If they can't accept you and your wife then they are the kinda friends you both can do with out.
Don't feel so bad yes she will have been having a bad time with it but she's still there with you. Both of you should live you lives as you want to and sod the rest, if they really care about you will come round.When we were speaking about it at dinner tonight, and it was all I could do to keep from crying, she told me "I know it makes you happy and I don't wont ask you to stop, but it hasn't been good for me."
Wow, I feel pretty much like the lowest thing on the planet right now