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I am a closet cd and no one knows,, My sister asked me to be her Maid of honor for her wedding and I will be wearing a tux(frown) but I have to plan her partys,, sahe wants a bridal batcherlette party mixed in one so I have to plan it and she said she wants me there,, well I thought of a idea and she loves it,, we are getting some local students from a hair nail school to do make up nails and hair,,, she was joking with me saying you will be the only guy there and by the end of the night you will be all made up with pretty nails,,, I have to act embarresed so I dont out myself,, My plan is when its all done and the girls are laughing at me I will say good thing I didnt rent a girl for Fashion Consoltent and put that idea in their heads and see if they dress me,,, after the party we are going out to local bars so that should be interesting,, I will let you all know how it goes but should be fun... Any one got any caution statements so I dont make a mistake?

Sounds like fun, can I come? Hehehe. It would be fun and it is a good way to find out techniques for your hair, nails and makeup. Not only that what a night of dressing with the girls. Hope it goes well. Huggs Keli

You are missing a great opporunity to dress as a girl, you need to let your sister know you like to wear dresses. If I were in your shoes I would let her know that you want to wear a maid of honor dress. you will regret not doing it, because the opportunity may never come your way again.

I believe your sister knows about your secret and I would probably say your parents do also.
The reason I say this, you are her maid of honor and I am having a hard time seeing your parents agreeing to it unless they are waiting for you to come out to them about dressing.
Personally if I was the maid of honor and was planning a makeup party for the girls, I would sallow my pride and dress as a woman and be the model for the makeup session.
Let them have their fun trying their makeup on me, then go out with them partying if for nothing else your sister will remember that night and at least smile about it often.

This could be an absolute blast for you. just be careful you don't "accidentally" - (on purpose?!!) - come out of your closet!

The simple fact that she asked you to be her 'maid of honor' says a lot; especially since she implied that you were going to get your nails and make up done at her party. Tell her it sounds like fun, you're open to the idea, but you want to get a wig so they can do that too. If she doesn't blink an eye, you're good to go. Don't worry. If everything goes well at the party, they WILL finish dressing you up before the wedding, all you'll need is the gown, and going for the fittings will be the icing on the cake. Talk about a chance of a lifetime. Wow.

The only advice I can give you is have lots of fun. And act like you not all that into the makeup hun.:hugs:
Angie

Hope You have a great time

What a great opportunity to let her know that you would be interested in "trying" to dress and pass with the other women. I would be fun and if you really looked great and passed you may meet a woman that loves CDs
Give it a shot
Janet

Your sister and the rest of your family surely knows more than you think. You have sent signals that you are not aware of. Have a great time! Just remember whose wedding it is, don't steal the show. You can come out any time. A wedding should happen once in a lifetime.
A bachelorette party sounds like more fun anyway:battingeyelashes:

Hugs, Terri

I am sorry but, I cannot see how so many of you assume her sister & family know .............. how darned selfish of you all ............. if her/his sister does not know, has one of the greatest evening of her life .............including the fact that her brother was so much fun at HER note,HER bridal batcherlette party, and he comes out years down the line, are you all prepared to have her memories of her batcherlette party & wedding day tarnished just so you all get to gee someone else on, without a thought for the consequences for those involved.

His/her sister and parents may well know, and if they do then I think they may well have a less subtle approach to letting crossdrezzer1 KNOW.

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Ummm , no don't make that mistake, you're sis may have seen the Movie 'Maid of Honor" and trust me, it wasn't about the man being a 'crossdresser', but just the person she felt very very close to.

Once again, this is a situation where society thinks maid of honors are female, but it is much more about the person in that role being a very significant person in your life.

I think you may be reading way to much into this!

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Originally Posted by Sheila

I am sorry but, I cannot see how so many of you assume her sister & family know .............. how darned selfish of you all ............. if her/his sister does not know, has one of the greatest evening of her life .............including the fact that her brother was so much fun at HER note,HER bridal batcherlette party, and he comes out years down the line, are you all prepared to have her memories of her batcherlette party & wedding day tarnished just so you all get to gee someone else on, without a thought for the consequences for those involved.

His/her sister and parents may well know, and if they do then I think they may well have a less subtle approach to letting crossdrezzer1 KNOW.

