Am I still trans female if I still visit my parents (or grandparents) "crossdressed" as a boy when I see them to avoid telling them?
When you run into some of the 'you have to be exactly this way' gatekeeping even on sites about crossdressing it's absolutely understandable why someone might "crossdress" when dealing with certain people.
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.