I would take it all, the PMS and all, I embrace all the it is to be female, I would take the good (and there is a lot) with the negative....I would do it in a second
I would take it all, the PMS and all, I embrace all the it is to be female, I would take the good (and there is a lot) with the negative....I would do it in a second
No. What I see them go through on a daily basis and how they get hounded by guys and made to feel like dogs at times.................. "Hell NO!" I'll stick to my dressing as time allows. :2c:
wow, great thread.
as someone who only started really living my feelings in the last couple of years, i am trying to figure out where i am really. i can identitfy with many of the posts. i know i am soft and only comfortable when i am dressed en femme and expressing my true personality as a girl/woman. i also know i wouldn't trade my children, grandchildren, etc. for anything. i know that it took me forty of my fifty years to even be able to voice my feelings. i am lucky to have a mate and great gg friends to help... i hope a couple of my old male pals can handle it. BUT i must say, if lived in todays world and knew at a young age what i know about myself now, i would transition.
so to all of us who have made it work for so many years and found so much love in spite of what we went through, in spite of having to live every day with so much effort and travail- god bless us all.
Your question is simply "would you really want to be a woman". At this time in my life, I would not want to become a woman.
That said, I will say that looking back over the whole picture, I do honestly feel that I would have been more comfortable in this life had I been born female.
It's not all sacrifice, hard work, etc... I know lots of women who enjoy rockclimbing, backpacking, having a beer, and many of them are better at it than I am. I think I would have made a great woman, thats all.
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and without giving it a second thought. Wish I did it sooner.
I love to dress, I love to do my makeup and wigs, I love to go out in public.... but only when I choose to, or have the urge. I would have to force myself into an unnatural action if I tried to transition and HAD to live as a woman 24/7 for a full year. I couldn't do it. I go through mood swings as it is and I hate having to force myself to do something when I'm not up for it.
Lets play devils advocate here and look at the other side of the coin.Say that:
You are born a girl , grow up expecting to be popular, beautiful. feminine, and a models body, BUT what if that didn't happen and you were born a woman (which is what you wished for) BUT grew up to be ugly, no one asked you out, unpopular, unfeminine, fat and frumpy with greasy hair and a bad completion with bad teeth.
Would you still want to be THAT woman you wanted to be born as?
I don't think so. We as transvestites think the whole feminine world as we know it and perceive it thru rose colored glasses is all hunky Dorey, but what if the opposite were true and you had no control over how you turned "out" as a genetic woman.
Disappointed, no you would have never known any other way and maybe yearned to be born a handsome guy and switch the miserable female life and body you were born into into that guy. A case of double role reversal.
Life always seems better on the other side, until we've reached it.
Something to think about.
There was a time, a few years back when my wife passed away, when I would have said very defininetly YES! However, that was then and this is now. My answer now would be a definite NO! For that, I thank with all my heart, my beloved GGF in Scotland! She convinced me to stay the man I was born and not to have SRS, which I was considering. I was very depressed, and felt lost without my wife.
I was born a man, but I long ago realized that I did like to dress as a woman. Purely to satisfy myself, not to attract men or for any sexual reason. Just because I like pretty clothes and the way feminine clothing fits me. I am 5 foot 10 inches, but small boned and not very heavy in the weight department. Size 16 fits me perfectly in most cases, as though it had been made for me.
When my wife was alive she always did my makeup and wig, so that I could easily pass. Now that she is gone, I do not try to pass since I am not very good with either makeup or my wig. However, I still go out in public dressed in feminine outfits very often. I believe that I am the epitome of a crossdresser, "one who wears the clothing of the opposite sex for the enjoyment of doing so." So, yes I love to dress up like a woman, but underneath the satin and lace I am still a Man and proud of it!
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Even with all that comes with it, I would want to be. I wish I had been from birth. When I see boy drab in the mirror, I feel that fate played a cruel game on me.
Without even giving it a second thought. I was four years old when I told a nieghbor lady I wanted to be a girl, nothing has changed. It is a struggle to keep from transitioning, but if I had a choise in the matter; with out question, all the good and bad.
I would have wanted to be female for many reasons, one they are much more emotional than we are. thats a good and bad thing.but when we let our emotions go were better off, life is all about emotions, from birth to death.My emtions tell me that id be a better woman than a man. i had no choice being born with the wrong acurements. but... (theres that big ole but) that doesnt stop me from being the best i can be as a person no matter what i choose to wear that day.
Hunni, you look beautifulOriginally Posted by TaylorAB
When I see boy drab in the mirror, I feel that fate played a cruel game on me.
Why yes, what a nice idea!
If I could change, yes I would. And now for the but, the however, the considerations.... For many of us, the inner secretive wish to be a woman is deeply resident in our minds. Knowing that, for most of us, transitioning would produce only a facsimile of a woman, I could not deal with the difficulties and social disturbances that would cause for myself, my family, my friends and potential friends. I believe that it would be an extremely selfish act for me to undertake.
Further, I have lived nearly a whole "life" as a male, and know how to do that, rather well, I add. I do not believe that I could, in my remaining years, learn a whole new culture, literally a whole new social language - and - as a facsimile would face not only continuing social difficulties but also physical unknowns as the result of the surgeries.
A coward, choosing to run away from the conflict, yet to live another day; am I. But I get to dabble and to play with the womanly delights that cause me to be enlivened, delighted, and invigorated. Ummm, ummm good!
