Well Kitty I will tell you this. When I worked for the state doing HIV prevention targeting the trans population I was in contact with countless trans people. That of course includes CDs. From my observations I had a lot of the CDs talk to me in confidence about thier desires. Of course they wont talk turkey around the wife! I can say that a shocking number of them were wanting to transition but the one big common factor ALWAYS came into play. Marriage. They did not want to loose thier marriage!

Now of course these were CDs that had enough confidence to at least go into the public to some degree. I would suggest that thats a pretty small percentage of the CDs because I suspect the overwelming majority hide in thier houses ONLY. Of course the ones with a bit of confidence get a taste of womanhood and the wheels start turning.

Add to it the insidious word they like to use incorrectly, ACCEPTANCE. See if they have not gained any acceptance then they tend to hide and never express themselves but if they gain some sort of acceptance (in thier words) the clock starts ticking to wanting to transition. Why do I call acceptance insidious? Well because they incorrectly add to word participatory to it. Meaning they want thier wives to be actively participatory of thier activities.







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You know I could be but............. Why do so many cd's hate their male self? Why dress the male disrespectfully with out of date jeans, T-shirts, sportswear or anything that takes no effort at all but dress the feme self elaborately? This to me suggests a disrespect for the male self. If maleness was embraced equally there would be the same effort in the variety and quality of the male clothing? Infinate variety exists in the mens section, It is no secret I have shopped there. To me that makes no sense and also leads partners and family members of cd's to question their true identity. Most cds actions don't match their words. If my husband could have equally embraced his male self with the cd part time? I could have hung in there (well maybe not without a lot of medication, he was more than trans) but it never stays parttime. You read it here time and time again. In fact it seems rare that a cd can actually gain balance between the fem and male self. To me that is confusing evidence that crossdressing is just a transition to the realization that the truth is more transexual than anything.