So many born as men are raise to fear being attracted to the same sex. Homophobia is drilled into us. We are not supposed to share intimacy with anyone who does not have a uterus. Becasue of that we have such big hangups about sexuality. We also see the gay community as an extreme. we see it as a forced expression of taste and choice more than a natural progression toward not being uptight little missionary children.

My best friend and I started talking about these topics, she is attracted to gay men and was wondering about the hangups people have over what is feminine and what is masculine. She always gets tagged as sir and has learned to just brush it off.

One thing lead to another and we got to talking about if I could ever find a man attractive.

My thoughts are I could easily fall in love with a man just as I could a woman. I have no sexual desire for a man however but if it happened I would love and enjoy it all the same. I just do not see the restrictions we have as valid. Oh do not get me wrong, I was raised very strict and still have a guilty feeling in the pit of my stomach about sexuality (curse you bible thumpers!).

What I seem to be trying to get to is that the feminine culture is so very less uptight about intimacy while the masculine is all about repression. Of course it also seems more women get offended by transwomen than men do. It always gets me when a woman gets freaked out that a man like to feel like a woman too.

I think there is also the whole stigma that so many of use carry baggage that is easily interpreted or even misinterpreted as why we do what we do.

we try and run around categorizing and justifying our "conditions" instead of just accepting it and not making a big deal out of it. Too bad so many not of the like mind get so bent out of shape that we are deceiving them that they hate us simply because we exist. And here is where I stop my soap box.

Love to all my sisters and brothers here