Can one be happy as a cder only at home forever???
I hope no one is offended by this question, but my spouse has said that dressing at home and not going out (with the exception of maybe going to a meeting of other cders) would suit him forever - he has no desire to tell the family or dress 24/7 - but I'm just wondering how many others have said or been told these same things only to decide otherwise down the road (I mean it took almost 12 years for him to completely share this with me, so whose to say in another 12 years.....) COMMENTS/THOUGHTS LADIES?????
Thank You! Thank You! To one and all!!!!!!!!!
I really enjoyed reading all the posts and the insight is REALLY APPRECIATED!!!! I know, as so many of you stated, that I can only take Lori for the current face value of what she is content with and am already trying to sike myself up for all possibilities. Like a few of you hit on, the question really stemmed from my own insecurities about Lori changing sooo much that I no longer fit into her life and I have expressed this to her and received words of assurance that that will never happen, but as also mentioned, the whole issue is about trust and basically how as the SO, one can perceive being kept in the dark about cd desires, like any other secret, as a form of betrayal. I completely agree that each person is different and all the varying responses drove that point home even more. Bottom line is that open communication is the only way to address this and any other issues. THANKS AGAIN SOO MUCH LADIES!!
One thing that's constant: Change
I believe that change is inevitable and comes in ways you don't see coming.
If your SO becomes more confident in her look, perhaps better make up, perhaps a better wig, maybe shoes that are comfortable to actually be in for a few hours, one's fear or concern about going out might dwindle. Did for me.
If I can get from a size 16 down to a more typical 8 or 10, I can see myself being more open to fitting in, and therefore freer to actually get out and about.
Good Luck,
Kathleen Ann
It's For Me! I'm So Selfish!
I'm perfectly content to enjoy dressing within the walls of my residence. I've no compelling need to present, or "represent", to others. At 53 years of age, 48 actively crossdressing, my enjoyment for same has never wavered, nor have I felt the slightest need to "expand the envelope". I do what I do for the relaxing and contented peace of mind my personal expression of femininity brings to my life.
Tray, your hubby will find his comfort level, and wishes only for you to love and cherish him for for all of who he is. Follow your heart, and happiness for both of you will be your reward. The future is boundless, so set no boundaries. Love will prevail.