Trust works both ways though. My wife never trusted that I wouldn't transition. I might not have felt the need to if she was willing to work out a compromise, but she wasn't. It was always zero tolerance. And because of that I couldn't trust *her* with opening up to her with my desire to be a woman, even if only part time. Healthy dialogue needed to figure out a workable compromise became impossible. Can you trust someone who is ready to bite your head off anytime the subject comes up?
When it became clear that compromise was impossible, I figured I had little left to lose, so I chose to start transition and HRT. And of course she blames it all on me.
