Quote Originally Posted by Alex-is View Post
I dont tell my friends about it because Im afraid it would change their perception of me and my hopeful-profession (Im a religion Major right now hoping to go to seminary). I dont want to toot my own horn, but because of my major, my opinion carries some weight when my friends ask me advice (I wish this wernt the case). I dont want to loose that respect. I dont want to be "that guy".

I dont tell my gf for similar reasons, times 10.

My parents, Its kinda weird. Im sure that they know. I told my mom a few years ago, but i think she thought that it ended. Anyway, they were painting my room, and moved the box where I kept the two dresses I owned out into the family room, and Id be surprised if they didnt see them. I got rid of them, but Im 99% sure it was too late. Anyway, they dont treat me any different, but I feel like its a giant elephant in the room now. So im more afraid to bring it up, I dont know what theyd say, and Im more afraid of the 1% doctrine holding true, and them not knowing about it.
Now this was what I was really getting at. While reading some posts certain key words kept popping up. Things that just seemed on the edge of "I don't want to lose their respect" but seemed so rarely, if at all, ever said outright.

I think at times, its harder to admit that we fear losing the "image" other people hold of us because of things we do in private.