Quote Originally Posted by becky77 View Post
2) I don't understand Gender fluid or inbetweener.
Marcelle was the first person to make me believe Gender fluid was possible and then she says actually she is TS. I honestly don't know if it's possible to be two different genders/personalities or if that person is just in denial or deluded? Bit like Bipolar? If that's the case then surely it's a pretty unpleasant way to live?

As for inbetweener how come all those claiming to be in the middle are not more Androgynous? Wouldn't androgynous be the true inbetweener?
If you are in the middle what do you want? To be treated as gender neutral or just to be able to dress girly when you like?

I only ask to learn more.
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I identify as bisexual and transgender. Fortunately the degree of dysphoria that I have is not enough to warrant transitioning. As I said recently in another thread, I do not believe that I have a male and a female persona. Depending upon how I choose to present, some thoughts and characteristics may bubble to the surface and others recede a bit. I went through very little of the common shame and guilt that many others talk about. I've never purged or even thought about it. The first time I dressed I was somewhat nervous about being seen by someone I know, but once I got over that, I could see that I had tapped into something that seemed very comfortable and that there was no need to resist as it didn't feel like foreign territory.

Eventually what I realized is that this feminine part has always been with me. Now that I have claimed this missing part of my identify, it does seem to be stable. So, as far as I can tell, I don't anticipate any significant changes.

For me, androgyny doesn't have much meaning. It would only represent external trappings and doesn't connect with me on a personal basis. I don't identify as androgynous, so why should I dress in that mode? On the other hand, do wear pink and variations and I wear fleece socks, many of which are described as women's by color and pattern.

I do not identify as gender fluid. You mention bipolar, but I don't think that is a good analogy. Bipolar seems to suggest two specific conditions; either/or. Fluid suggests change, so that would indicate a number of possible variations and not just two. In other words, there's male and female and many points between the two.

DeeAnn