Interesting posts, Bev, but you're setting a lot of us up for a fall. To quote Dave DeAngelo, attraction isn't a choice. People either feel it or they don't. And if there's something that turns us off about a person, nothing in the world is going to change that. I don't know a lot of guys (alright, I don't know any) who are turned on by a woman in a man's haircut, wearing a mustache, a man's suit, underwear and shoes, wearing Brut or Old Spice aftershave, doing her best to emulate a male in every mannerism she can. Unfortunately for us, that same problem holds true for most women when they look at us. I'm not saying there aren't women out there that may be interested in us; but no amount of confidence is going to automatically turn the other 99% around. There are plenty of confident a$$holes out there too, that aren't attractive to anyone either. Confidence is good, yes, but it's only one part of a many pieced puzzle.