There're a lot of threads about passing, what it means, whether it's important to us, how to pass, whether or not we should use the word "pass" due to its implications, etc. I just haven't seen a recent thread about how you know when/if you're passing.
Msginaadoll said in a recent thread that it's hard to know when you're passing (being taken for the gender you're presenting as), and easier to know when you're not. People may say ma'am out of respect, whether or not they think you're a woman. If they call you sir, well, there's a sign you're not passing.
So, how do we differentiate between respect and being viewed as women? Or, whether the double-takes are because we're looking hot or someone's trying to read whether we're GGs? What about the manner we're communicated with?
I was out shopping for groceries (I <3 Wegmans) with my fiancee. At least one person thought I was female-- the clerk I had to convince my ID was really me when we were carded. Earlier, though, the butcher had said "what can I get you guys?" Do GGs out together get called "guys?" Prolly not.
I'm curious, what do you think are the signs or signals that you're not passing?