My take on this is that if she's unhappy and unaccepting now, she will never truly come around in the way that you want her to. She may learn to keep her concerns to herself, however she will always resent that part of you. It will chip away at you marriage until there is nothing left to salvage.
If she doesn't truly understand things now, she never will.
Sorry to be a downer. It's just my opinion given my life experience.
