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    For me, initially dressing was a means to arousal; after a climax, though, I did not feel any urgency to undress (unless it was very late). Lately, when I want to both be aroused and CD, I usually 'take care of business' first, so there is less of a hurry to get dressed up, and I can enjoy doing it at my own pace, and I feel like I experience the feminine transformation more fully. That's just me though, I have no judgement about anyone who dresses for arousal (I still do sometimes) or who wants to undress as soon as the 'fun' is over.

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    When I first started to dress (around 60 years ago) I used to get aroused every time. Not a problem now and has not been for many years. Just like dressing in male mode. No reaction whatsoever.

    So I would say the more that you dress the less of a problem it will become.

    Julie.

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    My crossdressing has long since progressed beyond the strictly erotic mode, in which I would lose desire to be dressed and remove my wife's clothes. But now I have my own feminine clothes which I wear for extended periods of time, during which if I get aroused, I just relieve myself and continue wearing the feminine clothes afterward.
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    Quote Originally Posted by binair10 View Post

    So I would say the more that you dress the less of a problem it will become.

    Julie.
    I agree. Lots of good answers here; we're all different of course. I too also wear for an extended period of time, usually 9-5 on days when I'm alone at home (I work mostly from home, my wife works at her office), and longer if my wife is away on business or family matters. For me being dressed actually now reduces my levels of arousal, probably because being dressed also reduces my anxiety. It has a calming effect.

    But as I pointed out earlier, it wasn't always that way.

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    Dressing for me is multi-faceted and I doubt that I'm very different from many of you. (1) It's definitely sexual. (2) It's nice to step outside of myself and be someone else for a while. (3) I find female clothing and females in general to be so much more pleasing to all senses that I want to be part of that. Females are so much more interesting and appealing than men.

    All of that being said, after "satisfaction" my need to dress subsides for a few days to a week and then it quickly moves back into the front of my mind. Since I only dress during business travel, sometimes the need to dress can boil for a while.

    I have long gotten past the self-disgust that I experienced after dressing. And I'm much better at understanding that my she-side is part of the total person. Oops - venturing off-topic and now wading around in a stream of consciousness.

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    [QUOTE=Confucius;3889803]The "need" to dress does vary before and after orgasm. This is natural and due to the effect of neurotransmitters in your brain.

    As you stimulate yourself your brain releases dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and other feel good neurotransmitters. Dopamine levels peak with orgasm and then the prolactin kicks in. Prolactin is the neurotransmitters associated with the pulling away response post orgasm. For a short period after orgasm you no longer feel the dopamine influence. Then the prolactin wears away and you are back to your old cross-dressing self. ...
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    long ago, a teenager with raging hormones-yes it was more of a sexual attraction- now years later, not having red polish on my toenails is something I'm constantly aware of when its missing...even in drab with work boots. For instance, i wish so much i could wear several gold bangle bracelets but my hands are too large- not sexually related but when i hear someone wearing that sound of the bracelets it's reassuring, comforting. Like many answers, most things related to CD are not erotic but they soothe and enliven me.

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    This was me at age 17. For me now, dressing is a grand art project and not related to this.

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    Life time single here. No sexual outlet. I used to release every time, aroused by the lady in the mirror. Now, in my 60's, not as often. but, when i do, i always quickly remove everything i had on, and wash the affected ones, and shower. Still some guilt and shame about it.
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    I recalled the first time I slipped the panty on, got so sexually aroused, I "released" instantly, then followed by a lost interest completely. This cycle of sexual excitement and anticlimax diminished as I grew older.

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    As a teenager there was a sexual component to dressing. In the 1960's love was not as "free" as the history book portray. Not everyone was a Woodstock rolling joints and rolling in the hay. Nor was there porn readily available, and, the porn there was around really was tame by today's standards. I guess one may say dressing or using women's clothing was akin to a sex aid. Usually after "experimenting" with women's clothing there was a lot of disgust and self loathing.

    As a more mature adult with a hot wife dressing with a sexual component gradually disappeared. Now? Comparing my teenage exploits with the opportunity to wear my mother's lingerie and one dress I could squeeze into with now, there is no comparison. Now, being en femme does not elicit any self loathing or disgust. I enjoy my womanly side. Self gratification while en femme? Nope! I have too much to do while en femme; laundry, ironing, vacuuming, dish washing, baking, meal preparation, etc.

