So my bf cds and is upset I - advice?

Open communication, it's wonderful when it happens!

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Originally Posted by Chloe Jane

So last night I was a bit surprised. We were in the car on the way to dinner and he bring up that he knew he would be working a bit late at work and had hoped that he would've had time to run out and buy something to wear for me that evening, but he didn't have the time. So we just talked for a bit- I just let him lead the conversation. There wasn't a whole lot more- but I am still getting a lot of "what are you thinking about?".

Then last night while we were on the couch after dinner I said I was disappointed I didn't get my surprise from his not being able to go shopping. He pulls the laptop on the couch and goes to Victoria Secret's website and wants me to go through it with him showing him things I like and talking about why. We went through tons of items discussing which ones I liked and why and he talked about some of the things he liked. Then (even though it is 9p) he says he wants to go to the mall to get me something for him to wear for my surprise. He wanted me to go with him in the car, but I waited outside because he said he wanted it to be a surprise what he got until we got home and he had it on. On the way there he asked about if I just like the skirts and panites or if there were other things. I told him I wasn't clear if he was saying he wanted to try shoes, makeup, wigs, etc or what. I said if he wanted to go shoe shopping, I would take him. Or anything else for that matter. I think he wanted to try the shoes, but he said no to makeup and a wig. He wasn't definite on the shoes, but I left it open that we could go if he decided to.

Anyhow- he got a skirt and 3 pairs of panties- all of which he modeled for me. He first had on his tshirt, which I told him to take off because it didn't look right to have it on and I just wanted to see him model his surprise new clothes for me. I am still getting the questions about what I like and why. I think it is more for reassurance that I am okay. I told him that I thought he looked sexy and stop talking and kiss me. :happy: But I think he is definitely feeling more open and wants to talk about it a lot now. I am surprised by how much he does want to talk about it. When we are together he wants to talk about it a lot. I try to let him bring it up, which suddenly isn't an issue. :happy:

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WARNING! If he is at like I was, he is going to talk to you about it until your sick to death of hearing it. After you have devoted so much effort to keeping it secret for so many years, to at last have someone you can talk to about it is a tremendous relief.
Just nod your head from time to time and say "yes, that's nice dear". LOL
Kim

Oh please girl! If he's going to model a skirt and panties, for God's Sake, tell him to put on a bra and top!

Topless crossdresser, indeed! :)

you are such a wonderful woman, continue to be supportive , but not aggressively supportive, he must be quite a catch and you have a bond that will get stronger, sometime soon you will both look back and say remember when

Well I bought a couple of things for Christmas, so we will see how it goes! I spent forever shopping trying to find something I was sure he'd like.

I think we will go shoe shopping after Christmas, since I tihnk he'd like to try them as well.

He said today he felt sure I was completely okay with things, which made me feel better. I think he feels like it is okay now too.

It sure is nice to hear about how it's working out. He sounds like a wonderful BF.

My SO had fun shopping for her girl this year for the first time. She used to shop for our god-daughter, but not lately, so she said it was nice to go buy Kerrianna some girly stuff. I can't wait :heehee: .

Yes, last night he told me he wants to go shopping together.

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Originally Posted by Chloe Jane GG

Thanks- he did say he was embarassed and has grown up being told it was wrong. He says he has done it for as long as he can remember. I told him I see no problem with it, afterall I wear pants all the time. I don't know how to make him know I am fine with it; Id take him shopping if he wanted. He said he was afraid I said I was ok, but am not. I assured him that was not the case and he would have known if I was, which he agreed was true. (I'm not great at hiding my feelings) I tried talking to him and letting him know it was fine, but it doesn't seem to help. I am at a loss because I don't see what is wrong with it. I am just estatic they aren't another woman's and that he's not cheating!

What is the GG forum? He said he has been online, although I'm not sure if he was here or is a member.

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Welcome Chloe, try the following: buy him something pretty; it's christmas.
dirrect him to us; we can help him. He is fighting the same fight we all have fought; it's a conflict between what we were taught (gender brainwashing) and how we feel.

:hugs:

Penny

When hes back and I belive he will be,who could stay away from you!..Might I advise, at the first opertunity a gift box with a nighty and matching panties,kind of an invitation to curl up and chat.I know I love it when she picks something out for me.And its usually something that looks great on me.