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It is your sister's day, so don't distract attention from her. At the wedding you should wear a tux and play the traditional role (unless your sister really wants otherwise)...There will be photos and distant family that may have some different or old fashioned ideas. For the party, since it is all in fun...go for it as far as you want! You might want to mention to your sister that it will be enjoyable for you, but you don't want to look like a guy in a dress if you are going out in public...so go all the way. Unless you are ready it might not be the time to out yourself unless you are ready for everyone at the wedding to know...

I tend to think that your first priority should be your sister, afterall, this is one of those lifetime events for her. I strongly suggest that the two of you get together and have the chat. If she knows, and she's cool about it, go for it. If she doesn't know and she is offish about it, then you need to let her off the hook regarding the party and the wedding. Of course a great compromise might allow for you to be one of the girls at the party, and her brother at the wedding. Just my two cents. In any case, my best to you both.

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Originally Posted by crossdrezzer1

Any one got any caution statements so I dont make a mistake?

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Don't drink too much? :daydreaming:

I agree,,,alot of you are reading way to much into all this,,,I dont think anyone knows and she asked me because we are close,, I will play shy at the party and think sis will want me involved so they will make up me for giggles.. I will allow it and get the nails also with shyness,,, then my master plan is to say good thing I didnt have a fashion consoltent to throw into their minds about a dress,,, its my party for my sis so I will make it as girly as I can,,,what a great opertunity to do girl stuff wityh a group of girls,,, as for coming out,,, I dont think so........

Some of you think the family does not know or at least have some suspicions. How many times have you heard a of sister who believes her brother to be straightlaced and not at all into anything femnine, ask him to be a "maid of honor"?

Perhaps she IS aware and knows that to many CDs, a wedding is the ultimate expression of femininity as far as dressing up is concerned and she wants to let her brother know she understands and has decided to allow him to take part in a very cherished tradition and share a once in a lifetime experience for them both.

Just because I am a professional meeting organizer does not mean my sister would think to reward me for my abilities and efforts in organizing her wedding by asking me to be her "maid of honor", wearing a tux, knowing full well that the title would open me up to a rash of comments, teasing and raised eyebrows. That alone would take the "star of the evening" attention away from the bride.

I prefer to believe that his sister is opening her heart to share her wonderful day with a brother she so obviously loves.

We all envy you. When you're all made up and dressed up, be sure to confide in your sister that the dress and makeup actually feel kinda nice. If she then asks if you want to do it again sometime, just answer with a nonchalant sure.

Well you had been asked to be Maid of honour, that’s quite the honour, and one you must a bide by.

This is your DNA asking, how long has she known you?, she knows, it’s time you do.

You need to tell her.

Go, have fun.

Hugs

Judyk
Founder Gender Mosic

Just beacause she asked you to Maid of Honour, doesn't make it an invitation to CD. It could be something as simple as she want's you to share in her special day by playing an important part. I think that the invitation shows you how much she loves you as a brother.

I'd excercise caution on the cding part unless she specifically asks you if you go along with it. Don't push it too far. You may end up spoiling her day.

If I'm wrong about this then I apologise

I have a daughter getting married in the spring and she really want's me to be her maid of honor, gown and all. I had to decline as I don't want someone there being uncomfortable on "her" day. It's also very important to me to walk her down the aisle as her dad. When I brought that part up, she got teary eyed and agreed. I told her there will be other times. :)

I've never heard of a male Maid of Honor. There may be a certain femininity that CD1 has, that made his sister think he would be OK with that honor. Even inviting him to her bachlorette party? That really tells me something there!:eek:

However, I strongly agree that this is all about the bride. A wedding is NOT the time for a CD to come out of the closet!

However, bachlorette parties r for having fun and letting your hair down!
CD1, I'm NOT saying to show up in a dress, but I think u can really let your fem feelings flow and not worry too much about where they lead u! In other words, don't worry, just HAVE FUN!:drink:

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Originally Posted by Christinedreamer

Some of you think the family does not know or at least have some suspicions. How many times have you heard a of sister who believes her brother to be straightlaced and not at all into anything femnine, ask him to be a "maid of honor"?
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Nonsense...now days it is VERY common to ask who you are closest with regardless of gender. My daughter was just Best Person ( man) for her best male friend that recently got married

Please do not listen to all this telling you to take it further. Be a maid of honor....and make it HER day.A maid of honor supports and helps the Bride have a her perfect day.It says alot she picked you to share this with so do your best for her
and make it about her..not you.

