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Thread: CD's, do u want to BE/FEEL like a woman. Or, is simply LOOKING LIKE one enuff!?

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    Exclamation CD's, do u want to BE/FEEL like a woman. Or, is simply LOOKING LIKE one enuff!?

    For over 10 years I dealt with suddenly thinking I wanted to become a female, in private, on my own. I wished to know what being a woman felt like. It all came out of the blue in my 50's! I never even thot of wearing my girlfriend's or wive's things before then!

    My point is, I KNOW what wanting to become, and feel like a, female feels like!

    But, after coming out online here 12 years ago, I finally discovered my desire was to appear to be a pretty woman. After that discovery? My 12 years of dysphoria, confusion, inner conflict, or whatever u call it, vanished overnite! For whatever reason(s), I no longer desired to feel like, or become a female!

    I wondered if there were other CD's here that r satisfied to appear to be female? As opposed to wanting to be, and feel, like one?

    IF U HAVE ALWAYS FELT LIKE YOU'RE A FEMALE AND DO NOW? U R NOT A CD!
    And, this post is NOT addressed to u!
    Last edited by docrobbysherry; 09-07-2019 at 06:29 PM.
    U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.

    Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!

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    Hello hun,

    I started crossdressing before I even knew what sex was. I was already fascinated by the female body literally as far back as I can remember by the time I was trying on my moms clothes.

    For years I was homophobic outwardly yet when I was alone I would wear the clothing of whomever i was dating at the time. Once i started crossdressing and came out i realized i had been oppressing my own inner urges.

    At first i was content with dressing up and having sex with just females. Then i started to get flirted with by cute men. That's when i decided to try it out. Once i had actually had sex with different men I finally knew what I was.

    I am a bisexual female trapped in a male body. I'd give anything to wake up a genetic female, not a post op. I love being in the arms of a man feeling safe and wanted. I want to be treated in a sweet manner and not rough and tough like most barbaric men.

    When I dress I actually feel normal
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    I think we actually have a lot in common in this regard. I always felt like I was mentally and emotionally more female than male. Although it’s impossible to verify, through observation I came to the conclusion that I thought and felt more like a woman than a man for whatever that means. So for a while I had a very strong desire to be a woman in whatever capacity I could and thought that maybe I was headed toward transition.

    Then I discovered drag and made some friends in the community. I realized I could be the badass glamazon bitch I always wanted to be, and it scratched the itch in a way nothing else has, and the dysphoria has all but disappeared. I wouldn’t say that I no longer feel like a female, because I still absolutely do in many ways, but I don’t feel the need to express it 24-7.

    So for me in this regard it’s kind of the opposite. I have always and still do feel like a woman, but I no longer feel the NEED to appear as one. It’s much more of a controlled decision now.

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    Well, even though I didn't completely come out until earlier this year. I always was a CD. But since my teenage years I had this feminine side. Where some of my mannerisms were always girly. People used to make fun of me for it. It was normal to me. I wouldn't say I want to be a female though. I'm into it more these days cause of drag lately. But throughout the week I still CD and do makeup regularly. I wouldn't say I want to fully become female. I am happy as part time female. And comfortable as a CDer and also with my Male self. That's just me though.

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    I know that I am not and can never be female. So my goal is to be as good a facsimile of a female as I can.

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    hello.
    for me crossdressing is all about the clothes,
    luv J

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    It's questions like this that lead me to believe and eventually accept that I am TG not just CD

    As I have always felt like a woman, dressed as one or not.

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    Is unsure an answer. After attempting for years to tell myself I no longer want to wear women's clothes and dealing with the guilt and so many other emotions. I've come to the realization that I DO want to wear women's clothes and DO want to look and feel as feminine as possible. I'm really scared of these feelings but I can't deal with the exhaustion of constantly trying to tell myself no don't do that its weird. I've only told you ladies here who I am. I'm scared to lose my family but at the same time I now need to know where this is going. I do want to feel like a woman. That is why I again started dressing. Do I want to be a woman, I don't know. There are times that I would say yes and other times no.

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    I always thought that the clothes were enough. And most of the time they are, but lately I have been getting the feeling that I am in the wrong body and that my parts don't match what I should be. I should be a girl and transition seems to be the path in my future. After transition though I do believe I would be a bisexual woman as I know I want a girl, but a man from time to time to play with would be awesome.

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    Sherry,
    I feel it's something that evolves , I posted in the NB section a thread titled , " If Only !" meaning if only there was no going back to male mode simply because my dysphoria gives me problems when I have to revert to drab .

    I know some are going to jump on you for saying you know how it feels to be a woman , I guess what we should really say is all the conditions are in place to appear like a woman but we can only feel as we always feel but look very different on the outside , for me that is as close as I can get to fulfilling that ideal . If I can live a comfortable life being accepted as that I will be very happy and it is happening now . You call this the " Vanilla " world , to me it's the life I prefer to live .
    The real me ,no going back.

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    Also for me it's all about the clothes. In the past there were times I wished I were a woman but that was only to be able to wear the clothes. Feeling like a woman is an unknown but I do know the clothes make me feel great.

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    I like the clothes and MAKEUP---after all, WE are Cross DRESSERS. My original "goal" was just to SEE what I would have looked like as a real Woman. (before discovering other benefits of it too) There are others here who are more "deeply" into the "woman thing"---They Cross Dress too, but they really are not the same as us Cross Dressers. We just have not DEFINED them clearly enough----NOR have we come up with a TERM to describe them, so we call them "Cross dressers" too---- which, unfortunately only adds to the confusion in our ranks and the minds of the "unwashed public" .

