Mirya, that is EXACTLY why I'm here. In the post you reference, I get the sense that person wanted support which I can understand, but also was troubled by a semantics debate which is a thing that troubles all web forums (sadly).
But I'm here for honesty. I'm getting it, and I think that's just great. Never the lese, I don't feel like anyone here is attacking me or delitimizing my questions, rather giving me the raw experiences. That's much better than some fantasy. Anyway, I am unmoved as yet. Neither for nor against. That's good, none of this would be something to rush into. Hopefully, if I do come to some sort of decision and decide to share it, the group will realize that it was done with great consideration and support my decision then.
