Quote Originally Posted by dolovewell View Post
This was the mistake I made when I started, I wanted to pass. And I'd post pics like you would online and ask if I passed and I got a bunch of "yes" answers, some may have been serious but I am guessing most just said yes to be nice. Anyway I took their word at face value and thought I passed, a couple of months went by and I'd go out and public with no problems so I thought I was passing. Then one day I got clocked and called out big time by a group of teenagers and I was crushed. It really hurt my confidence, because I thought that all this time I had been passing in public when in reality it was just people not caring and/or being nice.
Sorry that you had to experience that. But thanks for sharing your story, as a lot of people can learn from it.

To all of you, I just want to say that most people, even if they don't think you pass, will still refer to you as "ma'am" or "miss" or "lady" as a courtesy. They do it just to be nice, and to avoid confrontation. Just because people don't publicly out you, doesn't mean that you haven't been clocked. Children and teenagers are more comfortable with expressing their opinions in public, so they are the ones who are most likely to publicly say something when they clock you. But trust me, you've been clocked by many other strangers around you. You don't pass. It's almost impossible without medical intervention. So, as some of the veterans on these forums have shared, don't worry so much about passing. Instead, focus on being presentable, being happy, and being yourself. It is a much healthier approach.