How to be the CD that women are attracted to.

[Bev06 GG]

Very nice Janessa,
Thanks ladies for your kind comments but as many of you have said a positive attitude works wonders in every walk of your life. I had to do a talk a couple of weeks at a School Inspectors Convention and tell them about my job and what it was that I did for a living. By the time I'd finished several of them said that I had made my job sound really exciting and something that if they didn't already have a career, theyde certainly be interested in giving mine a go.

Maybe thats another school of thought when someone asks you why you CD. Tell them all the positive and exciting things that you get to do over and above a regular guy. Make it sound as exciting as it can be if you let go of your inhibitions. I started my talk with the Words "I am so proud of what I do and who I work for" and I said it with conviction. Maybe instead of running for cover when someone talks about your CDing its time to say much the same and make it sound like an attractive alternative lifestyle. Dont immediately assume that theyre going to be condeming of your chosen lifestyle, they may well be, but imagine if they were actually interested and you made it sound so wonderful that they wondered what they were missing out on. Enthusiasm is very catching and there is something very attractive about someone who has a very positive attitude to life.
A few years ago I was at a party with some friends when one guy started to talk about his hobby. I feared the worst because it was Fishing, something that I cannot for the life of me muster up any interest or ehthusiasm whatsoever. However, by the time this guy had finished telling us all about it I wanted to go and give it ago. Needless to say I did do and decided that yes my first thoughts were correct, fishing was definitely not for me. But hey, how did he manage to convince me that it was worth giving a go, Enthusiasm. Ok he didn't turn me into an enthusiast myself but he motivated me to give it ago and almost convinced me that it was exciting. Beleive me that was a miracle in itself.
Take care and have a lovely positive day
Bev
PS Andrea I take your point but wanting to feel safe in an uncertain world isn't a weak feminine kind of feeling. Its wanting that certainty of someone dependable to face life with. Giving you stability, companionship, trust, acceptance, unconditional love and everything else that goes with it. Not all GGs are timid wall flowers, but most appreciate a strong loving dependable partner to help them face anything that life has to throw their way.