How many?

[emmabeautiful]

One person knows, my girlfriend.

I told her fairly early on after dropping a few hints and she's been great.

We're having a lot of fun with it together.

[CCole]

Inspired by a number of recent threads I'm interested to know... how many on here do share their crossdressing with their wife/partner/SO?

If your SO knows, did she know from the outset? If she did, what sort of age bracket do you fall into?

Do you have fun with the shared knowledge, ie shared dressing up times, talking about clothes and transgenderism in general? Have you read the same books on the subject and talked about them?

If you've decided to 'tell' your SO during your time together, have you regretted it? What are the good and bad bits about your CDing being out between you?

For those who've been 'caught' did your relationship survive?

I'm also interested to know roughly how many - and what age - of those who don't want to share their CDing with their partners (for whatever reason) and are perfectly happy with their own status quo?

I was 24 when I met my future wife. In my earlier years I had spent some time on a CD forum and heard from people that wanted to tell their SO but were worried about their reaction or just told them and it hurt the relationship so I decided to tell her from the start of the relationship. She was okay with it after talking about it with some of her really good friends (mine now as well and they are all okay with it! ) and now she thinks it is weird when I don't wear panties!

She can't even imagine me in "regular" (her words lol) underwear.

[Satrana]

What I mean by women not dressing for other women, is when they wear the types of clothes that are designed as bait.

Well there are some women who dress that way as de facto but for sure the majority don't except perhaps for a time during their teenage years when there is competition to be the most noticed by boys.

I think perhaps you are mis-reading what others are meaning when they say women dress for other women. This is not about sexual attraction but noting women care about the opinions of their female friends and want to fit into their social circle. A part of the decision when you choose clothes is who is going to see you that day wearing that outfit. Securing peer approval is a subconscious process however men's opinions (excluding your SO) are essentially irrelevant since it is only women who will be commenting.

If they wear clothes that send a message, they need to understand that they are appealing to the guys who are attracted to the women who wear these types of clothes.

I am sure they know all to well but don't care since their experience is temporary only and when they change back to drab clothes they stop being that person so the consequences are not real. There is a real disconnect taking place - in the real world they are men, in their virtual fantasy world they are women. These are two distinct experiences and they see no reason why there should be any overlap. But to the external observer like an SO there is only the real world experience.

[Dena]

for my part, when I see my SO dressed in ways that I dress in order to attract and appeal to HIM/HER, I wonder, who is she really dressing for. My SO maintains that women dress sexily in order to feel good about themselves.

I'd say he is dressing for himself (especially if this is in private).

I think most crossdressers dress for themselves, I do. I like getting dressed up in silk dresses and satin gowns. Outfits not suitable for everyday wear.

[geri-tg.]

I went very slowly but it has turned out to be the best thing I have ever done. WE are so in love and share even our clothes.

[ReineD]

I'd say he is dressing for himself (especially if this is in private).

Yes Dena, she does say she dresses for herself, although she rarely dresses in private any more. She goes out frequently. But being a GG and understanding many GG types, I know that women who do dress to feature certain or all body parts generally tend to be more aware of the male population than those who don't.

I guess the comparison just can't be made between GGs and CDs in terms of dressing motives.

[juno]

I have been married 26 years. I really started cross-dressing after we were married, and she knows everything. I have always had a strong feminine side, which my wife likes. Early on, I wore silky underwear designed for men (e.g. male-stripper style), that graduated to women's underwear, and eventually to full crossdressing. She has a degree in Sociology, which is probably a big help in understanding human diversity.

She doesn't really like crossdressing, yet often has fun sharing tips on things like makeup and clothes. Her biggest concern is what other people will think. If it was socially acceptable to the general public, she would probably have a lot more fun with it.

I think the strategy of slowly revealing crossdressing might work well for others. Let your SO get used to the idea of wearing panties to bed before discussing the whole crossdressing thing.

[Kathryn Martin]

Inspired by a number of recent threads I'm interested to know... how many on here do share their crossdressing with their wife/partner/SO?

If your SO knows, did she know from the outset? If she did, what sort of age bracket do you fall into?

Do you have fun with the shared knowledge, ie shared dressing up times, talking about clothes and transgenderism in general? Have you read the same books on the subject and talked about them?

If you've decided to 'tell' your SO during your time together, have you regretted it? What are the good and bad bits about your CDing being out between you?

For those who've been 'caught' did your relationship survive?

I'm also interested to know roughly how many - and what age - of those who don't want to share their CDing with their partners (for whatever reason) and are perfectly happy with their own status quo?

My SO Elizabeth has always known me as I am but the dressing was discussed before it occurred. I have never regretted it and we are in fluid state of finding our way and the boundaries. She is extremely supportive and helps where she can.

I am 54 and she is 48.

Yes we do within reason. We like reading the same magazines and she has been with me on every shopping trip we have been on. She marvels at my courage and I marvel at hers. She will walk with me hand in hand when I am dressed (and I do not pass).

[CalamityJane]

Hello Sarah,

Well I was honest and upfront with my SO from the get go as I did not want to embark on a relationship without getting this important aspect of my life out in the open and understood, and I am very lucky that she is accepting of my crossdressing.

She has read some books on the subject to help her gain a deeper insight of that aspect of my life and so understands my motivations.

Finally we fit in the 4o's age bracket, and have been together for nine years.

Kind regards
Calamity Jane.