I have an accepting husband, who I told about my cding the first time we met. It had a bigger, more active role early in our relationship, where intrigue/fascination (on both sides) played a part. Dan, my husband, is the first male partner that I told, and I was his first partner who is cd (at least, as far as he is aware). Over the last two years (we've been together since early 2010 and got married in 2011) however, it doesn't play as much part in our relationship. This though is more down to my own need/desire to crossdress changing somewhat during this time (I rarely dress fully as a woman, instead only partly dressing, and no longer attempt to hide my masculinity when I do dress). But I do feel incredibly fortunate to have an accepting partner, and I believe that his acceptance is down to how comfortable I am with it, as well as his own open-mindedness.

I would think that the percentage of gay men who are accepting of their partner's crossdressing is similar to the percentage of straight women who are accepting of their partner's crossdressing. For the same reason - gay men and straight women want a man for a partner. Because more cd's on this site identify themselves as straight and are in heterosexual relationships, then it is only natural that we'd hear more stories about the reactions they have had (both positive and negative) when telling their female partner. An important factor, in my opinion, in being accepted, irrespective of the gender of your partner, lies in us accepting ourselves, feeling confident, not feeling embarrassed, and being totally honest. In my case, telling Dan the first time we met, before we started dating, allowed him the opportunity to make a choice about whether to be with me before any emotional attachment had developed. In short, he knew what he was getting into, and it didn't faze him one bit. If anything, me being open and truthful right from the start, was something that he admired about me, and consequently was part of what he found attractive about me.