attracted to a tgurl......and to wondering what it will be like go on a date with a guy etc its so tiring.

I would say i'm bi-sexual I do have urges to be a complete woman including sexual satisfaction.

If I was gay I would be a lesbian. I just love women and am jealous of everything they get to wear. I feel nothing towards guys. I could watch and be near women all day though.

At first - I did not know what to think - I knew that I only wanted to have a

relationship with real GG women.

JoAnne Wheeler

"An All American Bluegrass Girl and Proud As I Can Be"

I never thought myself as being gay or bisexual. When I dress in lingerie I just want to have sex with a woman/women. I have done some kinky things but having sex with a man is not one of them and never will be. I have nothing against gay and bisexual males. It is just not my cup of tea, that is all.

i was very confused in my twenties about being a cd and thought that i might be gay. so i tried it, unfortunatly for the other man it did not get to far. it was interesting though. woman are so much more.
gretchen

When I was a teenager and my sister found out that I enjoy dressing in her things the first thing she asked if I was gay. The same thing with my ex-wife was the first thing are you gay.
No I'm not gay I just like dressing as a woman and wearing makeup. If I was gay I would have to be a lesbian as I enjoy being with a woman.
I'm not going to say I would never try a man but at this time I'm not interested in men.