Unsure of where to go now....

[Bree-asaurus]

Ouch. Way to stick up for fellow transgenders by calling them ******** and way to run me down even more by implying that I'm a ***** and want sex for money. I come asking for help and get put down. Thanks. :/

I want to keep it because I'm broke, and I don't like surgery. I have a fear of sharp objects and don't want to run the risk of something going wrong. Maybe my fears will be eased as I learn more and maybe you're right in saying I'm not TS. It's still not going to affect my decision either way as I've already crossed the point of no return and am moving forward, but doing so with extreme caution from this point on. Hence why instead of just dialing up the nearest quack to sign me off, I posted here first looking for some resources in hopes you girls had some that I couldn't find.

I agree Julia, I will never understand the whole 'Im more woman/transsexual than you' mebtality. I was under the impression that this community was here to build each other upand give solid advice. If you don't think I'm TS fine, but no need to run me down when I was trying to be completely honest and wrote straight from my heart.

If you want a more detailed story of how I came to this conclusion, by all means p.m. me. But I think I have the right to request courtesy since I give it. :'(

Well, isn't it kind of the definition of being transexual that your gender does not match your sex? Your penis is a HUGE part of your sex. Do you wish you were born with a vagina? Or do you actually like your penis? That's the important part. I didn't even touch mine until I was 21 because I got a girlfriend who was gonna want to use it... I thought it was gross ever since I was a little kid.

If you actually get SRS does not mean anything, but the desire to have the proper parts means a lot.

It's understandable that you may not have the money right now, or you may be afraid of surgeries... but these are things that can change. I'm horribly afraid of surgery. I even get panic attacks on occasion when injecting my hormones. But that hasn't stopped me yet and it's not going to stop me from getting surgery when I can afford it.

Live your life as who you are. No one is telling you not to. But it sounds like you're still working out who you really are. There's no need to label yourself yet. Just find out what you have to do to live your life and the labels will fall into place.

And there isn't a "I'm more transexual than you are" mentality... because you're either transexual or you're not. There's no in-between. If you don't totally identify with the sex opposite of yours, than you're not transexual. You could be transgendered, and there is a very wide spectrum of transgendered people. Being entirely cis-gendered is on one end and being transexual is on the other. You could be 90% female and 10% male or whatever (not like we could actually figure out those numbers), but that makes you transgender, not transexual.

Anyway, as I said, it doesn't matter what you are. What matters is that you find out who you are and can be that person comfortably. And your feelings change as you grow and learn who you are. What you thought you felt one day could have been a product of your past repression or ignorance and you can feel different about who you are the next. A small example: as I said I was disgusted by my penis for a looong time and I just assumed that was normal. Then as I grew up I learned things and became more honest with myself and realized that... wait, it's not normal for a guy to hate his penis... something else is going on here!

who cares if jessica is TS or not? none of us know her. only she can know if she is really TS. her, and her therapist. i do support that she see somebody, in the case of my college, i see a top tier shrink for free.( the school pays) she isnt a gender therapist, but she has got the job done for the past two terms, and is now helping me with gender as much as she can. we all know you can't do things Like HRT without a letter anyway, so if she isn't TS , she won't get to transition. she will be weeded out. it's a waste of time to get worked up and make any kind of assessment on jessica period, and dumb to do so, because we are not qualified and don't know her. in the long run she won't affect our lives, so why even bother wasting our time telling her shes not?

Kate is merely helping educate her on what a transexual is...

Kate, I will take the advice of a trained therapist before I say yes or no. I agree with the others here on that and perhaps I misused the word transsexual. Transgendered would probably be better suited, but I still don't believe it's anyone's place except a licensed therapist to tell me I'm not.

The interesting thing here is that the point of this thread was not the 'am I or not?', but for additional resources that a regular search on google could not yield. The best recommendation here is to get a therapist and I agree. I will begin looking for one ASAP.

I'll save everyone the trouble and label myself as late for dinner since fewer people will get upset with me using that. Lol

I take offense to that label!!! :P

Oh and therapy++ :D