Yep it was me..

[suchacutie]

Ok, I'll take a crack at this. First of all, SweetPea, I have found nothing the least bit offensive in any of the posts of yours that I have ever read. I found the "anonymous" post rather stimulating, frankly. Then again, I don't get bent out of shape easily!

I will give you my take on the issue of maturity or the lack thereof: When Tina first appeared to my wife and me, Tina was a complete novice. She knew nothing at all about being a girl, and what she thought she knew was wrong. My wife and I started to attemp to understand the lack of knowledge of "all things feminine" and we discovered that our experiences growing up, being socialized as a boy vs a girl were strikingly different. One discussion we had focussed on when girls "experiment" with different aspects of what they are expected to "know or be" when they mature into women. This discussion included topics like makeup, clothes, shoes, lingerie, and then moved into topics about psychology and other expectations/desires. At that point she said, "in that framework, Tina is about 3 years old" (btw, she now thinks Tina is well into adolescence!) So, what would a three-year old be into? Those wonder-girl panties you mentioned would be appropriate, maybe the beginning of earrings and jewelry? Soon thereafter a fascination with nail polish and some aspects of makeup, etc.

So, I really do believe that you have observed correctly that those here who have accepted their feminine selves the longest appear to act more maturely because they have gone through the "growing up" process that every child goes through. We M2F transgenderds mostly were socialized as boys, and to transition to our mature feminine selves we seem to have to go through the whole growing-up process as girls. It surely happens faster as adults, but it seems we have to gain that experience, and especially have to "talk it out". I posted in that "what color are your panties" thread soon after I got here, but then I just moved on.

Lastly, thank you for being here. Asking why we do anything, whether we ask ourselves or others ask us, is an important part of the development of our feminine selves. I hope that your SO will come to that understanding soon.

best
tina