And I would guess that is why I am on the cross dresser website rather than writing for or hanging out with the transexual folks. Or, imagine this; reading recipies, makup tips, and love notions on Martha Stewart's website
Wheeeee, Rickie
PS: And I agree with Teresa jeen that "I would have been a better woman than a man."
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Sometimes I really want to be a woman, but then I think about all the effort, and most of all the risks associated with it, like not finding a job or not finding respect, that I end up conforming to this way of life. I know it sucks to be dressed only at home, but it's the best way some of us can cope with it.
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I really wanted to be a girl up until I reached puberty. Once I realized what my "thingy" was good for, I didn't want to give it up. So, now I'm certainly not a woman and hardly a man nor am I anything in between. I'm a freak, a weirdo, an individual.Life is good!
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Another great topic by you salandra . Woman or not , man or not?? well each as there own ticks and crosses .Fortunatly for us we can experiance a little of the other but without actually physically being a woman i cant comment .Yesterday a GG friend of mine who knows i cd said to me its great being a woman , but she is completly crazy LOL
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[SIZE="3"]Yes Salandra,
As the years go by, I have realized that in fact that is exactly what I have always wanted to be. It is not , without a doubt just about glamour and glitter. Its is not about the clothes, the jewels the shoes etc that is all window dressing. a way to express yourself. It is about caring for others and hard work. It is also about being able to feel, to feel deeply emotionaly. being vunerable and being strong. I have always thought that men are the weaker sex. That being said I doubt wether I will ever transition. I Love my wife and she wants her man and I can be that for her. She accepts me as I am and that is a wonderful thing. Thanks for your thought provoking posts!!
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Megan made a good point - what if you were an ugly woman - how would you feel? What if you were a girl - but you didn't look as good as you do now?
Having said that I still would prefer to be a woman. I don't believe for a moment it would be fun all the way, but it would be worth it I think.
Its odd but 20 years ago I would have said 'no' - but the older I get the more I feel I want this.....
I agree with Teresa Amina in that even given the opportunity I would not be a "typical" woman. For me being a woman is all about adventure and that is MY fantasy. No white picket fence, dog and cat or 3 1/2 kids for this gal. Being an adventuress who makes a difference is where it is at for me. On the other side of the coin, I had my family and a good life as my guy self and did my best as a husband and father and thoroughly enjoyed doing that even though it was partly an act with respect to who I was deeply inside.
Because of the way things worked out, however, after I came "out" and began exploring my feelings, I lost my family because they could not deal with the changes in me. Whichever way things go, I want my remaining years to be productive ones, so it seems I'm at a sort of crossroad right now. 2008 will be a "year of change" for me in many ways as it will be for the rest of the world and anything can happen really. Thank you all for your very profound answers and comments. You've given me much to consider.
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Hi Sal, deep question, but well worth answering. The answer is easy for me. NO WAY!Not in this life. I'm a guy, and a crossdresser, that's it. I've been a guy for 43 years, It's all I know. I enjoy doing guy stuff and being a guy. Sure I've fantasized about what it would be like to be a woman (most of us do) , and yes, it is is appealing to me, but it's just a fantasy. I'm not going to act on it. I have a real life, being a guy, a husband, a friend to many, a son to my mother, and I plan to finish this life as such.
I've never considered being born male as bearing a cross. I'm fine with it. I'll just continue to enjoy the life I have now as a crossdresser. ...and yes, if you remember the reincarnation thread, I did say in my next life I'd like to be born female. Why not experience the other side of the fence next time 'round. But right now I'm busy enough keeping up with all the responsibilities and expectations on the side of the fence I'm currently standing on. I do have to say my grass is quite green right here!
GO RED SOX!!!:yippee:
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Hardly a problem for just women :2c:
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May be something happened to me during the great "hormone wash" (that is when we are babies during the trimesters as fetus cos am convinced that my desire for CDing is beyond psychological it has to be biological cos i dont think psychological desires can have such strength on me) or what ever they call it, i think my desire to immitate women doesnt stop at wearing their cloths am not happy with being rough or untidy or aggressive like a typical guy all i want is to be timid/gentle or neat or passive as per letting things go sometimes, .........in the end if you have such attitudes i just mensioned pple (men) will see you as being a bit weak and unfit for the man's world (what ever that is), so i choose to be soft, gentle, kind, smooth............to the point of desiring to have female body and attitude cos i find them more mature, i want to have the power to have babies
sometimes i find babies crying exciting and sweet.
Am not sure whether i'll have i better deal in life if i was a woman. My desire is to be a young woman- then a middle aged woman-then an old woman i want to have grand children as a woman i want to loose my hair due to old age as a woman i want to see how my breasts will age and sag as a woman i want to reach a stage where men wont find me attractive as a woman i want to die as woman.
Am not interested in gay men i want straight men whole'll love me as a woman (to adopt a child and so on, and raise a family).
But on the other hand i'll miss being a man cos it was fun and am kind of a role model for most men.
I was reading recently where they for the first time was able to successfully transplate a womb and overaies from one GG to another. The GG that recieve them not only did not have any rejection, but started having her period.
I got thinking, if a post-op TS had this transplant, she would then be as close as possible to a real GG. She would have periods, PMS, and all that goes with it. She might even be able to get pregnat. LOL
At least, the kind I fantasize about having as a girlfriend. I often refer to Sherry in the third person, because that's how I think of her. So, I am my own fantasy girlfriend at present! Young, hot, ****ty, and she never nags or complains! Sherry is the perfect woman for Robert rite now!
No, I wouldn't change ANYTHING about my life, for the time being. Certainly not my sex! That would ruin the whole fantasy arrangement I've developed!
RS
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
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