    As a youth would there be an difference between wearing women's clothing or reading Playboy? I suspect whatever turns someone on or acts as a sex aid diminishes after self gratification is over.

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    One note- the orgasm response triggers the release of endorphin- endogenous morphine. The opiate response is the pleasure response. Most things that we enjoy, trigger releases of small amounts of endorphin- through cognitive function. But the hardwired response- sex/orgasm, releases larger amounts.

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    Like many here, I have had the same experience. A long time ago, I would do the post release guilt purge thing and wonder why I was such a freak. Then I started a mindset of being respectful of my special gift of exploring the other gender. Although I do find the activity arousing, it's the being in the zone that I find uber pleasurable.
    I've waited so long for this time. Makeup is so frustrating. Shaking hands and I look so old. This was a mistake.
    My new maid's outfit is cute. Sure fits tight.
    And then I step into the bedroom and in the mirror, I see a beautiful woman looking back at me.
    Smile, Honey! You look fabulous!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Confucius View Post
    This all seems to suggest to me that crossdressing is a biological condition, and not just a psychological one. Your brain is interpreting cross-dressing as actual contact with a female
    Then how do you explain gay (i.e., strictly attracted to men) and asexual crossdressers?
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    I think Pamela's reply mirrors my feelings spot on. The biggest difference is that I can dress as often as I want and am encouraged by my SO to do so. Sometimes, I wonder who she likes better!

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    Great question, interesting replies...in my case, when I was much younger, crossdressing was a total sexual rush (I had my first orgasm in my sister's clothes) and after I got off, I felt ashamed and lost the desire - for a little while. These days, dressing brings about more of a sublime type feeling of contentment, although I must confess that every so often I'll surprise myself with an unwanted orgasm, even when I'm soft and tucked - especially after a long layoff when I'm wearing something that feels really good. But I no longer feel creeped out about it, guess I've come to accept myself?

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    Initially, dressing was a means to release and then off with the clothes. As I became older it became less and less about the release and more and more about wearing the clothes. Now I just dress because I enjoy it--not specifically for release.

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    The older DSM (3 or 4) identified the behavior of a strong desire to shed women's clothes after orgasm as symptomatic of fetishism.
    Been there, done that, it no longer applies to me post therapy. Women's clothes are right for me whenever.
    But if it floats your boat, do it without regrets.

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    Sure I do what I do as dressed. I love to save it up.
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    I think I am with most here - dressing is not a sexual thing for me but an extension of who I am. Don't get me wrong I do have my fantasies about being with a guy when portraying Valerie, But the dressing is about more than the sex.

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    In my teens I would dress and get aroused and after orgasm I would change and all be back to normal.
    One day afterwards I kept the desire to look pretty and now sexual or not I love my feminine side and stay in it.

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    This is super relevant to me. I think right now I am going through the change from just a sexual thing, to something that just makes me feel good. For the longest time if I was dressed during sex, after I finished I would strip it all off. Now I still have that urge, but it is much less of a urge and more of a mild feeling of wanting to take it off. When I am dressed, I don't always get arroused, I just like to look cute and sexy, but if my wife were to say something like "Looks good on you" or something like that I know her approval would instantly turn me on.

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    in my early days of CDing, I had to exercise extreme will power to avoid reaching orgasm right after I fully dressed. I knew that once I came, I would not be in the mood to dress up for a while. A few times I was able to "force" myself to dress again after coming, but usually no.

    Fast forward many years, and the sexual arousal is still there, but I don't CD to reach orgasm anymore. I feel more at ease dressing, so I don't come (maybe the odd time). Plus, now that my wife knows about my CDing, it would be very awkward, embarrassing, and difficult to explain why Wendy's clothes smell. She is totally ok with my CDing, but reaching orgasm on my own and making a mess, that is something else.
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    The urge is very strong PRE ... POST the urge completely goes away/ For me dressing is more of a fetish than an expression of identity.

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    Well many teenage males are easily aroused and being a fetishistic transvestite led to the inevitable. I'm sure many of us can remember having erections several times a day and in some of the most embarrassing circumstances.
    Later in life we calm down as it were.

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