I've seen this term thrown around a lot - 'not sexual'. Im not really sure What you girls mean by it. It's definitely sexual for me to a certain extent and I really don't understand how dressing can't be - it's an extension of our sexuality in a certain sense and there's to denying that. I mean the main thought coursing through my head when I dress is that this makes me feel so much more aware of my sexuality and my sensual senses are just so much more elevated. How can something so erotic as dressing not be sexual. Please don't misunderstand me - I'm simply stating my perspective.


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As usual, Reine hits the nail on the head. I agree with everything she said except "let her know it's not sexual". Unless I missed something, we don't know that it's not sexual. Since the crossdressing cat is out of the bag, it's time to lay it all out, and if it's sexual, tell her so.
My wife knows that my dressing drive has a strong sexual component to it, and I think it's somewhat a relief to her, rather than her thinking that I have a feminine identity and want to be a woman (I don't). Also, some couples might use the sexual aspect to enhance bedroom activities, although it seems unlikely in this case.