i wonder if the words trip up the reality..."stealth" is just a word..."disclosure" "hiding", "lies" "deceit" ...ugh...these are all words that are used when talking about our lives....
but maybe they don't do a good job describing what is really happening..
we are born in a gender role that often ends up destroying our quality of life.....so many of us change our birth gender role and try to live a high quality of life...
but the reality is every single day of your life, it's possible as a TS that the past encroaches on your happiness and quality of life..there is no way around this...
and you just have to deal with it...
and just like it deeply matters to us, to me it makes sense that people care about the genders of their friends/lovers etc....
if a friend/lover/coworker finds out about our male past, they will usually react...and their reaction can be many things and some reactions may even be violent...it's a challenge...and once the person knows...it's forever...and once one person knows, oftentimes everybody knows...
and we just have to deal with it..
just because we feel we are in the right doesnt mean its easy to lose a lover or a job over being outed....and whether we like it or not..people's feelings are often hurt if they "find out"
those two things are tough to handle and it's a very unpredictable problem...it can be a stressful thing..we can say who cares what others think, but that's easier said than done...nobody wants to lose a friend or a lover or even a job just because of who you are..