As far as I can see, it's your sisters wedding, her big day and she has offered you the privilege of being her Maid of Honour, and that's it. Reading anything further into her invite, like assuming she is subtly letting you know that she knows about your CD habits is a huge leap of imagination, and if you push it, could end in tears and recriminations. Accept the invite at face value, make it a special day for your sister, and if you want to come out to her, do it long after the wedding is over. By jumping the gun now, you could possibly cast a shadow over the whole night, and over the subsequent wedding too.

Be careful that you don't make this day about you, it's her wedding.

well got the date for this,,its going to be in june and the ladys are all excited,,buying alot of props and I cant wait,,this is going to be a fun party..

remember we want pics lol
hope you have a great time no matter what happens :D

They may figure you out when you are the one having the biggist time !
Sounds like a lot of fun
Love,
JoAnne Wheeler

you yourself said that many are reading too much into this. first, it's your sister wedding so don't distract from her. maybe the term maid of honor is the wrong thing to use here, but i don't think your sister would call you her best man. this is not about crossdressing. the night of the party, you having your hair and nails done, could be about a man. now if you sister has the kind of sense of humor that she takes your idea of a fashion consultant and has you dress at the party, you could wear a demure dress and make it a fun night and maybe a lasting memory.

so far I have spent about 300 dollars on the party props,, got all kinds of stuff so too much to mention,,,the only thing I need now is a blow up man doll for the girls to kick around that night...

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Originally Posted by carolinebrookes

Just beacause she asked you to Maid of Honour, doesn't make it an invitation to CD. It could be something as simple as she want's you to share in her special day by playing an important part. I think that the invitation shows you how much she loves you as a brother.

I'd excercise caution on the cding part unless she specifically asks you if you go along with it. Don't push it too far. You may end up spoiling her day.

If I'm wrong about this then I apologise

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I would have to agree with this. You might consider sitting down with your sister, and talk to her about why she asked you to be her maid-of-honor; and what she expects from you. After you put her on the spot and she responds, you could tell her that it is the nicest thing that could have happened to you; and you love her for that. If she were to mention that she knew that you were a CD, then you could talk about it; other wise don't mention it as what was mentioned before, it might spoil her day.

This is your sister's day, but......placing the idea in her and her friends head is a great idea. Let them just get the idea, then say around a certain day in October, say the 31st, bring up the party and the idea again and see if they will help give you a full makeover as a halloween costume.

Awhile back, I used to hang out with this group of girls and I threw the idea of dressing up as one because I was the only make that hung out with the group. That year for Halloween they give me a full makeover. I played off that I was emberrased, but I loved every moment of it.

So, just throw the idea out there, then let it kind of go aaway, then bring it back up around the end of August, begining of October and see what happens.

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wife talked with me last night,she said if you get pressured into makeup say no,, you will enjoy it way to much and you will let on so maybe it would be a good idea not to do this,, so I will say no on the makeup when they pressure me,, if all goes well the wife said she will pressure me into it but dont get excited,,she told me this last night as she was painting my toe nails..

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Originally Posted by crossdrezzer1

I agree,,,alot of you are reading way to much into all this,,,I dont think anyone knows and she asked me because we are close,, I will play shy at the party and think sis will want me involved so they will make up me for giggles.. I will allow it and get the nails also with shyness,,, then my master plan is to say good thing I didnt have a fashion consoltent to throw into their minds about a dress,,, its my party for my sis so I will make it as girly as I can,,,what a great opertunity to do girl stuff wityh a group of girls,,, as for coming out,,, I dont think so........

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"Shyness" could be an asset here. If you dress a bit androgenously and don't "take charge" in a macho manner, then the women there will probably forget that you are a guy and will go on with the girl stuff. You shouldn't stay out in the fringes though but just participate as you want to.

