It shouldn't matter, but...
First of all, we are not gay. If we were to roll ourselves into the gay community, we would be doing us and them a disservice. We will not be accepted until people understand who we are.
Secondly, why compromise? I happen to think it's important that we have a division. If we promote gay-ness about ourselves, it is not accurate. Most of us are not, and we need to be clear about our situation for personal growth. You can't grow with misinformation.
