The truth lies somewhere in the middle (between gay bars and lez bars). This is unfortunate for us because it meas we don't really fit in either place. Don't give up entirely. There are some gay people who like us as well as some lesbians that like us. We are just not what the majority in either place is looking for.
All hope is not lost. You can still go to either place and have a great time. You might need to sell you self at first (not literaly). The right attitude is a must. You can easily gain enough acceptance to feel comfortable. Don't expect to go home with anyone. It may happen but the odds are against you. Go to have fun. See where it leads.
Hugs - Genifer