When it comes to the Wedding itself, there's tons of advice for the Maid of Honor available online. Prepare a "crash kit" in advance with stuff your sister or some of the other girls might need like tissues, hairspray, safety pins, etc.(you can find suggestions for this online too). It's your job to be helpful and supportive as your sister gets ready.

Have a wondrful time!

I think you should be immensely flattered! I am also glad to hear you are keeping your perspective and are going to make sure you do what you can to keep the night about her. If there's one night in the world that should be about a girl or woman, thats it.
I hope you do an awesome job for her and give her happy and fun memories she will keep for the rest of her life. :-)

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Originally Posted by danar

I would have to agree with this. You might consider sitting down with your sister, and talk to her about why she asked you to be her maid-of-honor; and what she expects from you. After you put her on the spot and she responds, you could tell her that it is the nicest thing that could have happened to you; and you love her for that. If she were to mention that she knew that you were a CD, then you could talk about it; other wise don't mention it as what was mentioned before, it might spoil her day.

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Ditto,
I have a feeling your family knows already, and just waiting for you to come out of your shell..this could be a little push from them, maybe, just maybe..

I mean lets get real everyone!, How many weddings have Any of you gone to that had a male as a Maid of Honor??? Tell the truth now.. And I've Never heard of a male being invited to the girls party either unless he was a stripper.. all of this is not Normal by any means.

I think it's a good opportunity to have a little girl talk with your sister right NOW, and ask her about all this, (Like Sis, Why do you want me as your Maid of Honor, I mean Really, are you trying to tell me something?) and then let HER spill the beans, if you know what I mean. wink

But even if it does come all out, I think it would be for the best not to wear a gown at the wedding, because you don't want to take anything away from HER day.

BUT,,,,,,

IF she Asked you to, then that would be a whole different story.. wouldn't that be like a dream come true? :daydreaming:

Something is up here for sure..so enjoy it if you can.& let us know either way, this could get very interesting.

Take Care,
Karen

I am not invited to the party,,, I am the one throwing it,, cant invite myself to my own home,, its my job to throw it,, I did ask if she wanted me to step away after the party was planned and decorated and when the door opened for the guest and she said no way,,your the host for my party,,,

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Ditto,
I have a feeling your family knows already, and just waiting for you to come out of your shell..this could be a little push from them, maybe, just maybe..

I mean lets get real everyone!, How many weddings have Any of you gone to that had a male as a Maid of Honor??? Tell the truth now.. And I've Never heard of a male being invited to the girls party either unless he was a stripper.. all of this is not Normal by any means.

I think it's a good opportunity to have a little girl talk with your sister right NOW, and ask her about all this, (Like Sis, Why do you want me as your Maid of Honor, I mean Really, are you trying to tell me something?) and then let HER spill the beans, if you know what I mean. wink

But even if it does come all out, I think it would be for the best not to wear a gown at the wedding, because you don't want to take anything away from HER day.

BUT,,,,,,

IF she Asked you to, then that would be a whole different story.. wouldn't that be like a dream come true? :daydreaming:

Something is up here for sure..so enjoy it if you can.& let us know either way, this could get very interesting.

Take Care,
Karen

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Originally Posted by crossdrezzer1

I have to act embarresed so I dont out myself

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I think there is many a man, non-CD, who could have fun with this opportunity. Think of it... one man in a room with dozens of women; going to clubs with them; partying with them all night! I know a lot of non-CD guys who would wear anything and submit to anything to spend an evening at a bachlorette party.

I say don't act shy or embarrassed. Just act adventurous, and open to anything. Go along with whatever they want. They'll love you more for it. Sure, you'll get teased, but let it roll off of your back and enjoy the benefits.

Wendi

I totally agree you should let your sister in that at least you think it will be fun....to dress....and you should invite someone to do outfits too...you should get an average size and let them know yours as well....you should totally go for it

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Originally Posted by crossdrezzer1

wife talked with me last night,she said if you get pressured into makeup say no,, you will enjoy it way to much and you will let on so maybe it would be a good idea not to do this,, so I will say no on the makeup when they pressure me,, if all goes well the wife said she will pressure me into it but dont get excited,,she told me this last night as she was painting my toe nails..

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Amy, you go girl & have a great time. Just let the fun flow