(I've had too much time to think lately.)
So yeah, basically I questioned whether or not I was a dude way before I questioned whether or not I was attracted to women. When I finally realized I solely liked the ladies, one of my first thoughts was, "Maybe I'm just a butch lesbian and got confused." But then immediately I tossed this thought because it seemed (and still seems) utterly ridiculous. If it really was nothing but orientation woes, there's no reason I would've have taken the larger (and arguably riskier) jump to gender rather than desire first.
For those of you that had both your gender identity and sexual orientation called into question for yourselves, just curious in what order you did it. I don't know if my situation is unique or the norm.
I'd be interested in the answers of both FtM and MtF transfolk, if the latter feels so inclined.