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    That's a very good question...I need to carefully think about it before answering
    Wearing my fuschia bodycon dress:
    http://imgur.com/6WkdAts
    For the first time, outdoors during the day:
    http://i.imgur.com/RmjIxbY.jpg

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    I would like to have been born a woman.

    I don't know what feeling like a woman means.

    I live in the real world.

    I lived with a boyfriend for a year. During this time I was the lady of the house. There was another roommate with a five year old daughter. Can you say instant family.

    During this time we had many parties where I was the hostess. As well as having friends drop by all the time.

    This boyfriend died last year. It was about a year after I broke up with him.

    Currently I have two boyfriends, I saw one last weekend and will see the other this weekend. I have known both of them for a few years, I do like one more then the other. If he ever asks me to marry him I will not hesitate to say yes.

    I rent a room from a lady that's a bit older than me. Try renting as a TG person. Living in someone else's home, now that's acceptance.

    I have been out living as a TG person for about four years now.

    Tonight I'm going to karaoke with my BFF, a GG. Most all my friends are GGs.

    Through all of this I am just me, I just feel what I feel.

    Currently I'm stuck with the body I have. I just have to make the best of it ,as I don't really have another option.

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    Like many I started CDing before ever knowing what sex was or about. I started out as a little sister to my much older sister, then as a standin as a part time daughter for my Mom. Then years of hating myself for being bi and to prove to myself I was a man. I was raised in a macho family and have always been in macho jobs, then almost 30 years ago ( after 2 divorces) I met my current wife ( I had her read my journal the night we met) and she accepted me unconditionally. I have learned to accept me as me. I will never pass in public, don't really want to go out and love being as feminine as I can, and enjoy the clothing for the clothing. Realistically I am a man in womens clothing and happy.

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    It seem the closer I get to looking like a woman, the more I feel like one and want to be one. The look comes first.
    "You're the only one to see the changes you take yourself through", Stevie Wonder

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    I have to answer as the question was asked. I am a cross dresser. I am not a woman 'trapped' in the body of a male. I do not hate my male self. I cannot explain to anyone why I desire to emulate a woman on occasion. That is different than telling someone how I feel wearing women's clothing.

    Since I am not a woman by virtue of my male equipment and raised as a boy, I have no idea how a woman feels. If you think you do not feel like a male that does not automatically means you know what you're feeling is what a woman feels. Isn't part of being a male or female the nurturing a person experiences? Or the effects society's customs and norms and expectations have exerted upon you?

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    I was born male. I have always been male. I Think I would enjoy the experience of being a teenage girl for one day just to be able to play with the clothes and makeup, but would not want to do it for more than one day. I am happy as a male, but I enjoy occasionally looking like a female.

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    We all know about the "woman trapped in a man's body". I have a slight twist on that cliche. I am a woman who, for various reasons, voluntarily accepted to wear a man's body for this lifetime. In so doing, I learned a lot of life lessons that are best learned from a man's perspective. And, for the rest of my life, I will fulfil all the male responsibilities i have to my family. But I can't keep an airtight lid on my awareness that, despite all the indignities and abuses heaped on by the patriarchy, it's better to be a woman, and I miss it. So I dress, and do the best job I can as a MIAD.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Teresa View Post
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    I know some are going to jump on you for saying you know how it feels to be a woman , I guess what we should really say is all the conditions are in place to appear like a woman but we can only feel as we always feel but look very different on the outside , for me that is as close as I can get to fulfilling that ideal-------------------- .
    I believe u misread my post, Teresa. Something I commonly do and get in trouble for it here!

    What I said was, "I WANTED to know what being a woman felt like." Not that I ever have or could!

    For those that think u do or have? I'm envious!

    Because in the end, whether it's self delusion or accurate isn't really important to those experiencing it, is it? U r what u believe u r!
    U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.

    Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!

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    I began on this road when I was about 5.
    People always think this is about sex or a sexual urge. I know for a fact that for me it is not.
    As a child I wanted desperately to be a girl. I would fall asleep at night wishing I would awaken a girl. It never happened. Since then I've tried to balance this part of me with everything else in my life and I think I've done a fair job. Still that nagging in my head remains. I don't know IF I feel like a woman because as you said I cannot ever really know that.
    Yes, I am CD, but every day I queston that as well. I feel it is so much more, but how much I can't say. Only time will tell.
    Can you see the REAL Me?

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    Sherry,
    Sorry I did miss that .

    I guess you could turn this round and see it from a F/M TG , what does it feel like to be a man ? Maybe we are the lucky ones being TG we possibly have a greater range of feelings .

    I agree the bottom line is we are what we are , all individuals with our own feelings !
    The real me ,no going back.

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    It is enough for me to wear their clothes and express my femininity. I have no desire to be a woman, or even fully look like one. I accept that I have a male body, with both masculine and feminine interests and a love for feminine clothes. When I dress it is about the clothes and jewerly, I no longer augment my body for a more feminine body (such as fake boobs in the past), and no makeup (because I don't like it). So I don't see a female in the mirror, I see my body in clothes I like. And that is good enough for me

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    Quote Originally Posted by Teresa View Post
    Sherry,
    Sorry I did miss that .

    I guess you could turn this round and see it from a F/M TG , what does it feel like to be a man ? Maybe we are the lucky ones being TG we possibly have a greater range of feelings .

    I agree the bottom line is we are what we are , all individuals with our own feelings !
    It doesn't matter, Teresa. Either no one read, or cares, what my OP is about! They all have their own personal experience or take on dressing to relate!
    U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.

    Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!

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    Interesting subject. And too bad some didn't care to fully read your original post.
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