Have you Fallen In Love Here?

[Littlej10]

There is a closeness from being what we are that transcends casual acquaintance. In general we have the advantage of only reacting when we wish and to control how we appear. I take little or nop account of appearance here except to derive pleasure from the happiness that is expressed in many of the photographs. There are some minds I relate too more readily than others, nothing unusual in that, but I find I have a much more emotional tie to people here than in other "clubs" both real and net based.

[deja true]

I'm very grateful for all the responses so far. I'm learning something and hope others are, too.

But I must share this with you. I knew that many would be too shy, too embarrassed to post here about love. That's okay, the question is as much about thinking about the subject as actually getting you to admit to anything. Only 25 posts. but over 550 viewers. That's good. Thanks!

I've fallen in love here, and whether my heart is broken or not, it matters not at all. I've had a unique experience that teaches me something about life and love itself.

Many of the shy ones PMed me directly with stories sad and stories glorious. I guess I've become a confessor to a few. I don't mind. What they've told me makes me, a person who looked for love for a long time, a better person myself.

I'll tell no one's story here, even though a few asked me to. Our private lives are already spread thin here and trust in each other is one of the few tangible things we have.

And love, of course, and love...

Thank you girls, women, men, boys, all!

You know I always mean it when I say,

respect & love,

deja



Tam, If a whispering voice from the heavens saying "I love you" is an epiphany, then yeah, I had one of those!

[Stargirl]

Some things transcend flesh, and keyboards. "Connecting" needn't take physical form. Simply being understood, and respected by a relative stranger can mean more than a lifetime with an "in the flesh" relative who was cold, and distant. We all have dreams and expectations in love matters, and we do fantasize. In that respect, we find out a lot about our capacity to love another person, even if it should turn out to be an illusory, fleeting thing. But oh, it can feel so good. And we learn not to give up hope. I feel a great deal of love and respect for many of my friends here. You have expanded my consciousness, and compassion.

[Nicki B]

There is a closeness from being what we are that transcends casual acquaintance. In general we have the advantage of only reacting when we wish and to control how we appear. I take little or nop account of appearance here except to derive pleasure from the happiness that is expressed in many of the photographs. There are some minds I relate too more readily than others, nothing unusual in that, but I find I have a much more emotional tie to people here than in other "clubs" both real and net based.

Shared adversity always makes strong bonds? And you can know a lot about someone who posts a great deal - their character does show, even if they try to hide it? The strange part comes when you meet someone you've known online for the first time - the only thing you don't know is how they look and sound?

Whereas normally we judge people so much on how they look and sound, when we first meet them?

I knew that many would be too shy, too embarrassed to post here about love.

I'm always wary of talking about love? Those who've really experienced it, know... But for those who haven't, it seems like bragging - and it's so difficult to explain?


But deja, the secret's out now, isn't it? You've fallen in love with... Tam.

[jessielee]

Some things transcend flesh, and keyboards. "Connecting" needn't take physical form. Simply being understood, and respected can mean more than a lifetime ...we learn not to give up hope. ...You have expanded my consciousness, and compassion.

thank you, and bless you.
i concur with all my heart. we are moonstuff, harvesting the solar wind...
sparkling intensely,
transcendently,
iridescently,
humbly,
jessie

[Stormgirl]

Yes and she bretrayed me and cheated on me, so ever since then I have become emotional unavailable. I have intimacy problems now,I don't like being hugged,touched or kissed. The only physical contact I will intitiate is a handshake.

FOrgive my atrocious spelling,I can't be assed to correct it right now.

[deja true]

FOrgive my atrocious spelling,I can't be assed to correct it right now.

Jenny, despite your bad spelling, we love you anyway, you wretched creature.

You're one of a kind and we know that deep inside there's a pussycat struggling to get out.

kisses for you, dearest,

deja


Pssst, girls! That oughta p*ss her off!

[kim85]

I met my current partner online on a socail chat site. We became friends at that point i was in a relationship with my ex we were going through a tough time and eventully we both decided to split we werent happy. Me and my friend started texting and talking on the phone as i lost the internet. Very quickly we were on the phone everynight for a least 2 hours. After about 6 months of this i invited him to spend new year with me as he use to live where i did and thought it would be good for him to see his old friends and for me to finally meet him.
As this point i had fallen for him i wouldnt say i loved him but i had strong feelings for him. But as soon as i met him i knew that i wanted to be with him then on new news eve we got together and i knew that i loved him. Now ive moved over 240 miles to be with him we have been together 1 year and 4 months.

Now while this is a happy story not all internet relationships are like this so i would advise caution as i would with meeting some ramdon person in a nite club
Kim
xxx

[melissacd]

Some more questions to add fuel to the fire:

I realize that these are impossible questions to answer and to some extent are rhetorical but what the heck, I will ask them anyway...

How do you know, after a very long term relationship, if/when you are ready to fall in love?

How do you know that you have found the right one?

Should you fall in love again?

Is it better, being a cross dresser, to be alone?

After a long term relationship ends, do the scars ever heal, when does the pain end?

Why is it that we make so many mistakes when we are trying to find love? Is it worth it?

Huggs
Melissa

[Maria2004]

Unrequited love is an awesome engine of creativity.